I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The operative here being ",..but, my girlfriend bought her own lingerie". Never buy a woman lingerie, she will never be happy with it. A woman has to do this on her own to feel sexy, make sure it fits her right, and it's HER IDEA. When you buy it for her it's contrived and it is overt and overt is the kiss of death for a man.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Are you talking about myspace?
negative
how did that work out?
Women see some humor in that phrase. It worked well with the women I already talked to.
sometimes thats not true.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
good save.
Reminds me of a married woman on another website, who was in a ten year long marriage with a sailor and who, after ten years, wanted a divorce. She said she could no longer have sex with a guy she just "wasn't in love with" anymore. The woman claimed she couldn't stand the marriage any longer and couldn't imagine what she might end up doing (cheating) if she remained married. Her husband classically responded: "You can sleep with other guys if you want."