Valentines day + What to do after i get her?

[Crazy Asian]

ok i got 2 questions.

1) after i gain all this confidence/state of mind/masculine/acting as if i'm the prize/doing what i feel like doing...... and actually get a girl, do i continue this or do i start being really nice to her? like after i started to date a girl, do i still talk to her as if i'm the prize to be won and act really masculine, or do i start acting really nice to her like a "nice guy"?

2) there's this girl that i like and i dunno if she likes me back ...... lol thats a classic line

but for valentines day i wanna give her something that wont make it TOO obvious that i like her, but still hint it.......u know.... somethign to make her wonder about if i like her or not... any suggestions?

 

[Crazy Asian]

oh btw i'm 15 and a sophmore if that changes anything

plus i'm AZN!!!

 

[The Shocker]

This is what so many guys here and out there in the world don't understand. Being a DJ is not an act. It's not something you do temporarily or when you want to lay chicks. Being a DJ IS A WAY OF LIFE. You shouldn't even consider changing what you want to become, just because you're in a relationship, simply because IT SHOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE to change who you are UNLESS YOU WANT TO.

Being a DJ is not a game to play to win chicks over and then you cut the "bullshiat" and be yourself. No. That's not the way it works. Being a true DJ is working extremely hard to improve yourself to the point where you ARE a confident, strong, slightly ****y, funny, independent, fun MAN. At the end of your improvement you will be a completely different person than how you started. But the great thing is you're still unique, you're not a carbon copy of other DJs or any other guys on here. You are YOURSELF:Improved.

Hope this inspires.



P.S. Don't do the Valentine's Day thing unless you actually want to spend money on a chick you don't even know likes you. What I'd do is wait a couple weeks after and then ask her out nice and casual. No big deal. Sure, somebody might pull your idea and she might not be available. But it's what I'd do. My two cents. I feel if you are so hung up on this girl that you can't risk losing her, then you should stay away for fear of oneitis.

 

[Crazy Asian]

ok i get wut ur saying, and i do want to work really hard on becoming a more outgoing person.

but theres on thing i've been wondering :
say ur a average looking guy and you go up to a girl and you start talking to her and u have a nice little convo. but if you were a really good looking guy SHE would be the one that's into you and she would probably be alot more interested.

now i know that i'm BELOW average looking, and when i start to talk to a girl i feel like because of my looks they're not even listening to wut i have to say and it'll be impossible for them to think of me sexually...... HeLp?

 

[Crazy Asian]

oh and with the girl that i like thing. i know that she sorta likes me and would probably go out with me if i asked but theres one thing holding me back. this other guy. she is so much more interested in him than me and i know that even if she did go out with me, she'd jump at the chance to go out with him. i fear that she'll be constantly thinking of him while we're dating.

plus every morning she flirts with him at the begining of school while i sit with some other friends....... if we started going out..... wouldn't it be a wierd change for her to stop flirting with the other guy? .....cause i know that she'll have more fun with the other guy.

 

[Lust]

ok i got 2 questions.

1) after i gain all this confidence/state of mind/masculine/acting as if i'm the prize/doing what i feel like doing...... and actually get a girl, do i continue this or do i start being really nice to her? like after i started to date a girl, do i still talk to her as if i'm the prize to be won and act really masculine, or do i start acting really nice to her like a "nice guy"?

2) there's this girl that i like and i dunno if she likes me back ...... lol thats a classic line

but for valentines day i wanna give her something that wont make it TOO obvious that i like her, but still hint it.......u know.... somethign to make her wonder about if i like her or not... any suggestions?

I'm also 15, and asian.

First off, you are over thinking. Just give her an extra big hug for Valentines Day, it's what i would do.

Also, you keep up with the alphaness, Nice Guys finish last, no matter where they are at with a girl.

AFCs make the mistake of thinking that once a girl is interested, you can relax and not worry about attracting her.

You don't have to worry about attracting her anymore, but you must worry about keeping her attracted.

Being a "Nice Guy" after all the alphaness is not the right idea.

 

[Berlex]

one of these: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1dmVU08zVpA

 

[penkitten]

anything you give her will show you like her on valentines.

 

[Crazy Asian]

ok but wut advice do u guys have for me askking the girl out?

 

[Mjazz]

Dude you gotta relax man, ive only read the posts and I can tell much about you. Just relax, do some more research on these forums and stop thinking so lowly and talking down to yourself. If you think your a loser, then you are. Your gonna probably need to start making the moves now so youll have some initial attraction on valentines day, and forget about the other guy hes probably just a douchebag.

 

[Crazy Asian]

and forget about the other guy hes probably just a douchebag.

actually, he's our class president, captain of the soccer team, the fastest runner i know, the fantasy of every girl in the school, and currently banging the girl i had oneitis on.

so thats how that turned out if anyone wanted to know.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Wow, a couple of asian 15 year olds here. I'm also asian, just 3 years older than some of you guys.

The Shocker said it perfectly. DJ is a way of life and should be who you are. With that said, regarding Valentines day, you should do something to get her deeply interested in you a week or two before Valentines day, and when Valentines day rolls up, you should actually NOT get her anything. If you do, make sure it's nothing too expensive. Then, after you got her interest and a couple weeks have passed, get her something semi expensive when she totally doesn't expect it.

 

[comic_relief]

So, how are you actually doing?

comic_relief

 

[Crazy Asian]

well this turned out like this:

The guy i was talking about got the girl. Now i have very little sexual feelings for this girl. She is one of my best friends. And it could have been better if i actually got with her..... but looking at myself right now, i think i got more good than bad out of the situation, and i'm not complaining.

ps. it was sort of a joke bumping this thread at first cause i thought it'd be like WTF valentines in august? But i realized how things are different now from before.