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Valentine's Day Date w/ Stranger

CORVETTE06

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Ok i know this is weird, but i met this girl on myspace. We've been talking for a few weeks and she seems cool.

She is now my valentines date and we have plans for thursday.

She lives in an area i am unfamiliar with, so I don't know any places where I can take her to eat. There is one GREAT restaurant that I love, but it is German food. I dont know if she will like that cuz some people don't like that kind of food. (she is polish)

Also, since I am unfamiliar with the area, I don't know where to take her after dinner. I was thinking of a movie (dinners and movies are what im comfortable with, and i have success with them - i know dinners and movies are against the "rules")

So my three questions are:

- Where should I take her to eat
- What should I do after dinner
- What SHOULD i give her (for v-day).. i was thinking just 1 red rose (and tthen dinner/movie)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she seems cool.
is that your only one qualification for a (valentine) date ?

Where should I take her to eat
don't go on dinner date especially with a stranger and above all on valentine"s day !
That's ok with a LTR but hell not with a stranger !

- What should I do after dinner
f*k her ! ;-)

- What SHOULD i give her (for v-day).. i was thinking just 1 red rose (and tthen dinner/movie)
you can write her a cheque as well...seriously, you already want to give her a v-day present? You dont even know her ! (chating on internet is not knowing someone) !

STOP THAT AFC CRAP AND SPIN MORE PLATE !
All these things won't you get laid !

cheers
 

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Why isn't she taking you out?
 

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CORVETTE06 said:
She lives in an area i am unfamiliar with, so I don't know any places where I can take her to eat.
Look it up...google earth, mapquest...cmon man.

CORVETTE06 said:
There is one GREAT restaurant that I love, but it is German food. I dont know if she will like that cuz some people don't like that kind of food. (she is polish)
Take her to chain restaurant, nothing too fancy ok? Y'know fridays, outback, $hit like that. I recommend a game of pool/bowling before hand tho, its cheaper and if you don't like her or she doesn't like you, you don't waste a thousand dollars on a meal. Ditch then.

CORVETTE06 said:
Also, since I am unfamiliar with the area, I don't know where to take her after dinner. I was thinking of a movie
Worst idea ever...you want to have an action date, you want to get to know her, you want the focus on you two, not on a movie that all it does is drain your pocket $20 and before you know it she wants to go home and you don't get a kiss cause she never got to know you CAUSE YOUR STUCK IN SOME LAME MOVIE FOR TWO HOURS. You go on those dates when your in a relationship...........NOT A FIRST DATE.

CORVETTE06 said:
- What SHOULD i give her (for v-day).. i was thinking just 1 red rose (and tthen dinner/movie)
You sound like the lamest date in history. Don't give her anything but a maybe a cheap free game of pool and let her pay her way at dinner. Screw the conception that cause its V-day you have to do all this crap for a complete stranger. You look like a NICE GUY...and you will be dumped most likely.

FYI i have women paying their way, and usually buying me a cup of coffee on the first date. If not more.

And please go here........http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

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She lives in an area you're unfamiliar with?? Dude, please don't tell me you're driving long distance to take a chick that you've never even met out for dinner AND buying her a gift. On Valentine's day.

I hate to say it but this has failure written all over it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CORVETTE06

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nah its not far away, about 25 minutes

its just that i never really leave my town that much lol. i wanna do things ive never done before and get more experience.

i decided im just going to get her one rose. (no teddy bears or anything)
ill take her out to eat and then - - - idk im still figuring the rest out --i guess ill play it by ear and see how the night is going.


like i said, i know its weird that im taking a stranger out for valentines day...
but i am spinnin plates, i got dates before and after her lined up.
 
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