"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Valentines day break up

Tr9n

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I've been dating my girlfriend about 10 months. About 2 months ago, she started to become slightly controlling, and she has ramped it up since then, especially in the last 3-4 weeks. She is also becoming angry, and a find myself not talking much to avoid her anger, and then she gets mad at me for not talking! It's ridiculous! She also used to worship me, but now its like she hates me and I'm awful and she's pulling away. But then randomly she'll go back to worshiping me and get really clingy on top of it.

I realized today that shes not going to turn back into who she was before, because she has shown her true colors and this is who she is. I need to break up with her, but its really near valentines day. What should I do? She says she's so excited for v-day and got me a nice gift, and its obvious she expects one too.

Should I break up tomorrow, or on v-day, or right after? Or should I wait a few weeks? And if I should break up in a few weeks, should I get a present, or no? :rock:

Thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you're really going to break up, why wait? Just do it.
 

Cinamon

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Realistically, you should have done it when you knew it werent going to work. Dont put it off, just tell her.
 

BananaSmile

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do it on valentines day :D its gonna be epic (only if u hate her but)
I mean if it was me id doing on vday(unless shes phyco)
you can also cheat on her and wait till her bday and break up with her (evil)
 

Kailex

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Who cares what day it is on Sunday?

I swear if I see another "Because it's Valentine's Day" post related to ANYTHING, whether it's dating, asking someone out, or breaking up, I'm going to make unicorns an extinct species.

It just sounds to me that you are hovering right now just to see what the "nice gift" is. And if you girlfriend has been more controlling as of late, it's because YOU have allowed her to do so, and being quiet did NOT help that at all. You are a man, you were supposed to put your foot down and say: HEY, STOP THIS.

But no, you just sat by idly and let her take control... not for a few hours, few days, weeks, but for MONTHS now?

If you don't want to be with her anymore, DON'T WAIT. No gift is worth hanging around a little bit longer.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ENIGMA16

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There is no good time to break up with someone.

You're just making excuses. Do it.
 

squirrels

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So you're asking us if you should make personal life decisions based on the sales schedule of the Hallmark corporation?
 

Alle_Gory

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So did you break up with her? Or did you realize that the Hallmark Corporation is more important to you?
 
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