"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Valentines day break up

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I've been dating my girlfriend about 10 months. About 2 months ago, she started to become slightly controlling, and she has ramped it up since then, especially in the last 3-4 weeks. She is also becoming angry, and a find myself not talking much to avoid her anger, and then she gets mad at me for not talking! It's ridiculous! She also used to worship me, but now its like she hates me and I'm awful and she's pulling away. But then randomly she'll go back to worshiping me and get really clingy on top of it.

I realized today that shes not going to turn back into who she was before, because she has shown her true colors and this is who she is. I need to break up with her, but its really near valentines day. What should I do? She says she's so excited for v-day and got me a nice gift, and its obvious she expects one too.

Should I break up tomorrow, or on v-day, or right after? Or should I wait a few weeks? And if I should break up in a few weeks, should I get a present, or no? :rock:

Thanks!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you're really going to break up, why wait? Just do it.
 

Cinamon

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Realistically, you should have done it when you knew it werent going to work. Dont put it off, just tell her.
 

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do it on valentines day :D its gonna be epic (only if u hate her but)
I mean if it was me id doing on vday(unless shes phyco)
you can also cheat on her and wait till her bday and break up with her (evil)
 

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Who cares what day it is on Sunday?

I swear if I see another "Because it's Valentine's Day" post related to ANYTHING, whether it's dating, asking someone out, or breaking up, I'm going to make unicorns an extinct species.

It just sounds to me that you are hovering right now just to see what the "nice gift" is. And if you girlfriend has been more controlling as of late, it's because YOU have allowed her to do so, and being quiet did NOT help that at all. You are a man, you were supposed to put your foot down and say: HEY, STOP THIS.

But no, you just sat by idly and let her take control... not for a few hours, few days, weeks, but for MONTHS now?

If you don't want to be with her anymore, DON'T WAIT. No gift is worth hanging around a little bit longer.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ENIGMA16

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There is no good time to break up with someone.

You're just making excuses. Do it.
 

squirrels

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So you're asking us if you should make personal life decisions based on the sales schedule of the Hallmark corporation?
 

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So did you break up with her? Or did you realize that the Hallmark Corporation is more important to you?
 
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