Well it looks like its going to be another lonely Valentines day for me. I am 27 and have NEVER spent a single Valentines day with a significant other. Hmm, maybe thats because i almost never have a significant other to begin with. The thing is, i cant figure out why. I'm attractive, in shape, well educated and intelligent, secure job, nice place, nice car, I'm interested in many cool things, and I'm a complete sweetheart. But still I cant seem to figure out how to get un-single. I'm really shy and get nervous talking to girls that i'm attracted to, so that's a big part of it. Cute girls often act interested in me, but they always have boyfriends, and I'm not really the type who tries to wedge myself between a girl and her boyfriend. Besides, most of the time that I show interest in someone, they immediately let me know that they are not available and they keep me at arms length. It seems like everyone where i live already has someone...I feel like I'm the only person left standing during a game of musical chairs. Then there are times when i come across someone who is single that i'm attracted to and they just plain arent interested in me. I dont even know where im going with this, and yes i realize how pathetic it is spilling my guts on this forum, but i just wish someone could tell me what i'm doing wrong, so that maybe one of these years i'll have a V-day that actually means something.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Valentines Blues
- Thread starter BryanM
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
seductionman
New Member
Dude, check out this book, it will help you: http://www.seductiondirectory.net/hsm
You problem goes beyond not having a GF this Valentines Day. Your problem is with your inner game. Only by fixing that and becoming a high status male can you get over your Valentines Blues.
You problem goes beyond not having a GF this Valentines Day. Your problem is with your inner game. Only by fixing that and becoming a high status male can you get over your Valentines Blues.
It's a game and you'll have to learn how to play it. The number one thing you can do is develop some self-confidence that won't vanish once you meet a single, attractive girl. Start reading through the DJ Bible. I recommend going through the 6 week guide to reading the dj bible thing so you're not overwhelmed by information. You've come to the right place for help. There are many, many people on this board who have really done their research and followed it up in the field with great success. Ignore the negative people!
Anyway, glad to have you here.
DJ Bible can be found here: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Anyway, glad to have you here.
DJ Bible can be found here: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
il_duce
Master Don Juan
1) Who gives a ****, it's valentine's day. It's a ****ing corporate holiday.
2) Read the DJ bible.
2) Read the DJ bible.
Guerrero
Don Juan
Exactly what I was going to refer Dingus. Yeah man, you're not the only one who's been feeling down because v-day's coming up and you aien't got no love interest. I've been posting since early morning today and I totally forgot that v-day is tommorow. I'm going to start week one of the DJ Bootcamp tommorow, not because it's valentines day but because I want to. But since it's v-day, this is perfect; don't think it's just guys that feel lonely on this day too, girls feel the same way. If I play my cards right, I can get some magic to happen tommorow night 
. So my advice for you man is to do the same S**t several of us are doing. Just do it! Don't question it! Even if it's saying hi, when you get a response from a girl, you'll feel much better. Read this man, read only the first 2 weeks. Walden's been where we're going, he's inspiration for our asses.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30105
. So my advice for you man is to do the same S**t several of us are doing. Just do it! Don't question it! Even if it's saying hi, when you get a response from a girl, you'll feel much better. Read this man, read only the first 2 weeks. Walden's been where we're going, he's inspiration for our asses.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30105
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bryan welcome to the website that will change your life. It changed mine.
This website is the best kept secret out there.... keep it to yourself.
Welcome aboard.. and for your first task... read the DJ Bible and then read it again.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
This website is the best kept secret out there.... keep it to yourself.
Welcome aboard.. and for your first task... read the DJ Bible and then read it again.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Dapper Swindler
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I read the first sentence of this post and could tell this must be your first time here. And it looks like I'm right. Everyone's first post here looks the same, mine included. I'm not even going to read your whole post because I think I know what your deal is. Just stick around here and read the DJ Bible and it will all start to make sense.
Hey BryanM
You told a story the same as mine 5 years ago. yeah you did. So like you I am 27 now. So am gonna give you some points that works for me.
1. The approach
2. Getting the contacts
3. Asking for a Date
4. The actual date
And this happens with your approach is backed up with an attitude. First, I was attracted, then I learned how to attract her.
So how to do that? I suggest you read the DJ bible. The transition is there.
First become a hoper, then a try-not, then the fixer, then you'll become the Alpha Man you are. So read the DJ bible now and apply what you learned. Time is running and you need to do something.
before it was really difficult, keep on practicing and you'll go far.
Good Luck.
You told a story the same as mine 5 years ago. yeah you did. So like you I am 27 now. So am gonna give you some points that works for me.
1. The approach
2. Getting the contacts
3. Asking for a Date
4. The actual date
And this happens with your approach is backed up with an attitude. First, I was attracted, then I learned how to attract her.
So how to do that? I suggest you read the DJ bible. The transition is there.
First become a hoper, then a try-not, then the fixer, then you'll become the Alpha Man you are. So read the DJ bible now and apply what you learned. Time is running and you need to do something.
before it was really difficult, keep on practicing and you'll go far.
Good Luck.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
I share the same attributes, and here is what i have found thru my experience in terms of girls that are interested or disinterested in me. Only go for type 3. You'll save yourself alot of time and frustration, though these girls are hard to come by. The types below are relative to self-esteem which determines everyones self-worth.
1) Little or no self-worth. Sleeps around all the time, and does drugs. Typically referred to as Crack ho.
She will not go for you. If she did, it would only be to use you. She does not feel worthy.
2) Some self-worth. Has major insecurities. She is often an AW and has short-term relationships with flaming pretty-boy idiots.
She will not go for you. If she did, it would only be to boost her ego and it wouldn't be long at all, as she has alot of admirers.
3) Good self-worth. Little or minor insecurities. She is often taken a commited in a relationship. If she feels she can do better, she will if and when the right guy comes along.
She will go for you.
She will go for you, but you have to show signs of interest too. Keep in mind this type (the best type), usually have a boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she is going to marry the guy, or has any plans to whatsoever. Feel the situation out.
1) Little or no self-worth. Sleeps around all the time, and does drugs. Typically referred to as Crack ho.
She will not go for you. If she did, it would only be to use you. She does not feel worthy.
2) Some self-worth. Has major insecurities. She is often an AW and has short-term relationships with flaming pretty-boy idiots.
She will not go for you. If she did, it would only be to boost her ego and it wouldn't be long at all, as she has alot of admirers.
3) Good self-worth. Little or minor insecurities. She is often taken a commited in a relationship. If she feels she can do better, she will if and when the right guy comes along.
She will go for you.
She will go for you, but you have to show signs of interest too. Keep in mind this type (the best type), usually have a boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she is going to marry the guy, or has any plans to whatsoever. Feel the situation out.