"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Valentine’s day Gifts

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Would like to hear everyone’s stance on this? do you buy gifts for plates or official GF’s & wives ??

The reason I ask is because one of My main plates has been working very hard to please me lately and she’s had the best behaviour I have seen in a woman in a long time

I know women go a bit crazy around this time of year and like to be showered in affection and gifts, as not to be left out

I have told her that officially she is not my girlfriend yet and its way too early for us to spend a lot of money on each other she accepted this

But Wondering if I Should I get her something small as a token gesture as she has been so well behaved lately
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Take her out. Gifts can be thrown away or lost. Memories can't.
 

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Token gestures are the way to go. If you want to take her out, everything is cheaper and less crowded if you don't go out on the 14th, but instead go on one of the surrounding days. Restaurants often hike up their prices on v-day.
 

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Agreed with TMK. Take her out and show your affection through physical acts rather than materialistic items. If you live in a warmer climate and there are flowers flourishing, maybe pick one for her. Hell, go to Home Depot's garden section and pluck one. Put it in her hair or something
 

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Uh-oh.. its almost annual "how pussiewhipped are you?" day again. What is a pussiewhipped man to do? So much pressure.

Get her a Victoria Secret gift card. If she is not hot enough to shop there, then don't get her anything. She isn't going anywhere. Like others said.. just give her your time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Last night, with Valentine's day only 8 days away, after 4 months of dating, my dream girl told me she loves me for the first time. I'm still skipping Valentine's day.

I choose to take them out sometime around that day, but to completely avoid mentioning that holiday at all. The 13th is a great night to take them out. Then at midnight you can randomly say - oh, hey! It's Valentine's Day!
 

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think i will probably just customise a card on-line for her and get a cheap bottle of prosecco nothing fancy but enough to avoid the whole

"you didnt get me anything for valentines so surely don't care about me "
 

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I was at the store today picking up some junk food and there was a 2 dollar lollipop that said I'm a sucker for you so I picked it up. GF gets lonely when I'm not around so I will buy a 10 dollar teddy bear and put a few sprays of my cologne on it and she can sleep with it when I'm not around. I'll probably pick up and card and say a couple inside joke things that will illicit some positive emotions. 3 little items for under 20 bucks.
 

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My gf isn't getting a fvcking thing for Valentine's day. That's because our 1 year is on the 15th :D

If she wants some flowers, I'll go dumpster diving behind a flower shop
Its hard to buy a gift for a woman on V-day without feeling like a complete tool.

What holiday out there peer pressures women to do things for the men in their lives? Even fathers day is not taken that seriously and most women shrug it off. These b*tches think they are levitating over us or something. Not on my watch.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I was at the store today picking up some junk food and there was a 2 dollar lollipop that said I'm a sucker for you so I picked it up. GF gets lonely when I'm not around so I will buy a 10 dollar teddy bear and put a few sprays of my cologne on it and she can sleep with it when I'm not around. I'll probably pick up and card and say a couple inside joke things that will illicit some positive emotions. 3 little items for under 20 bucks.
Cheap and personal beats expensive and cliché every time.

I worked in restaurants before and on Valentine's Day, you could clearly see the couples sitting there with their one main course and soft drink each, silent, staring around the room at other people, just going through the motions. Pathetic really.
 
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