Vagrant's DJ Boot Camp

[vagrant]

I have seen enough. I know exactly where I'm going to be 50 years from now if I don't pull myself together. Old and full of regrets. Sosuave is full of great knowledge about life, but it helps me so little just knowing them without actually applying them into my life. The thread I made weeks ago wasn't helping me. It had no direction and no dead line. So, I've decided to start and complete the DJ Boot Camp.

I've been an AFC for most of my life. It's not fun at all. It's hell and a lot of us know that. This is it. This is the only way to reprogram myself and become a DJ. Tune in, because this is going to be something. It's like a random dude who doesn't know how to skateboard, attempting to ollie down a set of stairs. It's going to be scary and painful, but I will do it. I can't wait to get to the end of the tunnel and see the light and be free.

Week #1 Developing / Conveying Confidence.

Assignment: Establish eye contact. Say hi to 50 strangers.

Day 1 September 25, 2009.

I just finished reading the 7 articles. This week should be easy, because after discovering this site, it really allowed me to get to the next level. I'm way passed this, but AFC or MDJ, we can't skip any exercises.

Vagrant!~

 

[Von_S]

Join Date: Oct 2006

Posts: 418

What have you been doing here for the last 3 years?

 

[vagrant]

What have you been doing here for the last 3 years?

I was in a very good relationship for almost 4 years. Never mind what happened. =p

 

[vagrant]

I couldn't keep count on how many people I've said hi to, but it was definitely way past ten. I have six days to go.

Three years ago, saying hi to 50 different people would seem very daunting to me, but now it's just part of my everyday life.

Anyhow, I had great responses from a lot of people. I know not everyone's going to love me, or will I ever get lots of interest from girl, but I sure do feel like I'm starting to be more charismatic.

Hate me or love me, I'm happy, and I love myself. :yes:

Vagrant!~

 

[IOS]

I'm going to be starting the boot camp as well, and I'll be starting my own thread as well. However, I read in the DJ Bible that it is recommended that you start on a Thursday. Don't mean to hijack your thread Vagrant, but can someone else let me know if its a big deal that I start on a Monday?

 

[vagrant]

I'm going to be starting the boot camp as well, and I'll be starting my own thread as well. However, I read in the DJ Bible that it is recommended that you start on a Thursday. Don't mean to hijack your thread Vagrant, but can someone else let me know if its a big deal that I start on a Monday?

It's alright IOS. It doesn't matter when you start. A week is a week in my eyes. I started Friday, so I got 7 days to get things done.

 

[vagrant]

I worked today and yesterday so most work was done in the hospital. I did go to barnes and noble and one super market to say hi to strangers. Again, I couldn't keep count, but I'm sure it was way over fifteen.

Looks like I'll be done with this assignment earlier than expected.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 1: Day 4

I still had to work today, so mostly I say hi to people in the hospital where I work. It's cool though, because everyday you see different faces. I believe I said hi to about 20 people including 3 customers from outside of Starbucks where I was studying for an exam.

I'm only getting started and I'm already learning so much. Before I started the boot camp I was this guy who didn't talk to anybody, didn't look anybody in the eyes, and just plain boring, without any energy or something. But, now everyone sees me saying hi to people, smiling, and having conversations with strangers and I can tell my positive energy is being felt by a lot of people.

The highlight of the day though would be when I opened up a conversation with one of our kitchen staff and a female doctor. Me and the guy from the kitchen see each other a lot, but we never talk and I feel great breaking the ice between the two of us today. All I did was ask him when his day off and boom it just started flowing.

About the female doctor. As she was walking down the hallway we kind of glanced at each other, so I said hi to her. We were talking while walking and we came across to one of the nurses station where a lot of the cute nurses usually are and I could see some of them smiling as if saying "wow".

I'm proud that I'm getting better each day and that I'm starting to be able to hold my own with just about anyone and making them feel good and myself after the conversation. I'm slowly leaning how to truly be myself in front of anybody which I want when I'm talking to any girl or anyone.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 1: Day 5

I was off today from work but I did have school. We had a test today so all I did was study the whole day. After that I went home and tried to fix my car. I bought two new racing seats which took me all day. Not fix yet.

Anyways, that was my day. I said hi to about 3 to 5 people. I did go to the mall after school, I remember, ate some pretzels, went to zumiez to check out some shoes. I tried my luck but it seems like most people in the mall are not in the mood to start any conversations. I tried to make eye contact with almost everyone but no one responded.

I'm still off tomorrow, and I plan on going to my favorite eating spot down town. Tomorrow is day 6 for me so I'll try to say hi to as many people as I can. After that, one more day and I believe it's conversation time. It's getting tougher and exciting. My pride will be tested in these 8 weeks.

but ugh!..Gotta get better!

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 1: Day 6

I said hi to 6 people today. Tomorrow's my last day. I need to at least say hi to 10 more people.

Major blow. I stumbled upon this girl from my old school today at Walmart. We haven't seen each other for months, but last time we saw each other she even gave me a hug. Today she was with the boyfriend. She said hey to me and I said "hey what are you doing here?". The boyfriend was behind her pushing a cart and she just kept walking completely ignoring me. The whole time I was just woooow. I couldn't believe it. One of the most awkward moment I've been in. I felt like a loser for a minute especially remembering how my ex already left me for another guy.

I was thinking I wouldn't like it myself, if my girlfriend out of nowhere would hug a good looking guy in front of me. Then while driving I had to stop myself to think and just thought f*ck it. So, I went and stop at another store and completed my day saying hi to 2 more people.

I gotta keep going! I gotta get better!

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 1: Day 7

Saying hi to people is definitely easy in the hospital. I was in a good mood. I tried to keep count but my memory wouldn't let me. I lost count after 10 but I'm sure I said hi close to 20 people. I talked to a lot of new people. No wonder all the jobs I had were boring. I wasn't conversing with people! Now I'm having so much more fun at work, actually anywhere but school. I don't know why. I guess it's because we have a teacher who won't tolerate people having conversations during his class. I can't talk to the chicks. Well I have to admit, I do p*ssy out when there's a chance.

Week 1 is done. I thought I'd be finish before I even hit the last day. Turns out I was struggling to even make 50 during the last day. I did pretty well. I do always forget that I'm doing the boot camp at times during the beginning though. Now, I really know this a real deal. Week 1 was awesome and I'm slowly but surely leaving my old somewhat boring life.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 1

Week 1 is finally over, now we move on to Week 2. I've read all the articles and I'm ready to start.

The deal for Week 2 is to have a conversation with 10 different strangers lasting at least 2 to 10 minutes.

I'm thinking 10 conversations only? There's got to be a catch. This might be harder than I thought. I guess I'll find out.

Vagrant!~

 

[Don Israel]

... She said hey to me and I said "hey what are you doing here?". The boyfriend was behind her pushing a cart and she just kept walking completely ignoring me. The whole time I was just woooow. I couldn't believe it. One of the most awkward moment I've been in. I felt like a loser for a minute especially remembering how my ex already left me for another guy.

Actually, SHE'S the loser in this situation. I mean, even she was having a bad day or whatever (possibly she had a situation with the bf), that's no reason to ignore you....maybe she didn't hear you??

 

[vagrant]

Actually, SHE'S the loser in this situation. I mean, even she was having a bad day or whatever (possibly she had a situation with the bf), that's no reason to ignore you....maybe she didn't hear you??

Thanks Don Israel for making me feel a little bit better. I was going to start a thread about what happened but I decided I knew better. I never thought about her having a bad day or whatever but like you said, there's no reason at all to be like that regardless.

She did hear me. We looked eye to eye. I even walked up a little but closer and said "your boyfriend?", looking at the guy. I thought she was alone so I was caught by surprise. Then she looked at her boyfriend and she said let's go in a very very low tone. I stood there for 3 seconds thinking is she really walking away or is she coming back? It was a crazy moment really.

Not having a lot of friends, plus having your oneitis go for another guy, encountering a situation like this really does make me feel like a loser. I can't complain because I know I'm the common denominator, that's why I'm here trying to improve myself.

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 1

Alright, I guess this is going to be a little bit of a challenge. I didn't get to have a conversation with any strangers today (I don't count patients in the hospital). Anyways, I tried, and it's funny because I probably have just said hi to 50 strangers today trying to initiate a conversation.

It's a bit tough, but I like it though, because I feel like if I can master this assignment of starting a conversation with new people, I'll be able to start my own circle of friends and even more.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 2

This is a late post. Day 2 was Saturday. I had no luck. I wasn't able to start any conversation with any strangers. I had a lot of chances that I blew. I went to Starbucks to study and there were a lot of times when a girl would be there all by herself and I just kept thinking and thinking until they were all gone to leave. :box:

Now I know what Pook means when he said "regret is more painful than rejection".

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 3

I was already thinking about quitting, but I'm lucky I was able to pull 2 conversations with two new people today. Starting a conversation to random strangers or new people is completely new to me. I don't even know how to ask someone for their phone number. This week is really taking me out of my comfort zone.

Anyways, I went to San Francisco today. It was crowded and most people were walking in groups. I was walking on the sidewalk and I noticed there was like a violation ticket on one of the car's windshield. I looked behind me and I saw a guy.

Conversation #1

Vagrant: Hey, do you know if that's a ticket on the car's windshield?
Random guy: It looks like it but I think it's just an advertisement.
Vagrant: Uh I see.
Vagrant: Parking is free on Sunday right?
Random guy: I would imagine but I'm not from here.
Vagrant: Oh yeah? Where are you from?
Random guy: I'm from the east coast.
Vagrant: Really. I'm from the east coast myself. I'm from New York.
Random guy: I'm from New Jersey.

We were walking while having this conversation.

Vagrant: Where in New Jersey are you from?
Random guy: I'm from Newark.
Random guy: What part of NY are you from?
Vagrant: I'm from upstate (gives the name).
Vagrant: So, what brings you here to California?
Random guy: My friends wedding.
Vagrant: Uh I see. So when are you going back to New Jersey?
Random guy: I'm going back tomorrow.

We were standing the stop light. The light turns green.

Vagrant: Alright man take care.
Random guy: Nice talking to you. Later east coast.

I'd say the conversation was a little more than 2 minutes. It felt great. I know I have to keep doing this over and over to make me the out going person I've always wanted to be.

Conversation #2

I don't care what you say I'll keep this conversation counted!

It was with my sister's boyfriend's sister from Chicago. I have never met her before. I initiated the conversation and this one counts! haha. I thought 10 conversations would be easy. Man, week 2 is tough for me.

Anyways, it was a bit of a long conversation so I won't post it word by word. All I know is, she is a 2nd grade teacher somewhere in her mid 20s. The conversation went great. I'm beginning to love chilling with people. I need to find me some buddies to chill with and maybe a girl or two. :yes:

My confidence really went up. I had a feeling I could just open up a conversation with anyone. Obviously, right now that isn't so much true. But, one of these days. One of these days.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

week 2: Day 4

I was feeling down today. I got a missed call from my ex. Emotions beyond words came back like a sudden burst. I remember seeing a picture of her and the new guy in her car. I always have a feeling she'd come back. I just don't know if I can. I always have this feeling that when I become what I've always seen in my mind she would die to get back with me. How can I say no to a girl that I still have feelings for? It's a constant battle between the heart and mind.

I'm just letting out random thoughts. Whether we'll end up together in the end or not, life goes on. I have to live my life. I gotta get better. I got 3 days left before this week of boot camp is over. I won't go home tomorrow without talking to at least 3 new people. If I can do 8 in one day I will.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 5

This morning before going to school I went to a local area to get something to eat. I saw a car that looks exactly like mine. I thought it was a great opportunity to get to know someone new and at the same time have my boot camp assignment done. He was a cool guy. We talked for almost 30 minutes about my car and his car. We traded phone numbers and he told me there's a car meet he goes to every Saturday.

So, yeah I met a cool dude today. I wouldn't have approached though if it wasn't for this boot camp.

Anyways, I went to class today and for some reason when you do kind of have your whole life together, doing your own thing, and enjoying life or at least out there trying to make something happen, girls do kind of notice it.

But yeah, so much for all talk I couldn't get 3 conversations done today. I know I did promise myself to go and get that done so it was killing me inside. So, at almost 10PM I had to go out and try to get 2 more, but I wasn't able to. I know I didn't really try, ugh!

I have 2 days to come up with 7 more conversations. I'm off Thursday which is this week's last day. I'm gonna have to go to the mall or outlet or something. I don't really know where I'll go to meet new people. Anyways, this is getting longer. I gotta go to bed.

Vagrant!~

 

[vagrant]

Week 2: Day 6

I made a mistake. Today was actually my day off. I'm working this Thursday. The bad news is, I didn't get to talk to anyone today meaning I have tomorrow to get all 7 conversations done.

Did anyone really finish the boot camp? Are we allowed more than 7 days to get the assignments done?

UGH! What am I thinking. I have to get this done on time!

I have to wake up early and get this done! :box:

Vagrant!~