Vacation girl: keeping in touch or not?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Gary Goldman

New Member

Jan 3, 2017

I've tried to find similar thread but no luck. So I was out of town on vacation and met this girl, we had a fling. The thing is, we live in different cities, but I have relatives in her city that I visit once or twice a year. So if we're both single it'd be cool to have a girl to hang out when going there. My question is, to make the job easier, should I keep in touch with her (how often?) or should I invite her for a coffee out of the blue once I'm there? This could be applied for other girls from now on.

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.