Vacation flings worth pursuing?

[PapiChulo]

I am wondering if anybody here ever had a vacation romance that developed into something more. A month ago I went to Lima, partied hard, banged a bunch of Peruvian women. It is a ****-hole of a country, but I somehow managed to have a great time over there. I speak spanish as well. The women are definitely easy for me here but no less fickle than their western counterparts. There were also a few culture specific issues I run into when dealing with them.
Basically I ended up with one woman with whom I had a short yet extremely passionate fling, so when I left, she kept in touch with me for a month. I mentioned that I would return to Lima in January. She was travelling and working in all of these different ****ty peruvian towns, and recently just upon her return to Lima I find all the contact severed. This left me scratching my head. I guess Lima has better options for girls. She is 24, probably crazy, picky and fickle. I have to add that it is not easy to keep a woman interested if she is 8000kms away.
To me it seems that you have to enjoy it while it lasts, and given the time constrains the flames do burn hot, especially in bed. As far as expecting anything more, probably not. Whats your take on that?

 

[RangerMIke]

Long distance relationships never work, it empties you bank account and it's almost impossible to keep a woman's interest up when you are not physically seeing her regularly.

NEVER DO LDRs EVER. Unless you are married, and you are deploying into a war zone, and you know you will be back within a couple of years. BUT even then, do not be surprised if you wife cheats on you... I was in the Army active duty and reserves for a couple of decades, spent a least 4 of those years cumulative TOTAL overseas in warzones or hazardous duty areas. EVERYTIME, when we got back, there would a number of marriages that ended because of cheating wives, and that's just the ones we knew about.

If it's just a GF, you can almost be certain she'll be fvcking some other guy. Women can not help themselves, it's part of their hypergamic behavior.

 

[NSX-R]

I went last year in Greece for 4 weeks as vacation. Met there a finnish hotty on the first week and i had the best sex in my life.We had like 4 times per week sex.She confessed her love to me and claimed herself as my gf. Good for me i was spinning more plates back then so she wasnt the only pu$$y i was penetrating. When i left we kept on talking through what's up for another 2 months.I asked for advice here on the forums if LDR are working and everybody adviced me to end it and i did it.That was the best advice cause i was developing a oneitis for her and couldn't think clearly through the day.

As long as she's not in your area there is no reason to have any contact with her except if you have future plans to visit her place again only for business matters.

 

[TheGambino]

I had 10+ real vacation flings. Ill go in detail with two and give you my personal advice from experience. I hope you can do something with it.

Two of them were very serious.

First girl: First meet, very flirtious. First date: Very touchy, fun, playful. Second day, everything but penetrating.

We were walking all day hand in hand, having fun, touching eachother and after I f8cked her she sometimes out of the blue touched my d1ck when we were in a restaurant or somewhat. She was all over me.

When I went back to Holland she kept putting facebook pictures up with ''If you cared you would of stayed'' etc etc.

She had LOTS of attention. After a couple of weeks I hear from my nephew that she became somehow more of a slut over there and enjoying men a lot.

(my conclusion: you can pick out sluts when they were all over you and fill up their bad feelings when you leave with other men)

Last year I went back and f8cked her again. But she was less intoo me then the first year even putting up sh1t tests, she deleted me from facebook now because of our ''discussion''.

Next girl: Met in a bar. She was all over me aswell and more jealous then the first girl.

After we had sex (no penentration, she was only 18 and wasn't ready..) but I tried to to penentrate all night lol

Anyway I found out she had a bf while being so jealous on me and stuff.

End of the day no contact with all 10!

Imo it doesnt work unless she is a very smart girl, busy with her carreer and work and stays home a lot. Those girls are better to have a LTR with.

But still THESE HOES AINT LOYAAAAAAAAL

 

[PapiChulo]

Thanks for your insight and shared experiences! I gotta agree with my Mike about the hypergamic part. They will turn they feelings off for you once somebody else comes along. From my experience Peruvian women have no expectations on continuity and going with whatever they need at the moment, emotions, sex, money....

 

[EyeBRollin]

No. But you can have reoccuring sex with them.

Hey babe, I'm in town. Let's have fun

I had sort of an LDR for over a year (1 hour away). Surprisingly her interest level went up over time. I also saw her every week though... so I doubt that counts.

 

[marmel75]

Typically not, but if you play it cool they will likely want to see you next time you are there...

If you start acting all crazy like "I'm in love" they are gonna think you are some needy, desperate dude and basically shut you down...

 

[PapiChulo]

Great point, I have been playing it cool and was just gonna keep her on the backburner, yet she was contacting me almost everyday. Honestly, my plan is to come back in January and go do adventure sports and visit Machupichu, something I had not done when there. Miraflores in Lima is a great place for a single decent looking dude- women a plenty and parting is cheap. I know that I made a mistake by making myself too available so she doesn't have to work for it anymore by letting her know my vacation dates. All she has to do is hit me up when I am there. That was not smart. I am %90 sure she is banging other dudes in the mean time, which is fine. With all this being said this is only good for two more weeks of great sex and that's about it. Maybe, a bit more later if she is ever in my town, which I doubt she has funds for.

 

[bigneil]

I just ended an 18 month relationship in which we saw 9 cities and 6 states together (in our last 6 dates). These were cities I moved to for contracting and she came to visit.

It was great. She was always there when I needed her. We had some "virtual" dates also, where we ordered the same pizza and watched the same movie at the same time.

However, these only work if she has super high interest. Otherwise you'll start bickering. By the end we had actually had 3 different fights over 3 different pizzas (I was "making (her) uncomfortable the way I was putting the Oregano on", and "If (she) wants to bring a slice of pizza into the hotel bathroom and put it on the sink next to the toilet when she does her makeup, that's (her) right", for examples), and we mutually ended things about 4 weeks ago.

As a general rule, if you had sex to the point of getting bored, it was a good relationship and it's easy to move on. It's the ones who burn us before we get them to submit that we never get over.

 

[Huffman]

Well I'd advise against it.
But actually I had a fling in Georgia 2 years ago, then never had contact again, visited now and she was immediately DTF, no questions asked