Using the "WALK AWAY" method, STR8UP.

[ThunderMaverick]

You're annoying. Don't post in my topics please.

 

[rj077]

Guys....
Indifference is always better than reciprocation in handling gals.....

ThunderMaverick,
I dont know, how much strongly you felt after that club girl ditching you.....
what you did was somewhat an act of retaliation.... you felt hurt, so you decided to remove her 4m ur life etc etc

Lets focus on how she would have taken your act:
As soon as she realized that you removed her from myspace etc, what do you think she would have thought? will she feel pity for you, apolozies 2 you the next day etc? or she will think, you are a loser.......?

It happened to me when i use to like a girl in my college.... i wanted true relationaship with her & was very much into her.... she knew that, so she somewhat use to talk 2 me as a friend as she use to make sure i dont feel bad. I, been in love, demanded much more attention....
One day, while i was ****ing myself up thinking about her, i felt tooo week & decided to break all contacts with her, so i deleted her 4m my yahoo, removed all her messages from my cell etc etc etc etc ...... ,
the day she came to know about all this, she smiled at me.... smile of pity, & i instantly realized, i gave her the power to Control my EMOtions which showed in my reactions.. deleting msgs etc.

By deleting her from Myspace etc, you demostrated to her how much she controls your emotions. Your sense of security, ur mood etc is dependent on her responses to you.

Instead, use indifferece, that you are not concered at all...., (for sake, even if you feel bad from inside, dont let her know that by engaging into deleting myspace etc etc etc), or do the entirely opposite.... get annoyed on her... there & then or probably on phone after that..... this will make you feel good from inside + will prove to her, you are an emotioally secure man.. to whom women can't be rude or else, you are gone !!!

-Rj

 

[logic1]

my 2 cents

If the OP has made the decision that this piece of garbage is no longer a part of his life, WHO CARES WHAT SHE THINKS.

It seems everyone is worried about how miss garbage feels or looks upon this.

This is about what makes the OP feel the best. Fck her!! I feel he did the right thing by deleting her out of his life immeadiatly.

Some people are always worried about whats going on with other people. I dont think this is the DJ way.

 

[KontrollerX]

I have to agree with logic1.

 

[Colossus]

I still have to side with the OP here. He handled it like a man (after that night). We all have our opinions about social network ettiquette, but come on guys. In the scheme of your life, it ultimately means crap. If he felt better by nixing her from whatever online social net he uses, fine. I or whoever may have left it, but whatever, seriously. What matters is that he recognized his mistakes and WALKED AWAY. No questions asked, he walked and learned.

Jonwon is an idiot.

TM, good for you. On to new things, end of story.

:rockon:

 

[STR8UP]

Some people are always worried about whats going on with other people. I dont think this is the DJ way.

Before Rollo locks this thread....

Some of you are missing the point.

Point is, you CAN'T make her feel anything for you, except as someone else said, maybe "pity".

Who wants to be looked at with pity? I would rather someone dislike me.

The other side to this is that it IS about how you feel about yourself.

When you react emotionally by telling her off or punching a wall or deleting her from your myspace, you will feel great for a few seconds, then you realize "Damn....I let that b!tch get to me!"

It isn't about keeping contact or anything. It's about being an adult. Being a MAN. And men don't throw hissy fits.

 

[logic1]

I see both sides. But what is the correct way of going about cutting ties? If a female blows you off or flakes on you, are you supposed to cut all ties or are you supposed to distance yourself? Either way, she knows your feelings have been messed with, giving her sick/twisted mind affirmation, therefore boosting her ego. It is a lose/lose situation, so what difference does it make how he reacted?

This is a very good point.

I always feel its best to cut all ties completly, Strict No Contact. Other people see it differently, which makes sense on their part also.

Maybe some other posters would give an opinion on this.

 

[cordoncordon]

It all comes down to I just don't see the point in leaving someone on a "friends", THATS F R I E N D S guys, list, if she doesn't treat him like a friend. Who cares what she thinks about him at this point. The point is she dissed him, so why should he have to look at her ugly mug every time he opens up his myspace account? I just don't get that. Yeah, if for whatever reason he still wanted to have sex with her or go out with her again, leave it up. But he doesn't, and nor should he want to. Some of you guys I'm just not getting your point of view. It's like you would put up with anything just on the "chance" she'll want to F you, no matter how badly she has treated you in the past.

Take her profile off your account and never think of her again. It's called self-respect.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

There were so many ways to go about this. You guys are making good points about keeping her attraction level up and making her wonder about me, etc. But the point is is that I don't CARE what she thinks of me. I only regret my actions because it was done out of a bit of emotion. I don't care if she feels indifferent or happy or impressed or sad. She apologized the next day however my level of attraction for her went down.

I don't want to get involved with a chick that sleeps with a new guy every weekend. I don't want to get involved with a chick who won't call me when she says she will. I don't want to get involved with a chick who disses me because of what her friends say. I don't care about keeping her guess or wondering. My goal is what makes ME feel good, not her. After all she could probably care less. This is the type of person she is. Not my type. Not even worth sleeping with.

I don't want to put up the slightest effort to keep this bridge up. However that being saidd STR8 is still right when he says me taking her off myspace and facebook was done out of emotional impulse. I won't be doing that again. Not that I care what she thinks, but I felt like an immature person doing that. I stooped to a really low level and I let her get to me.

Who said that the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference? Great point.

 

[STR8UP]

There were so many ways to go about this. You guys are making good points about keeping her attraction level up and making her wonder about me, etc. But the point is is that I don't CARE what she thinks of me.

That's exactly where you want to be.

I have been on both sides of the equation. I have been the guy who lost all control and screamed my head off at a woman, and I have been the guy who was disrespected but kept my composure and refused to give the woman any more of that drug they call attention.

And I can tell you that when I REACTED, I felt like sh!t. When I chose NOT to react, I felt like a MAN.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Good God I remember when I blew up at my ex. It was about something so insignificant it makes my hair stand up just thinking about it.


As I walked out the door I actually told her "FU<K YOU". Boy she was distraught after that. She couldn't believe it. I think the relationship started it's slow decent into hell after that.

I mean looking back on it it was so unnecessary the way I reacted. It's embarassing that I lost my cool and acted like a child. Come to think of it most adults never learn to keep their cool.

The way that I saw my father react to his ex wife outside of court. Him taunting her and her freaking out calling him a liar and so on. They were both damn near 50 years old and acting in such a juvenile manner. Ew.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Thunder Dude, you mistook a hor for a woman!! You expected the courtesy that is expected from a woman. Since she has has taken the unnatural form of a hor then you should expect unnatural behavior becoming of a woman!! When you treat a lion as a kitten, you get devoured!! Lucky for you , you only got your ego bruised!!

Never follow a woman -- you should dictate the agenda!! Never meet in a group setting, especially at her bequest!!

 

[jonwon]

I still have to side with the OP here. He handled it like a man (after that night). We all have our opinions about social network ettiquette, but come on guys. In the scheme of your life, it ultimately means crap. If he felt better by nixing her from whatever online social net he uses, fine. I or whoever may have left it, but whatever, seriously. What matters is that he recognized his mistakes and WALKED AWAY. No questions asked, he walked and learned.

Jonwon is an idiot.

TM, good for you. On to new things, end of story.

:rockon:

I'm going to try to ignore some AFC keyboard jockey who is probably still pulling is piss*r over barbie dolls, when you have scored has many girls has i have, been in many relationships has i have and been around as much as i have maybe then, when some AFC chump on a forum calls me an idiot i'll take note.

How many girls you dated, had sex with or even seen naked?

AFC chumps validating chump actions, yeh he learned but he learned the hard way, the chump way, i may have bruised his likkle ego, better me then some women he's willing to wait 45min in a car for after she treated him like cra*.

I have no malice for thundermaverick i want him to have success, but he still has a long way to go, blaming the women in this situation is a poor move.

Poor move indeed!

He recognized his mistakes but he still has failed to learn the true message, damage management is what is at play here, the fact of the matter is this situation could have been handled a hell of alot better.

i've laid 3 girls this WEEK, how many have you had?

come on tell me, i am interested.

He could still be seeing this chick, he could be seeing her tonight, his actions where to blame here, has others have pointed out, his and his ALONE where responsible, the girl acted like ANY OTHER girl out there with her view on life: Party chick living life in the fast lane, or hor, which-ever you want to use, still she would have made a good FB, that will never be, yeh it may go back, yeh she may call, but you cant take away the really poor moves displayed here!

When i have a bad experiance, I 'reflect' and see what 'i' did wrong and improve for 'next time' that has been done here, but only to a small degree, i stand by my posts and if i had to post again i would post the same things, maybe just maybe guys like you and thunder will listen and get better 'success' with women and dating, then again you can validate chump actions and slap each other on the back and feel all 'good' inside!

the most cringe worthy thing i have read on this whole silly experiance, is the point of a 'sure thing'!

He HAD a sure thing, he HAD it, right there in the palm of his hands and HE messed THAT up not her!

Never ever, ever sacrifice self worth, self respect and personal values for puss*! Succesful guys with HOT women are there by there actions of being a 'man' hence they dont supplicate to puss* on a string, which when all is said and done was the CORE problem of this whole sorry state of affairs.

The puss* is the carrot! dangling just out of reach to get her validation, this is what happened here, you went with that agenda instead of making it work for you.
http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_th.../2/istockphoto_910306_proverbial_carrot_2.jpg

 

[ThunderMaverick]

True story:

I fingered a Japanese chick last friday.

I made out with another chick yesterday.


I just banged a 19 year old Chinese chick who goes to U.S.C about an hour ago while her roomates listened.

There's more than enough people here that I can get valuable advice from. One little "know it all" won't be missed.

Jonwon, get the fu<k out of my thread.