"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Using the 'Awkward Moment' to Your Advantage

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Now, I tend to notice that when I give people a 'wtf' kind of look, they become super nervous and awkward. I figured I could use it to my advantage. This doesn't just apply to women by the way, it applies to everyday life and to people in general.

Basically, whatever you talk about, you NEED to have a strong opinion associated with it. That gives the other person more of a FEEL of what you mean. You still need to be very smiling and outgoing in general, though. Just the usual C+F :woo: . But whatever you talk about, you need to state it almost like it is a fact (if it isn't about yourself). And always be super sure of yourself too. Not only that but be very confident in whatever you say (because of your strong opinion). And whenever the other person disagrees with what you say, you simply stop talking for a few seconds and give them that 'wtf' look while looking them directly in the eye. You need to stay absolutely still while giving them that facial expression. This makes them feel super awkward and will cause them to think twice before disagreeing with you or not doing what you want to do.

After you're done giving them 'the look', you need to state why you think that way, or simply why THEY are wrong. And when doing so, have a slight nod to your head but still have that 'wtf' look. This [slight nod] makes whatever you say less awkward. Then when they talk again, you don't nod unless they start to agree with what you say. You now have complete control over the situation :rockon: .

And one last note: this works for most people. Why do I say most? If you do this to other iron-willed people, it won't have an effect on them. The stronger-willed they are, the harder it will be to change their opinions and to control them because they have firmly held convictions of their own.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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