"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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using smileys in text/instant messengers

iliketennis

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yes or no? why or why not? in what situations should you never use it.. when is it acceptable?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Lexington

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I use them to make sure the girl knows I'm joking. If you're making fun of her, you have to let her know that's tongue in cheek. Sometimes if there's just plain text, she might misunderstand.
 

Scars

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I've noticed smileys can play a tremendous role, whether you want to believe it or not. I use them when I'm joking as Lexington said to make it obvious that I'm just being playful, or when I'm saying something cute to her. All other times I am usually pretty serious and end everything with periods and proper grammar. I've learned that sometimes girls will TRY to get a smiley out of you. It's how you reward her and let her know she is doing good. Use it in the same principle as affection. When she is being good use them, if she is being boring then don't. Of course, you shouldn't over analyze everything. But with texts you can be a lot more strategic because you aren't bound with a time limit. I will sometimes edit a text 3 times before I send it, just to make sure I get the right point across.
 

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as long as they are spaced and dont become superfluous.

1 every 3 texts is a good rule, and defs dont write lol unless absolutely necessary. She's not funny and its obnoxious to laugh out loud on your own jokes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kailex

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tobylikestennis said:
yes or no? why or why not? in what situations should you never use it.. when is it acceptable?
I just call, and avoid worrying about this.
 

Ease

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Smileys are always beta.

The only time it is acceptable to use them, is if your intentionally trying to sound beta.
 
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