"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Using music to expand or build a social circle

RazorAzoth

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I'm sure there's a ton of guys here all in the same boat being shy and have few, if any friends. I read a really good article today on these forums about expanding or creating a social circle. It mentioned music as one of the best hobbies to get into to make friends. I love music and find it to be one of my only passions in life.

However, how would this pertain to somehow just learning how to play an instrument? Obviously someone who already knows how to play guitar or drums could just go out and join a band and make friends. But what about someone just starting to learn an instrument? It's going to take that person a while(unless they're a prodigy) to even get to the point of being decent. That's a lot of time wasted that that person could be expanding or creating their social circle. I mean, would a band even consider someone who just started playing an instrument? Unless the whole band is all starting out I guess?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mpimpin

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You can hang around the music scene and make friends. You might have a local hangout for local bands etc. go hang out there and meet some people.

I'm a Mobile DJ and part of an entertainment company so Music is my life and social circle. Done a lot of band productions and the music scene is a great way to meet and network and make new friends.
 

WhitePimp

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There's people of all experience levels looking to play in bands. Getting in a band is a GREAT way to expand social circle, as most of my best friends have come from bands that I've been in.

But again, play an instrument because you really really want to. To me, my greatest moments on this Earth are the ones where I'm alone in my room writing music or lost in my recording studio going nuts with producing and sounds, etc. Those moments can surpass sex for me sometimes, not to mention the high you get from playing live.

What instrument are you looking to play? You've got to put in solid time on your own to develop technique and fluidity. I know this seems like you're "wasting time" when you could be developing a social circle, but learning an instrument is not a half-assed process. You need to put in the time to get the rewards...like anything.
 

mpimpin

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learning to play an instrument or learning to do anything that requires dedication will provide you a lot more then just a social circle
 
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