"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Using Facebook to "Poke" an interest

thedol

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Hey guys, anyone used Facebook to make some sort of connection?

I'm in a small town so all the time on FB, through friends who are connected I see some face of some pretty chick in my town who maybe I've caught from a distance but never spoke to before

Recently, I saw one and just sent a message like - I'm sure I've seen you somewhere before, but no idea where!

The chick actually replied and wrote - We go to the same gym and live in the same apartment building, I've seen you

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I never even saw or noticed her really but just wrote it as an opener. Then the next day we arranged to meet and went out and got another little date with her tonight.

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There are lots of nice one's I see like that and was wondering if anyone has done anything similar as a way to make a first quick initial approach and what to say in an "online" way

I prefer to keep it just small and quick rather than anything long
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sadly the days of MSN are over. Facebook is a horrible way to meet girls. If you added a girl on MSN she'd be sure to talk to you, but on Facebook chat, if the girl doesn't even know you she won't always reply. On that site quite a lot of the time you'll be added as friend fodder. Back in the day I'd ask my girl mates to give me hot girl's MSN addresses and it was far easier to talk to them that way.
 

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When i was on facebook. I used to poke girls for the fun of it. I got a couple lays from facebook, and one girl actually ended up being my girlfriend for 7 months. It works, you just need a system.


What I did...Poked them..They poked me back(if they didnt i would move on), they I would message them with a direct opener of how i dont know them but would like to change that. Then go into convo....etc
 

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lol at Crissco

I don't like the Poke thing, I find it kind of "shy" or "geeky"

You wanna' obviously talk to them that's why you poked, so just send some random 1 liner - it's more interesting

Seems to work
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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thedol said:
lol at Crissco

I don't like the Poke thing, I find it kind of "shy" or "geeky"

You wanna' obviously talk to them that's why you poked, so just send some random 1 liner - it's more interesting

Seems to work
Bro it worked great for me. lol...If they dont poke back i know there not intrested, its simple. Before I deactivated my account I have over 300 pokes.
 

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The girl i'm dating now I met on Facebook. Just started posting funny things where she posts kinda getting to know each other for about two months. Eventually she started addressing me and we would go back and fourth a little. I asked her out she said no in a nice way. Then I upped my profile pictures a lil and started posting places I was going to visit for happy hour and such. On one she was like "Oh I love that place" so I invited her. She showed up with bodyguards (cute ones) and we hit it off ever since. Oh shes completely psycho btw. Not sure if this correlates with meeting someone on fbook or not but just putting that out there.

Oh and that poking thing is completely lame, do it a couple times just for charity and cut that crap out. IMHO
 

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If you meet a girl out you can find her on Facebook and email her to see if you get a date, but meeting them on Facebook is rare. It's not a dating site. And "Poke" is a joke.
 

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there's no point overanalysing.
I once added a girl I met on facebook and that's what I used to open her later and I made out with her.

And I am now poking some girls. I've never done much poking before but I like it.

So go ahead and poke.
 

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I've done this on facebook before and myspace back when that was the popular social networking site. I've met plenty of girls this way. Usually they're girls I recognize and I use that "I think we've met before or I've seen you around" opener.. Then go off on a conversation of similar interests, and eventually meet up in person.

I sort of feel like a creeper meeting girls online as opposed to real life, but some girls prefer the online route because there's less tension.

Facebook is a great way to meet women as long as they're in your demographic and you seem at least somewhat interesting from your photos.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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