Is it acceptable to use email to ask a girl out? The reason I ask is because there's a girl I work with who works at the other end of the building so I rarely see her at all at work, plus she has to share her phone extension with several other employees so I can't call her either. We have been emailing each other several times a week when we're at work and I initially sent her an email asking her to go out with me which she accepted and since then we email each other frequently. She also asked me out another time through email. But I've read that you should never ask for a date through email. Are there any exceptions? Of course she has a home phone as well so would it be better just to forget the email thing and only call her after work from now on to initiate a date? I find that email is more casual and I can say exactly the right thing but I'm not sure if this is the best approach either.
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send her an email telling her to meet you halfway across the room then ask her out
send her an email telling her to meet you halfway across the room then ask her out
Francisco d'Anconia
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WTF???!! You've already asked through email and she accepted AND she's asked you out through email!! If it fvckin' works, why second guess it? 
tmpgstx
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An argument for a phone call is that it is more personable.
To me though, an email more convenient. Most people are at the computer at least once throughout a day, and can reply at their leisure.
To me though, an email more convenient. Most people are at the computer at least once throughout a day, and can reply at their leisure.
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diablo
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Why don't you walk to her side of the building on your lunch break and ask her out in person? Face time is important!
Well, usually in the email she'll ask me to call her that night or I'll tell her to...but I think you're right, that I should meet with her face to face, which sometimes I do anyway but our schedules at work are so different (plus she's much higher up in the company than I am, so it's sometimes difficult).
I have been interested in her for a while but didn't really know how to approach her, so at first I sent her a couple of emails about work related issues, then slowly worked in some personal stuff (not too personal but not work related either). Eventually, the emails were completely non-work related and I got to know some things about her. Then one day I just asked her if she wanted to go out and have some drinks with me and she said yes.