Using body language and mystery as sex appeal

[Shivastorm_88]

I'm starting to appreciate more and more how well these two work to raise a person's sex appeal. Not from personal experience (my body language is fidgety at best, and I tell way too much about myself), but from what other people tell me, from what I witness myself, etc.

If you guys could name the five most important factors in body language, what would it be (aka: five aspects I need to work on)

I already have the whole eye contact gig decently well, and looking straight instead of at the floor when I walk, but other than that, what would you guys say are the top five most important attributes.

As for conveying a bit more mystery, I guess that is quite simple, simply resist the urge of revealing too much, even when questioned. However, you guys have specific ways you approach this characteristic as well?

 

[-Gripz-]

Back in high school when I was shy, I used to get some attention from girls do the "mysterious" act. Of course I wasn't trying to, its just how I was. Even got a girls number without saying a word! But that kind of thing gets you so far. You of course have to have game to get through the door. These days since I've been hitting the gym and have a lot more confidence in myself and walk tall with confidence, I get much more attention from women without even doing anything. Still have a few things to work on which my explain why I'm still a *dare I say* virgin.

-Gripz-

 

[Atom Smasher]

1) Move slowly and deliberately

2) Take up lots of space. Spread out your limbs and put your keys, phone, etc. on the table to claim terrritory.

3) When someone calls out your name don't respond right away. Look over very slowly after a delay. You control time itself.

4) Walk with your head up.

5) Avoid fidgeting. It's all about demonstrating you own the environment and time.

 

[coochieman]

Everything so far sums it all up.

Body language speaks way way before you do your talkin'. It is the biggest function of how you fell about and regard yourself. It is important you get this. Carry yourself like a chicksman, if you're gonna stand a chance to become one.

Let's get this clear, in-case you still haven't learnt ....

No darting eyes.... Never ever. If at all you're gonna look across the room, it has to be done slowly and deliberately (it might get temptin to keep takin' looks at all em hoes checkin you out, do not. Continue minding your business. This is the stage i am at, so I know what I'm sayin'. Do not act phased with the extra attention). Take slow, straight, prolonged looks.

Limit smiles and laughs. Matter of fact, pls cancel unnecessary ones. I know this is arguable to some degree but trust me on this. I'm am not implyin that you become a stoic uptight kid. Just introduce a little pokerface.
Make people work for this. Don't go grinning all the time, instead give half or one sided smiles. When making smiles, gradually increase the length of your smile very slowly. More importantly, learn to smile with your eyes. Practice with your mirror till you know you're there.

Keep an open body language. Be exposed......
Show jugular, by lifting that head up.
Always undo top buttons (personally recommended).
Arms spread apart, leave those pockets for now.
Stand well erect, this implies "chest forward"
Stand and sit with your shoulders leaning back. Meaning relax.

No fidgeting or tentativeness. All movement are to be made because you want to. Don't keep scratching your face, adjusting your tie, touching your nose, table drumming or shaky legging. Get comfortable and REMAIN comfortable at all times. Adjust all you wanna once deliberately, and then proceed.

Take time. You own your time. Atom put that up already. When something drops, pick it up calmly. When some body calls, give a delayed response. Generally, make pauses when answering people or situations.

Walk with a slow swagger. Invite a slight shoulder roll and limp to your boring walk. Don't do it like you're shooting some rap video, just do enough to separate you from the next joe. While doing this..... How fast should you be moving? NOT FAST. Where should your head be? UP UP UP.

Hit the gym. Get a good body. Nobody cares bout a smelly mouth no matter how nice it speaks, kinda like the same. While you are at it, make sure that body actually doesn't smell. Use cologne (lol).

Finally, speak just as good as you portray yourself.

Sorry my post's kinda scruffy bro, I'm dozing already. Goodnight Mo'fucckas!

 

[MisterD]

http://www.clay-collins.com/blog/james-dean-body-language/

 

[BigSmooth]

Like others said, slow and deliberate is good. But it has to look smooth, intellectual, and natural. You don't want to look like a blumbering gorilla wobbling to his target.


Be smooth. In everything you do. Your motions, your eyes, your posture, the way you talk. Don't be so jittery. Try not to have that restless leg syndrome.


As for giving people pauses before you turn around when they call your name, do it right and you'll command more attention. Do it wrong and you'll look like you have Helen Keller syndrome.

 

[cablecow15]

When you go to talk to a girl dont face them directly at first , make sure your body (front of your chest) is not facing directly at them , until they have earned your interest enough in the conversation

and try to fully extend you legs when you walk it shows that you dont care how much space you take up , if your knees are still fairly bent when your leg hits the ground you should try to step a little further foreward to make your gape longer and let your walk appear more confident

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Everything so far sums it all up.

Body language speaks way way before you do your talkin'. It is the biggest function of how you fell about and regard yourself. It is important you get this. Carry yourself like a chicksman, if you're gonna stand a chance to become one.

Let's get this clear, in-case you still haven't learnt ....

No darting eyes.... Never ever. If at all you're gonna look across the room, it has to be done slowly and deliberately (it might get temptin to keep takin' looks at all em hoes checkin you out, do not. Continue minding your business. This is the stage i am at, so I know what I'm sayin'. Do not act phased with the extra attention). Take slow, straight, prolonged looks.

Limit smiles and laughs. Matter of fact, pls cancel unnecessary ones. I know this is arguable to some degree but trust me on this. I'm am not implyin that you become a stoic uptight kid. Just introduce a little pokerface.
Make people work for this. Don't go grinning all the time, instead give half or one sided smiles. When making smiles, gradually increase the length of your smile very slowly. More importantly, learn to smile with your eyes. Practice with your mirror till you know you're there.

Keep an open body language. Be exposed......
Show jugular, by lifting that head up.
Always undo top buttons (personally recommended).
Arms spread apart, leave those pockets for now.
Stand well erect, this implies "chest forward"
Stand and sit with your shoulders leaning back. Meaning relax.

No fidgeting or tentativeness. All movement are to be made because you want to. Don't keep scratching your face, adjusting your tie, touching your nose, table drumming or shaky legging. Get comfortable and REMAIN comfortable at all times. Adjust all you wanna once deliberately, and then proceed.

Take time. You own your time. Atom put that up already. When something drops, pick it up calmly. When some body calls, give a delayed response. Generally, make pauses when answering people or situations.

Walk with a slow swagger. Invite a slight shoulder roll and limp to your boring walk. Don't do it like you're shooting some rap video, just do enough to separate you from the next joe. While doing this..... How fast should you be moving? NOT FAST. Where should your head be? UP UP UP.

Hit the gym. Get a good body. Nobody cares bout a smelly mouth no matter how nice it speaks, kinda like the same. While you are at it, make sure that body actually doesn't smell. Use cologne (lol).

Finally, speak just as good as you portray yourself.

Sorry my post's kinda scruffy bro, I'm dozing already. Goodnight Mo'fucckas!

Solid advice dude, but what's wrong with smiling?

 

[Sweet James Jones]

The "no smiling" thing works great especially when using sexual innuendos. I noticed that this paired with a sly grin seems to drive the women crazy!

 

[Eternal_water]

The "no smiling" thing works great especially when using sexual innuendos. I noticed that this paired with a sly grin seems to drive the women crazy!

You notice not smiling paired with a sly grin (or smile) drives em crazy ?!?!

 

[The Experience]

James Dean.