"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Using an SSRI anti-depressant to treat jealousy?

Francisco d'Anconia

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DJorBUST said:
Well, I'm sure much of this stems from self-esteem problems. I wouldn't say my self-esteem is especially poor though. ...
Note that I didn't say that you had poor self esteem, it's just challenged; there's a difference. It's apparent that you are social and friendly, it's just that certain situations make you question yourself. That's the challenge.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Holland said:
...You spin plates because you want to, not because you need to.
Calm down and get centered.
:yes:
 

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Thanks for the advice, Francisco.

Holland, I would thank you but calling someone pathetic because they're having a hard time getting over a girl is a little over the top. So, I'll just offer my balls so you can suck them.
 

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I know it has been several years since you posted this...but I just wanted to thank you for doing so. I have struggled with this obsessional jealousy for most of my life and doing a lot of research to figure out ways to suppress these sorts of excessive thoughts. I am a physician assistant and truthfully there is _still_ not enough research behind the emotion of jealousy and all that can mean for a person and their quality of life. I have been throwing around the idea of starting medication myself and it does appear fluoxetine can be quite helpful for this issue. I am curious if you did start it in the end and if it was helpful for you?
 
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