War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
When did you ever get the idea I said it was a necessity?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well...War Against Betaism said:When did you ever get the idea I said it was a necessity?
And,War Against Betaism said:A lot of people are going to ridicule you for resorting to alcohol on this site, but the fact remains alcohol can help your game. The past couple of parties I've experienced a lot of success when I was buzzed. Alcohol eases your tension and nervousness, and you become a better socializer and you'll be better at flirting.
Also to those who have trouble keeping eye contact, that's another thing alcohol will diminish. You're not even going to realize that you're staring directly into her eyes and eye contact is extremely important when interacting with another woman.
And then,War Against Betaism said:Using alcohol seems cheap to most people here but if it's at a party, you're most likely going to drink alcohol anyways. Plus, in the long run it can help with your confidence. For most people the other parts of their games are fine, just need some fine tuning, but what's stopping them from accelerating their improvement is the approach. When you consume alcohol you skip that step. If you're consistently skipping this step you'll be able to calibrate and fine tune the other parts of your game at a much faster rate. Your other parts of your game might even improve to the point where the first step, the approach, gets overlapped because you have strong social proof already, or you're just that confident.
It's pretty universally known that alcohol is a resort men use to game on women. Though people get the wrong idea on how to handle it. Some of my friends INTENTIONALLY act drunk, fall on the floor, act as if they're about to throw up, when really they're just buzzed to get attention from women. Others just plain act stupid. Though getting tipsy is the perfect balance that will make your experience at the party more enjoyable and getting women.
There's more but I got tire of quoting each one of your responses. Plus you never said it wasn't a necessity, all you've said is how it personally helps you. So, outside it being a necessity for you at least to feel more confident, are you saying that it isn't really a necessity?War Against Betaism said:My opinion is of course that consuming enough alcohol to make you a little bit tipsy will greatly help your game. I'm not talking about getting flat out wasted, do people even read the original post or do they just read the topic title? It's all about finding the perfect balance, one person suggested early they take a shot of 151 bacardi along with another shot of something else, I find that a perfect balance (depending on your tolerance level though). Speaking from experience when I achieve this perfect balance I become a lot more flirty, a better socializer, and I'm not afraid to completely and thoroughly follow my gameplan. I spoke in a zen like analogy because people are making reference to finding the true DJ within or else we'll never achieve true internal DJness.
There, I fixed it. You have to understand that it all sounded the same.War Against Betaism said:First off, you quoted the same quote twice. You're not that old.
Ohhhhhh... So... YOU need alcohol in order to feel confident and comfortable around women and YOU use it to skip steps in order to get ahead without spending the time learning to be confident without the use of alcohol BUT it's not necessary if you don't want to use it as a crutch like the way that you're using it. Gotcha...War Against Betaism said:Secondly, I don't understand anywhere in those posts that indicates where I required it. All I did indicate was that it helped me. I didn't say it wasn't a necessity and I never said it was, I don't understand where you got the idea that I said it was. Again, you're not that old.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's exactly my point.SinJester said:I can see where he is coming from. If alcahol helps you game then you can get confidence from learning that YOU can get girls. Then the next step is doing it without the confidence coming from a certain liquid.
Kind of how it worked for me, strangely enough...
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That you don't need to depend on alcohol?War Against Betaism said:That's exactly my point.
Like I said earlier, whatever crutch holds you up.War Against Betaism said:No, I honestly don't know how you could miss that. That alcohol can assist you if taken in moderation.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
We cyclist sometimes use a device for hydration called a Camelbak which is a backpack with a bladder in it connected to a tube that you stick in your mouth so you can always have easy access to fluids. Some can hold up to 9 liters so maybe that's an option for guys who need that extra something something when they are just out and about and a bar isn't nearby. Plus they have pockets so you can carry along your dogeared copy of "The Game" and any other crib sheets of openers you may need.reset said:Isn't that what flasks are for?
LOL! Wow that's quite an image.Francisco d'Anconia said:We cyclist sometimes use a device for hydration called a Camelbak which is a backpack with a bladder in it connected to a tube that you stick in your mouth so you can always have easy access to fluids. Some can hold up to 9 liters so maybe that's an option for guys who need that extra something something when they are just out and about and a bar isn't nearby. Plus they have pockets so you can carry along your dogeared copy of "The Game" and any other crib sheets of openers you may need.![]()
Who's stronger, a man with using a crutch or one who stands using his own power? Wait, here's a better question, if you could choose who would you rather be, a man who was confident to approach women in any situation without needing a drink or a man who needs to drink to have the same level of confidence?ILikeGirls<3 said:...Finally, this could be the one thing that will make the difference between getting laid and not getting laid at this party tonight. And I don't feel guilty at all that it helps me, whose to say its "wrong" or a "crutch"? Thats being overly judgmental of something minor in my opinion.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.