Useless friend(s)...thinking about ditching them.

[solo1]

Usually Im ok with my friends talking smack that they cant/wont live up to (as they do it quite often)...now its just fcked up.

Since last semester me and my friend agreed on getting an apartment and being roomies this summer. Since its been nearing the summer, I've come across some indecisiveness (he's always indecisive) and he mentioned a couple times something about hoping for an apartment for himself. A few weeks ago I saw some open houses on apartments, so we went to check it out. At the end of it there were even more indecisiveness and excuses...and he treated the day as if we were hanging out. So finally it came out today when I brought it up, he wants an apartment for himself.

Now Im just thinking if he's anti-social or some crap. Knowing him well he likes to have a lot of privacy/solitude, and also being stingy with money he doesnt like splitting up bills. I had it all planned out (among other things) - when we move out, we'd throw a house warming party for all our friends..that cant quite happen now. Now he's just a whole big disappointment to me.
The worst part about his smack talk is he'd tell everyone that we know that we're going to be roomates by summer's end. I have no one to impress, if I've done something (factual) Ill say it, if im certain on a goal im going to do then I will tell people.

The irony is that I consider him and another friend to be close friends (both whom talk the most smack). Im always looking for new ways to grow and I also know i have a lot of potential...but these friends dont want to grow and the worst part is their smack talk, all they've become are big fat disappointments. I admit I have to find myself some new friends who want to be on the same path as me...but frankly I dont know where to look.

Is anyone feeling me or in a similar situation?

 

[Lion]

Yeah solo1 I feel your situation. What you've said in the last paragraph is how I feel with most of my "weekend" friends. I've just made a similar post and feel like no one I am currently friends with is worth being around.

 

[backbreaker]

I went threw that when i first turned 21. although I got kicked out my house when I was 18, I moved in with my buisnes sparnter, i don't really count that living out on my own.

the day I turned 21 I got my first apartment.

anyway, my two best friends and I always had this grand idea that the first one of us to move out, the others would automatically move in.

It had nothing to do with money, i could afford to stay by myself. I liked my friends over, but when you get out by yourself (assuming you can afford it), there is something about having YOUR house to YOURSELF. NOt having to worry about anything. it's something I couldn't explain to my two best friends, who still lived at home.

Now, they both had keys, and they both came over 3-5 times a week, at times 7 days a week, and one lived with me for a month and a half while his GF visited from Virginia, but I wouldn' tlet them move in. I wanted my own personal life. There were times I wanted, needed to be alone. I wanted to be able to bring a woman home on a date and not worrya obut 2 grown kids playing video games, yelling when I got home and me having to go in my room, in my apartment. I didn't want to have to worrya bout cleaning up after someone everyday. But on the other side, like I said, they both had keys. it's not like they weren't welcome over.