"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Used DJ on girl with LTR BF and now she is all over me.

Canadian Catnip

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Met her about Sept last year, we chatted about once a week because we hung out at the same place. She told me straight up that she had a BF. No problem, I still game them.

Most times I went in to my hangout I would see her. She always came over to chat with me and hang out.

At the end of 06 her and her BF went on a trip around the world. Before she left she was hugging me and telling me how much she would miss me and asked ME for my email. I got hers as well and we kept in contact the whole time she was away. Every time I wrote her she made sure to mention how much she loved hearing from me.

She just returned about two weeks ago and I saw her at my regular hangout. She runs up to me and screams HI and gives me the biggest bear hug she can manage. She is all smiles and eye contact and she is looking at me like I was her long lost friend.

A side note here. I did not expect anything between us to ever happen because of the age difference and the fact that I am spinning other plates. I really did not miss her as much as she missed me it seems.

Saw her last week at my same hangout and she came running up to me and got another hug, then she asks me for my phone number so we can get together. I got hers as well, it seemed like the polite thing to do.

She is OK looking, she reminds me a lot of the actress Molly Parker when she was younger. I've always had a crush on her. Do you guys find her attractive?

http://molly-parker.tier8.net/pictures/molly-2.jpg

So now she is back and wants to spend time with me and I would rather not lead her on. What do you think I should do? Not meet with her one on one because she has a BF? or just meet and see what happens?

I guess my biggest worry is she just sees me as a father figure and not as a DJ and she is hugging me because I am SAFE.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PhatE1vis

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How big is the age difference?

If you've been gaming her as you said, she should know that your intentions are more than platonic. I say go for it and see what happens.
 

Canadian Catnip

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PhatE1vis said:
How big is the age difference?

If you've been gaming her as you said, she should know that you're intentions are more than platonic. I say go for it and see what happens.
Sorry I put that in my post originally but I must have deleted that line before I posted.

She is 22 and I am 44. I am twice her age.
 

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hmmmm...

Seems like you are in the LJBF or SAFE zone, as opposed to her having a high IL...

I think she likes you (as a person), but I really did not see much in the post that would say she wanted you. It "sounds" more like she just wants your attention...
 
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