The foremost problem in any pick up is the approach, it is the part that scares us the most, and usually ends up being the part that is the least difficult in comparison, honestly going up to a girl and saying "hi" or asking for an opinion is easy in comparison to carrying on a full blown conversation. So I have something that will help you to get over your fear of approach and understand your anxiety.
I am a semi-pro mountain biker as some of you may already know, the kind of stuff that I do scares me ****less. Of course that adrenaline rush after landing that huge drop, or new trick strongly outweighs any fear of doing the actual stunt. In fact it is the initial fear that amplifies the adrenaline in the end. Since biking is my passion, I am constantly thinking about it, and every year I set a major goal for myself, such as last year I decided I wanted to hit the biggest road gap in Alberta, it was a 30 foot high, 40 foot wide gap. I spent months thinking about this gap, I was set to go to Lethbridge where the gap is for the end of summer, so I had alot of time to think about the drop before I got there. I went on the internet and looked at pictures of the drop, watched videos of people going off it, internalized the whole process. As I gathered more knowledge I started to put together a mental image of me doing this drop, I would lay in bed and think about it, and EVERYTIME I thought about it, in my mind right before I went off the drop my body would physically shudder. I was terrified of this drop, and I would shudder everytime I thought about hitting it, my visualizations were so powerful that my body thought it was actually happening, and since I had never hit a drop of such magnitude my body did not know what to do.
The day finally came when I got to the drop, not surprisingly it looked WAY bigger in person than on a picture or video. I stood at the top of the take off meditating for 20 minutes before I strapped on my helmet and told my friend to get a camera angle. I did my normal routine, calmed my breathing and barrelled into the drop full speed. Want to know what happened then? I nailed it, smooth as butter, I was absolutley stoked, it was not half as bad as I expected it to be, I thought I would be in the air forever and lose my balance or do something stupid, but I didn't.
The lesson is that your mind is a powerful tool, you may be scared but just take all your fear, slow your breathing, and barrell into situations full speed, don't be afraid of possible outcomes, because as someone who has taken many bad biking falls, and many rejections from women, it never NEVER hurts as bad as you think it will.
--Mission
I am a semi-pro mountain biker as some of you may already know, the kind of stuff that I do scares me ****less. Of course that adrenaline rush after landing that huge drop, or new trick strongly outweighs any fear of doing the actual stunt. In fact it is the initial fear that amplifies the adrenaline in the end. Since biking is my passion, I am constantly thinking about it, and every year I set a major goal for myself, such as last year I decided I wanted to hit the biggest road gap in Alberta, it was a 30 foot high, 40 foot wide gap. I spent months thinking about this gap, I was set to go to Lethbridge where the gap is for the end of summer, so I had alot of time to think about the drop before I got there. I went on the internet and looked at pictures of the drop, watched videos of people going off it, internalized the whole process. As I gathered more knowledge I started to put together a mental image of me doing this drop, I would lay in bed and think about it, and EVERYTIME I thought about it, in my mind right before I went off the drop my body would physically shudder. I was terrified of this drop, and I would shudder everytime I thought about hitting it, my visualizations were so powerful that my body thought it was actually happening, and since I had never hit a drop of such magnitude my body did not know what to do.
The day finally came when I got to the drop, not surprisingly it looked WAY bigger in person than on a picture or video. I stood at the top of the take off meditating for 20 minutes before I strapped on my helmet and told my friend to get a camera angle. I did my normal routine, calmed my breathing and barrelled into the drop full speed. Want to know what happened then? I nailed it, smooth as butter, I was absolutley stoked, it was not half as bad as I expected it to be, I thought I would be in the air forever and lose my balance or do something stupid, but I didn't.
The lesson is that your mind is a powerful tool, you may be scared but just take all your fear, slow your breathing, and barrell into situations full speed, don't be afraid of possible outcomes, because as someone who has taken many bad biking falls, and many rejections from women, it never NEVER hurts as bad as you think it will.
--Mission