"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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..He doesn't need to apologise to me, I understand.
If it was what he was supposed to do he wouldn't need to apologise would he? If it was what he was supposed to do, why did someone find it worth recording? If it was what he was supposed to do, would his comrade have said "That was mean." If it was what he was supposed to do why did Marine officials say that the video was "shocking and deplorable".

But there's no need for him to apologise to you because you understand his nature, right?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No wonder the VC hated Americans so much. Freaking cannibal Marines! Baby eaters!!!! I suppose the napalm was just to cook with, eh? Sickos.
dude, killed animals and ate animals...
 

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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'It's not fair! Another guy shot a dog in the belly and everyone laughed! Damn media! But I'm truly sorry.' hahahahaha!
 

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I don't know why people are so pissed. It was a %#&!*% STRAY!!! Get the %#&!*% over it! You know how many people I see get blown away on a regular basis?!?! %#&!*% Man Not only the towle heads out here but my own friends!" Sorry you guys saw that, but it wasn't supposed to ever been shown. Usually what happens is we shoot them. I was being "creative" that day and decided to throw the dog instead. If i could take it back, I would. Either way, I did the dog a favor. Sorry if you can't understand that."
He doesn't want to take it back because he knows what he did is wrong, but because he got caught for it. And this is being a little extreme, but is throwing a Jew off a cliff doing him a favor? People say that those are two different things, but they aren't. The mindset is the same.

This thread is exhausted and I gave up on it a while ago, because there's a clear lack of understanding by both sides.

Personally, I view cruelty itself as bad regardless of who/what it's directed toward. First it's burning ants in your backyard with a magnifying glass. Then it's tossing puppies off cliffs. Next it's harpooning endangered whales in the antarctic. After that it's killing crippled and elderly people. Lastly it's killing everyone else that you don't personally know.

All of that shows a complete lack of regard for life, and a lack of compassion.

I'm not saying to be some flower boy and live life sniffing roses and hugging trees, but there's a gray area called 'being a man' where you can still feel powerful in your own way while at the same time showing respect for life itself.
 

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Francisco,

You asked:

"If it was what he was supposed to do he wouldn't need to apologise would he?"

Not necessarily for the situation, if he needs to apologise for anything it would be for his joyful expression over the act of killing and not for the killing itself. The killing of the puppy is what I was referring to.

"Why did someone find it worth recording?"

Probably because he was trying to show off and look tough. It was a pretty stupid move on his part if you ask me. If he really needed to keep the puppy quiet and couldn't risk firing his weapon without giving away his position to the enemy, then he could have simply stomped the puppy to death. It would be the most logical thing to do in that situation and what I probably would have done to ensure that the dog was in fact dead. If the dog survived the fall, it would only make more noise down below the cliff and be much harder to reach and eliminate, thus risking the lives of all those in his squad.

"Why would his comrade have said "That was mean." If it was what he was supposed to do?

Because it was mean. I'm sure that little puppy didn't think it was a very nice thing to do, but it sounds to me like killing the dog was something that he was supposed to do, and probably even ordered to do. For example, Sergeant Edward Watson, who actually sent a stray dog from Iraq to his home in Phoenix, AZ was ordered to get rid of the animal or shoot it because pets are not allowed on base.


"Why did Marine officials say that the video was "shocking and deplorable?"

Well, because the video was shocking and deplorable... didn't you watch it?

"But there's no need for him to apologise to you because you understand his nature, right?"

I said that I understood the situation, but I condemn him for taking pleasure in the act of killing and for allowing it to be filmed for future reference (or perhaps enjoyment?). It is for this reason alone that he needs therapy. I never disputed that fact.
 
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm not saying to be some flower boy and live life sniffing roses and hugging trees, but there's a gray area called 'being a man' where you can still feel powerful in your own way while at the same time showing respect for life itself.
People too?

Or do you still think that we have more in common with a plague than with nature...:eek:
 

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mine did and he said it was better with kim-che (however you spell it)
Kim Chi. And kim chi is korean, not vietamese.


and if you wanna talk about killing for fun, NOBODY has ANYTHING on the japanese.

http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=rape+of+nanking&gbv=2

(seriously, don't click the above link unless you got a strong stomach)

but this is only RECORDED history. people are capable of some sick a$$ sh!t during wars.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
Kim Chi. And kim chi is korean, not vietamese.


and if you wanna talk about killing for fun, NOBODY has ANYTHING on the japanese.

http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=rape+of+nanking&gbv=2

(seriously, don't click the above link unless you got a strong stomach)

but this is only RECORDED history. people are capable of some sick a$$ sh!t during wars.
That's interesting. And people even within the US, and probably mostly within, use the A-Bomb argument against the US. While not a great thing it probably saved more lives than it took for both sides. Then they springboard that same reasoning into arguments about how the US is so bad and destruction in Iraq. And not that I think we should be in Iraq but definitely not for those reason that we're doing so much wrong though.
 

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People too?

Or do you still think that we have more in common with a plague than with nature...:eek:
You're so shallow bro.

And since you keep bringing back what I said in the first or second page of this thread about humans having more in common with a plague than nature, I suppose I should back that up since you can't seem to get over it yourself.

I'll use personification to make this easier for you to comprehend:

Picture the earth as a living entity. If one was to view human existence on earth from a human perspective, how would you see us? Without digging too deep into the subjects of global warming, water pollution, toxic waste dumping, deforestation, landfills(the largest in the world is actually IN the pacific ocean), air pollution, and radioactive pollution(a la chernobyl).

Now look at 'nature' excluding humans from the mix.

I can't draw many parallels, can you?

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Now, just for you, I'll say this:

Perhaps I overstepped when I said
as a race we keep showing time and time again that we have more in common with a plague than we do with nature.
on page 2. Instead, I'll be a little more specific, so you can quote this as many times as you like:

"as a race, since the industrial revolution, we keep showing time and time again that we have more in common with a plague than we do with nature."

That doesn't mean I hate people. Heck I love people, I work in hospitality right now. That has no bearing on my views of humans as a people though.

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Can you wrap your head around all that, Aboleo?
 

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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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ketostix said:
That's interesting. And people even within the US, and probably mostly within, use the A-Bomb argument against the US. While not a great thing it probably saved more lives than it took for both sides. Then they springboard that same reasoning into arguments about how the US is so bad and destruction in Iraq. And not that I think we should be in Iraq but definitely not for those reason that we're doing so much wrong though.
Actually, that is pretty much propaganda (the drop the bomb to save lives theory). The real reason we dropped the bomb is becasue we wanted the war to end BEFORE the frikkin RUSSIANS got their grubby communist paws on japan. It actually probably DID save more lives, but don't be fooled that was the reasoning behind it.

could you imagine a world where japan existed partially behidn the iron curtain?

no godzilla, no toshiro mifune, akira kurisawa, wicked cool japanese porn, catalytic converters...
 

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Quiksilver said:
You're so shallow.
You remind me of my ex-wife sometimes... no offence.


Quiksilver said:
I can't draw many parallels, can you?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDMm9AVo8yE&feature=related



You know, Quick... I would actually agree with you to a certain extent about the industrial revolution and how it has lead to the possible downfall of our civilization. Like you, I see many problems with the world today and how we are treating our little planet. But unlike you, I don't think that the solutions to these problems lie in frolicking through "Imagination Land" hand in hand with a magical leprechaun... it is a little late to turn back the clock on our society. I also fail to see what any of this has to do with a somewhat psychotic individual throwing a puppy from a mountian top (or why that dogs life is equal to any one of the large number of human war casualties, for that matter).

If being a realist makes me seem shallow and unimaginative, so be it.


Peace out, Bro.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
Kim Chi. And kim chi is korean, not vietamese.
thank you for the spelling correction:)
it doesn't matter if it came from vietnam or korea, my father only participated in the vietnam war, and it was over in vietnam where he learned what kim chi was.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
Actually, that is pretty much propaganda (the drop the bomb to save lives theory). The real reason we dropped the bomb is becasue we wanted the war to end BEFORE the frikkin RUSSIANS got their grubby communist paws on japan. It actually probably DID save more lives, but don't be fooled that was the reasoning behind it.

could you imagine a world where japan existed partially behidn the iron curtain?

no godzilla, no toshiro mifune, akira kurisawa, wicked cool japanese porn, catalytic converters...

Well that's an additional valid reason, but I still say the USA and Japan both would've suffered mrore casualities before an unconditional surrender by Japan would've happened. Also along the lines of what you said about Russia, the USA had to fill some role of protecting Japanese from revengeful Chinese after their surrendor. Point is dropping the A-bombs wasn't necesarily the bad thing that some people make it out to be and the reason for them to support their claims that the US is always the villian.
 

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How about "It was a damn war and we knew they'd fold like a cheap tent".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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