mikeraw
Don Juan
Haven't posted here in a while but I want to pass on some advice to a friend of mine. He's a total beta with lots of alpha potential, but he's been pvssified and he's kinda clingy.
His GF of 5 months was cheating on him with a guy that she would bring up now and then. She went to her office party with him when she claimed to be going alone. She had an alternate facebook account. She's friends with sluts.
Apparently she was stringing both of them along for a while and she's supposedly with the other guy exclusively now. Classic example of branch swinging, however, she drunk texts him and calls him up saying that she can't stop thinking about him, etc... Apparently, (and he didn't tell me this but I found out through another friend) she and my friend made plans to meet a couple of weeks ago after a barrage of drunk texts on a SAT night. My friend showed up to the bar and got stood up. Typical.
Here's the kicker, though: She and him made plans to meet up again TODAY. He justifies it in a myriad ways, saying that he's over her and that he wants to see how he reacts. He says that she's a good girl and that he's not going to stoop down to her level by standing her up. That he wants to make her feel guilty by showing her that he has more class than her. That he's not the bad guy.
I've tried reasoning with him. I've told him that she won't care in the long run about anything he does today and that she'll actually see him as LESS if he shows up like a good boy. He doesn't follow my no contact advice. He is actually going to go pick her up so they can talk, but he says that there are no feelings.
What else can I tell him? What resources can I point him to so that he can get it in his head in the next few hours that he's shooting himself in the foot? Part of me wants to let him crash and burn, but he's been in a similar situation before, so he's obviously not learning...
Thanks for any advice!
Mike
His GF of 5 months was cheating on him with a guy that she would bring up now and then. She went to her office party with him when she claimed to be going alone. She had an alternate facebook account. She's friends with sluts.
Apparently she was stringing both of them along for a while and she's supposedly with the other guy exclusively now. Classic example of branch swinging, however, she drunk texts him and calls him up saying that she can't stop thinking about him, etc... Apparently, (and he didn't tell me this but I found out through another friend) she and my friend made plans to meet a couple of weeks ago after a barrage of drunk texts on a SAT night. My friend showed up to the bar and got stood up. Typical.
Here's the kicker, though: She and him made plans to meet up again TODAY. He justifies it in a myriad ways, saying that he's over her and that he wants to see how he reacts. He says that she's a good girl and that he's not going to stoop down to her level by standing her up. That he wants to make her feel guilty by showing her that he has more class than her. That he's not the bad guy.
I've tried reasoning with him. I've told him that she won't care in the long run about anything he does today and that she'll actually see him as LESS if he shows up like a good boy. He doesn't follow my no contact advice. He is actually going to go pick her up so they can talk, but he says that there are no feelings.
What else can I tell him? What resources can I point him to so that he can get it in his head in the next few hours that he's shooting himself in the foot? Part of me wants to let him crash and burn, but he's been in a similar situation before, so he's obviously not learning...
Thanks for any advice!
Mike