Upgrading my Life

[iwanttofight]

They say to be good with women you need to have a great life. What are some things we can do everyday so that we can improve our lifestyle?

 

[SoSuaveDude]

have fun and enjoy yourself without a woman first. Some will sense your positive, independent vibe and beg to aboard for the ride That is the main priority considering that any deviations from that will show insecurity and desperateness and ironically hurt your chances with all women.

Other things that might help. Upping your physique (workout more). Learn a trade. etc. You never want to do these things solely for the opposite sex though... Women are attracted to aggression and confidence, nuff said!

 

[Young Stallion]

They say to be good with women you have a great life. What are some things we can do everyday so that we can improve our lifestyle?

Stop posting on a message board and join a gym.

 

[FairShake]

Make goals and stick to them.
Don't neglect friends and family.
Be reliable and flexible.
Express your freaky/dorky side.

 

[Young Stallion]

Make goals and stick to them.
Don't neglect friends and family.
Be reliable and flexible.
Express your freaky/dorky side.

I like the first 3.

Expressing your freaky dorky side however...I would caution against that as people always interpret that stuff the wrong way.

I will also say that women see dorky quirky guys as friends, the guys who act more serious and have a witty sense of humor tend to create attraction much better.

I did like your post though.

 

[iwanttofight]

what about conversation skills? I am sure every woman wants a man with great conversation skills. I am sure improving my conversation skills will upgrade my lifestyle.

 

[Young Stallion]

what about conversation skills? I am sure every woman wants a man with great conversation skills. I am sure improving my conversation skills will upgrade my lifestyle.

A women wants a man with great conversation skills to be her friend.

A women wants a man who talks like an alpha male to be her lover.

Distinct difference.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

A women wants a man with great conversation skills to be her friend.

A women wants a man who talks like an alpha male to be her lover.

Distinct difference.

not always true. How exactly do you talk like an "alpha," and how long can one continue to portray that role. Not every conversation is meant to be "alpha". Is being alpha being an introvert who negs everyone he happens to encounter? Have fun being a social pariah if that's the fate you choose!

I don't even... Also you're flat out generalizing. I know some very social guys with women flocking all over them. Bottom line is if you have that "swagger" and meet her looks threshold, you're in!

 

[Young Stallion]

not always true. How exactly do you talk like an "alpha," and how long can one continue to portray that role. Not every conversation is meant to be "alpha". Is being alpha being an introvert who negs everyone he happens to encounter? Have fun being a social pariah if that's the fate you choose!

I don't even... Also you're flat out generalizing. I know some very social guys with women flocking all over them. Bottom line is if you have that "swagger" and meet her looks threshold, you're in!

I believe you are the one who is generalizing. Being an alpha male is not a portrayal of a role. It is the essence of ones self.

Being an alpha male isnt about being introverted or extroverted, it is what words one chooses to say an how they say them. It is also about your swagger as you have stated.

By the way negative comments as you stated in your generalization of the alpha persona is actually a very beta male trait.

One can be an introverted or extroverted person who doesnt come accross like a dominant man.

One can also be either an introverted or extroverted person who DOES come accross like a dominant man.

No social Pariah's to be seen here.

Also the OP was asking about ways to improve his life, not get caught up in this discussion we are now having.

The buck stops here, I shall comment on this no further.

 

[FairShake]

Expressing your freaky dorky side however...I would caution against that as people always interpret that stuff the wrong way.

I will also say that women see dorky quirky guys as friends, the guys who act more serious and have a witty sense of humor tend to create attraction much better.

At some point you're going to have to show that side if you have one. And I'm assuming most guys on this board not only have one but have it in spades. We're on a message board talking to strangers about our problems afterall.

Anyway, unless you're going for one night stands in the club constantly there is no need to keep up the detached alpha presence. If you work with the woman or are in her presence for a long period of time it becomes too much effort. While being socially savvy is one of my key tenants to having success with women, having fun is the other. Showing your dork side is essentially the best way to have fun since it is pretty much you unencumbered. If you do it at the right times (when you two are alone, or with kids, or with old people, etc.) not only will you attract women but you will attract the right kind of women.

Edit: Besides isn't alpha the essence of one's self. If being one's self is having a dork side (and again, we ALL do) then the alpha thing would be to show it off and enjoy it.