ok read your thread now
Ok first was the one hour conversation.
I am just going to pick things out here from your post.
Date set up:
Your assuming way too much from this girl and her LTR.
Stating a dinner date was weird! could imply a lot of things.
I would have progressed it and asked her what she prefers!
Then followed it up and not made a conversation about dinner dates, assumed about other BF or AFC labels.
Her life and interests are better spoke about in person, if you go down the route of phone calls when you come to meet you, will be all dry for topics of conversation. Or the women maybe content to phone relationship type behaviours and push you to phone games, which will cost you in the long run! This is not just money but dates also, keep phone calls light and to the point of setting up meetings only!
Also she is taking the lead, no responding about going out? I have no idea why, what was the purpose of the phone call?
Set up a meeting based on facts not assumptions.
Work situation, be careful with work related relationships, they can backfire. Also I would limit kino away from work if she complains about your persistence (which is a possibility at any stage) and your witness doing kino moves e.t.c, it could be translated as sexual harassment and pervy behaviour. Keep kino away from the office and for DATES!
Dating co-workers can get very messy, you have made it even more messier by taking away the discretion and made it public.
She may have liked you but your actions are borderline stupid, no offence. Some have already pointed it out.
To include others from work just made the situation heighten, instead of relaxed.
But and this is a big BUT.
The women is 42 she has two kids, she may not have had a man in a while and is keen for one.
She may have interest due to her age.
An hour on the phone does equal she likes you, since she would not waste that much time, it could also mean she is lonely, another plus on yourside as she may be looking for companionship.
Also I would question why she is divorced or single at 42 with two kids, it would raise questions.
Your also acting like this is going to be a relationship.
Are you sure this is a good move?
A 42 year old women with two kids, is this the best you can get?
She probably thinks what the hell does he see in me and you know she would be right!
What are you doing?
Also cancerian stop assuming what this women wants, FFS man!
I assume she has had too many as*holes in her life, wtf is that>?
cancerian your not practicing DJ skills on this chick at all, what you are doing is qualifying yourself for a LTR with her ground rules. If this turns out that way.
Nothing you have done shows this is your game, this is very much her game and she is fundumentally playing with a little boy!
first rule:
stop assuming every, dam thing.
Take charge in situations.
Stop letting control take over.
Either get your result or wait it out, not settle for her frame i.e chatting for an hour, living by her rules her dating set up.
your a busy guy with a life, you not at her discretion.
You need to take more charge of what you want and stop allowing assumptions to qualify the control that others are having or justifying things that are not going your way.
You cant have everything!
Now next time you speak to make it clear you either want a date! If she turns you down, simply ask her when she is free, if she gives you some stupid remark then MOVE ON! instead what you will do is assume your not an AFC or an As*hole and try to make small talk.
get the hint and grow those balls, now is the time
Oh and use women over 42 as FB only.
