UPDATE on "BAD Situation"

[level006]

I never thought it would feel so awkward to talk to someone online.

Basically, after this girl figured out that I liked her on MSN, talk about our feelings and situations at the moment came up. The convo lasted around an hour and I'm afraid that it was an extreme "AFC" move to say "yes" after she asked if I liked her the way she thought I did.

So the last few days have been HELL. I've been appearing offline most of the time just waiting for her to log on. Her and I usually go on MSN at around 11 o'clock at night, but I've had the thing on all day because of it.

And when we DO talk...well...here's a sample:

She opened up the first convo. "Hey"
I responded with a "Hey, what's up?"
"N2M and you?"
"Not much"
Small talk. I f***ing hate small talk.
So we continue to talk. She's asking stuff like "so how are you?"
And I say "Good."

I have the feeling that she really wanted me to say something about the last night's convo. But I didn't. I realize now that if she's really wanting this, that means both her and I want "power"; we both want the other person to say something first. Two convos now, long awkward pauses, lots of stupid small talk. Should I just say something?! I know it would be a very AFC-move, or you guys might say "FORGET ABOUT HER", but I don't want to forget about her. Obviously, she's not forgetting about me. It's like she's trying to get ME to say something. So what do I do?

 

[JH6]

you get her number and talk to her on the phone then meet her in person.

Talking to girls on the internet is fine when you first meet online or whatever, but you need to end that phase really fast and move on to actually having real contact with them.

I f'd up two interesting girls just by talking to them online and never getting to the phone or actual meeting.

The result is both girls were single, and liked me alot but now both have boyfriends.

Give her your phone number and say you want to do something on such and such a date.

Waiting for a girl to come online is weirdo, i have done it before and I think back on it, yeah thats creepy.

 

[level006]

If you had read "BAD Situation"...well, she's in a relationship. When I asked who it was that she was with, she said it was personal.

So wouldn't it be awkward if a guy like me and a girl like her (who is in a relationship) met up and talked in person about how we feel about each other? I don't even know if she likes me that way. She just said "it wouldn't work because I'm with someone at the moment." She DOES seem to care about how I'm feeling though.

 

[JH6]

No its not akward at all.

If she says anything about a boyfriend, then just ignore it like she didn't say anything at all.

Keep your game tight and keep rolling.

She is only saying that she has a bf to convince herself that she is doing a bad thing, and if you acknowledge this at all, then you are confirming that she is doing a bad thing.

Unless she is married with a ring, then its fair game.

do it do it.

 

[level006]

Okay. I just feel like it's a bigger deal for me. I had asked to hang out with her before. She had said she couldn't cause her boyfriend would be all suspicious 'n s**t. How would THIS work?

 

[08aisaac]

I just want to know if you have ever met her in real life? I assume you have. Well you have to LJBF her and move on. It took me a while to stop obsessing over girls but that is what you need to stop doing. Find something else to do and read the dj bible in the mean time and do some major reading and you will realise what you are doing wrong. Read weapons of mass seduction by senor fingers.