I posted about this recently, and it's been going on for a while.
Whether you're new to this story or a returning customer, let me preface this by saying I'm not interested in just spinning plates forever and ever and only using women for sex and procreation. I'm more than happy to do the LTR dance with the right chick, but right now this chick might be on her way out...
Dating since the summer, see each other once a week, all based on my making plans via text. She responds quickly and enthusiastically and we have fun dates with crazy sex and sleepovers. Between those dates, though, nothing.
I feel this girl is way more GF material than my other plate who is actually asking for an LTR, yet I can't get her to send a text just to check in let alone make plans herself.
After another fun date that included the usual amount of wild sex and affection, I decided to not initiate and now it's been two weeks since I've heard from her. No merry xmas. No happy new years. Pretty crazy and disrespectful when you consider the dynamics of our relationship in person - she was out with me and a friend the other week and was holding my hand the entire time, offering to pay for the meal, etc.
Every once and a while I'll latch on to a piece of advice, like from Greasy Pig in this other thread, where I'll think, hey, maybe some girls just vehemently believe it is up to the guy to initiate always. Maybe she believes that a guy is supposed to initiate the LTR. But, come on, even if that's true - does that mean not dropping me a quick text over the holidays?
With plate #2 getting pissy about being in an LTR and plate #1 seemingly not at all wondering where I am, this is a frustrating time. At this point, I'm convinced that if I never talk to to this girl again then I'll never hear from her. I started off being of strong mind about that... but now that it's been two weeks I'm doing that rationalizing away bad behavior thing: maybe she thinks I was just using her, maybe she's wondering why I never talked about being exclusive, maybe she's wondering why I didn't text her over the holidays, etc. Basically, I'm worried that I'm the one blowing a good thing.
I know this is stupid, because everything I've learned on here has taught me that a girl who is interested will act interested - i.e. after all these months she probably wouldn't just let me disappear unless that's what she wanted. Still, it's always hard to know on here when the advice is coming from a jaded albeit highly repped person on here or someone who has had stable, successful relationships.
Opinions?
P.S. Just found this older post of mine. Why can't I take my own advice
Whether you're new to this story or a returning customer, let me preface this by saying I'm not interested in just spinning plates forever and ever and only using women for sex and procreation. I'm more than happy to do the LTR dance with the right chick, but right now this chick might be on her way out...
Dating since the summer, see each other once a week, all based on my making plans via text. She responds quickly and enthusiastically and we have fun dates with crazy sex and sleepovers. Between those dates, though, nothing.
I feel this girl is way more GF material than my other plate who is actually asking for an LTR, yet I can't get her to send a text just to check in let alone make plans herself.
After another fun date that included the usual amount of wild sex and affection, I decided to not initiate and now it's been two weeks since I've heard from her. No merry xmas. No happy new years. Pretty crazy and disrespectful when you consider the dynamics of our relationship in person - she was out with me and a friend the other week and was holding my hand the entire time, offering to pay for the meal, etc.
Every once and a while I'll latch on to a piece of advice, like from Greasy Pig in this other thread, where I'll think, hey, maybe some girls just vehemently believe it is up to the guy to initiate always. Maybe she believes that a guy is supposed to initiate the LTR. But, come on, even if that's true - does that mean not dropping me a quick text over the holidays?
With plate #2 getting pissy about being in an LTR and plate #1 seemingly not at all wondering where I am, this is a frustrating time. At this point, I'm convinced that if I never talk to to this girl again then I'll never hear from her. I started off being of strong mind about that... but now that it's been two weeks I'm doing that rationalizing away bad behavior thing: maybe she thinks I was just using her, maybe she's wondering why I never talked about being exclusive, maybe she's wondering why I didn't text her over the holidays, etc. Basically, I'm worried that I'm the one blowing a good thing.
I know this is stupid, because everything I've learned on here has taught me that a girl who is interested will act interested - i.e. after all these months she probably wouldn't just let me disappear unless that's what she wanted. Still, it's always hard to know on here when the advice is coming from a jaded albeit highly repped person on here or someone who has had stable, successful relationships.
Opinions?
P.S. Just found this older post of mine. Why can't I take my own advice