UPDATE: Get er Done

[nan3109]

From the previous post "Get Er Done"

<quote>ok here's a quick question

there's this girl, i met her monday when i got back to my room and she was my roomies friend from a class

well, she was talking to me alot and even told me she was into me and thought i was really cute, so thurs and fri we both got drunk together in my room... when we would talk she would talk about relationship type stuff and other crap

well, we ended up in my room both nights (thurs we were alone, friday her friend and my guy friend were there) and dancing with party-type lights and my subs hooked up. Really sexual dancing. She let me rub her anywhere I wanted really and when we stumbled onto my roomies bed I got her shirtless, kissing her neck, titties (sucking and nibblin) and playin with her puss on the outside of her pants (i would've went down them but my friend was in the room on friday).

so.... when i try to kiss her she giggles and smiles (blushing) alot and turns her head and tells me how kissing is meaningful and she cant yet, she has a 5 date rule or something

so what should i do? keep persuing or take her on a date (like out to dinner) or next her?</quote>

UPDATED:

Well last night i went over to her room to watch a movie and i had kissed her on the cheek when we she was in my lap with a pillow which she never complained about before really (well shes been drunk the other times) but she said something like remember her rule (which is she cant do stuff with the guy until shes hung out with him 5 times) ..... so then when i asked her how many times its been she said "remember that you said we should just first be friends and see how it turns out"..... what do you think bro? Yeah a little AFC I know. we're supposed to go to Red Lobster like on tuesday and im plannin on suprising her with a single rose to make it a little more romanitc because i know she like's that occassional shiitt, just not all the time she said.

So my friend told me I was being her ***** by obeying that rule but then I think maybe she's just looking for a relationship and doesn't want to come off as a slut. She's told me numerous times that she's interested in me physically for sure. My friend also told me that I should not kiss her when i take her to red lobster. What do you guys think? IT will be the 5th

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[nan3109]

OH COME ON, SOMEBODY HAS TO HAVE AN OPINION on this and what I should do , im planning on going on with her like tuesday and not talkign to her until then so i have something to talk to her when we go out then. Then i may ask her what she's looking for, try to read her and shiit

HELP!!!!!??

 

[Wiesman44]

No matter what people say, a rose or two will definitely help. Play it slow. Maybe she just wants to ease into things. She's definitely looking for a relationship and doesn't want to get sexual yet. If she won't even do make-out sessions, thats a little fishy though.


My advice is to be patient. Talk to her about relationships. Maybe she's a commitment phobe ? Seems like she definitely could be, b/c thats what most say when they're scared of being in relationships. If she is a committment phobe, drop her like a bad habit.

 

[Anaxibios]

If you are very interested in her, go out a couple of times more and try the LTR approach. If you just want to get w her, she is the wrong type.

The rose sounds like a great idea. You might also try using a little more kino, it sometimes gets them "interested" enough to break a "rule".

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

knock her off her pedestal

You can think of it any way you'd like....but all this "5 date rule" crap is her way of saying "I want to be in control". It has nothing to do with being hurt before, not wanting to be a slut, fear of commitment, etc. Those are all just plausible excuses.

They say men get a thrill from sex with girls they just met and women get as thrill from sex with men know they feel an emotional connection with. She's either consciously or subconsciously using this against you now by holding out in order to gain control.

The point is, knock her of the pedestal she is trying to put herself on by subjecting you to this "5 date rule" garbage. Think about it.....how you two first got this going is enough to suggest that this isn't some innocent church girl man...give me a break. Do NOT give her flowers......never never do this before the LTR. Never give ANY kinds of presents for that matter before you are definetely in a LTR.

She's testing you right now and looking for weakness. Giving roses/presents at this point only sends the message that you're a wuss. Don't fall for the notion you see on TV that the "nice guy" trying to get the reluctant women at first does it with roses and wins her over. That's all fantasy.

Back to reality. Maybe you've heard this before, but women like to do the chasing even if they won't admit it (but then again they never admit to anything). I mentioned earlier to knock her off her pedestal....how to do this? First like I said do not give her ANY flowers/gifts of any kind. Then start slowly withdrawing from her. Give her less and less attention with each passing day. Phone her less and less every day. Return phone calls 1-2 days later...etc. Remember the point of this is not to be mean or be an *******, just knock her off that pedestal and turn the tables around on her. This shows her you don't NEED her and that she NEEDS YOU. This is the message you want to deliver, not the other way around by giving her flowers and acting like a wuss because she won't kiss you.

 

[TizZle]

Knocking her off of her pedestal seems like a good idea.