"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Upcoming Young Party

Bunsen11

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Hey Djs,
One more customized problem!
I was talking to my girl and asked her what we should do for our next date (my mistake, I should've suggested it), but she mentioned how her friend is having a party on Friday. Now I would go but its a party for a girl 2 grades younger than me (gf's age). There will probably be a fair amount of people but Im not sure whether to go or not.
I have asked her to come to a couple of my age parties, but she has said she rather not.
Are parties a bad idea for a 3rd date(3 weeks in)?
We both have a busy schedule.
Should I go? Yes or no?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kegger

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YES, go. Since you will be one of the oldest there just act cool and make the others look up to you. Be the big shot, make them all want to be around you. Walk with your head high, as you walk by someone say coolly "hey, whats up so and so" and walk on. Make them want to be around you, it will also look good to ur GF.
 

Patrick124

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You're a junior yes?
see if she wants to chill that afternoon. if you drive, swing by the party and check it out. or invite your boys to come. tell em its a freshman party and its hunting season.
and then u have your boys and your girl and a party. should be fun.
if its gay...then leave. have a backup plan.
 

oakraiderz2

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If youre a junior going to a freshman party you need to hit yourself. Go to steal alcohol but dont chill, thats fuggin gay.
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by GoSens
Why does it matter?

Anyway, I say go.
Are you serious?? You dont crash down, UNLESS you plan to steal their alcohol. Not to sound shall, but losers go to younger kids parties just to hang out. If it was a sophmore itd be one thing, but not freshmen.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AC/DC

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You're an upperclassmen.

Sure freshmen are nice and cool and original.

But you're approaching adulthood, you cannot be kickin it with pre-pubescent kiddies that think they know ****.
 
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