"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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after_f_x

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Here is the situation. I have been with this woman 2 times. Both of these times I get all the right signals that, she likes me. The problem is that both of these times she kept saying to me how unhappy she used to be with her former boyfriends. How stupid they act, blah, blah, blah…
What do you make of that? Never happened to me before so I do not know what to make of it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I guess such a comment could be taken in various ways. She could be saying this in order to illustrate how great you really are and contrast her former boyfriends. Or, it could be the opposite, and she is trying to tell you that you're going down that same path. Or, she could, for whatever reason be seeking attention. I suppose whats important in finding out her meaning would be her body language when she says such things, and the context in which she says it.

If she gives all the signs that she likes you though it will probably be the first or third thing I said thats happening.
 

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When a girl talks alot about their exes, it cold also mean they haven't really gotten over them.
 

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If she was telling me about one guy that would be the case. But all of them? How can she not be over all of them.Besides she doesn't say the nicest things about them. She just says what they did wrong...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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STOP! Don´t think about what she maybe thinks of you and stop wasting time looking at "signals".

Instead, do what has do be done. ;)
 

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Originally posted by milkman
STOP! Don´t think about what she maybe thinks of you and stop wasting time looking at "signals".

Instead, do what has do be done. ;)

What has to be done?
 

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Don't get deflected by fluff. Do you like her?

If yes... then ask her out. If not don't. Ignore whatever she says - judge the situation by what she does... not what she says.
 

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Originally posted by after_f_x
What has to be done?
Do what has to be done to achieve what you want.

What do you want? If you want to kiss her, kiss her. If you want her to come to your house and **** with you, tell her to come to your house and fvck her.

As a man you have birthright to do the moves.

There are two fears that usually can stop you.

1) Fear of rejection when you approach her/get to know her.

- You already know her.

2) Fear of sexual rejection.

Don´t let this stop you, make a move.
 
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