"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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unusual stripper FR. big neil what do you think?

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$0 ive been doing that scene. Spending minimal money on dances. Just buying drinks, mostly for myself.


Got numbers, whatevs. .long story short...i made this one girl cry. After two weeks of talking with her. The Damn manager who never comes out...he shows up and tells me i cant be making the gurls cry. Im amazed, shes actually pouting and crying, which makes her more cute lol

I did get her to simmer down and got her number after but i texted and no reply. Whatevs.

But yea,she was all like, i cant believe you, i listened to your dads struggles, i liked you, yadda yadda. I did make her day though when i showed up. But it was crazy,,i bet her girls told management i made her cry.

BigNeil....thoughts?
I honestly just ignored her , i didnt make fun of her. I figured she was just sensitive at the moment. I do like her ...but wow...management did that?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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They have strange relationships with the bouncers and managers so you don't really know what is going on in that situation. I had that happen once and it's a traumatic experience when they get the mob involved. You need to be his friend also (meaning tip him as well). She tips him at the end of every shift. They spent a lot of time together. He knows what really goes on. He might have a crush also, and it's not unlikely she had sex with him (to cover tips or otherwise). As a general rule, once you care, once there are feelings at the club (hers or especially yours), you want to keep the relationship outside the club from that point on. It's a good problem to have. Remember, she is working when she is there. If you're not paying her, no wonder why she cried! No matter who your woman is, you ultimately pay her so she doesn't have to work for other men. That's why we as men have to earn more, not budget more. In this case you need to wait until she writes to you.
 
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