Unusual Oneitis

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No she's not your source of strength you are your source of strength. You are projecting onto her powers and abilities that she does not have. It just feels like that. She is not your motivation. You are your motivation but you have used her as a tool to motivate you. If it wasn't her it would be some other oneitis chick motivating you. It would be some other oneitis chick who you think is your other half. This crap would have happened ANYWAY---WITH ANOTHER GIRL---she just was the one you attracted in your life to play out this drama.

You are in trouble. Till death do us part. Dude cut this chick out of your life. You don't move on as long as you are still around her.

This is your life you're talking about here. You will not get on with your life as long as you still see her. Cut this chick out of your life ASAP.

STOP SEEING THIS GIRL.

That's my advice. And that's going to have be my last reply to you about this... because it's what you need to hear.

SAY GOODBYE TO THIS CHICK.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I can't help but to see her, man. We work in the same area. On average, twice a week I'll see her/talk to her. She's upbeat. I am too. In the beginning after a long hiatus of not seeing each other, I treated her with disdain and anonymity. But as it is though, we are friendly towards each other currently. Her smile is like a leap of light to me. It fills my soul. Makes me whole. She conducts my dead frame. Like a puppet, I am moved by her. Without her great light, I'd be all dark. I used to see her or look for her in crowds everwhere I'd go. She once asked me if what it would be like if we got married, to which I said, "That'd be like...Heaven." A royal f-up I know, but, at the time I was spellbound, with her tired face & eyes w/ frizzled hair at the airport with the multicolored mountains and streaking sunlight making it's last stand before tucking away for the night. We hugged, we kissed almost. Everything else was blocked out in her radiance, though tired she was, I loved her then and there, and now even.

 

[tsmith2334]

I can't help but to see her, man. We work in the same area. On average, twice a week I'll see her/talk to her. She's upbeat. I am too. In the beginning after a long hiatus of not seeing each other, I treated her with disdain and anonymity. But as it is though, we are friendly towards each other currently. Her smile is like a leap of light to me. It fills my soul. Makes me whole. She conducts my dead frame. Like a puppet, I am moved by her. Without her great light, I'd be all dark. I used to see her or look for her in crowds everwhere I'd go. She once asked me if what it would be like if we got married, to which I said, "That'd be like...Heaven." A royal f-up I know, but, at the time I was spellbound, with her tired face & eyes w/ frizzled hair at the airport with the multicolored mountains and streaking sunlight making it's last stand before tucking away for the night. We hugged, we kissed almost. Everything else was blocked out in her radiance, though tired she was, I loved her then and there, and now even.

Wow. I feel like this has gotta be a joke or something... sorry. I've had severe onenitis before (still have it a little bit now), but this is inanse.

 

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Well I hope he's not kidding around... that's just not cool. If this is serious this dude's in trouble and I hope he gets it together for his own good.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I am not, fellas. This has been going on since Sept. '05. I've had people tell me to "forGet about Her" in a snarly voice but they don't know her, never even met her. How can they know if she's good for me or not? I know this: She makes me alive. Before her, my legs were like lead, my eyes like sown shut with dark thoughts. When she stepped in and gave me her gift, her, then my life began to change. The next day after that emotional storm of a night my legs ached (because I'd become alive) - I'd come alive from years of being dead and not knowing or appreciating women. She made me see women for who they really are - different beings, fragile, and not very aware of their surroundings. Before then, I can say that I hated women because I did not understand them and their roles/limitations. She stepped in front of me and showed me Woman, like Eve did to Adam. She's four years younger than me, but she's still made for me, and I love her.

All other women, both young and old, whether first impressions negative or positive, desire me now. If it wasn't for her, this fact would not be the case. ALL women want me now. I have been changed, Drastically in a matter of 2 years, with the most change taking place in the first few seconds with this woman who I will always love.

 

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Don't need to know her. Don't care to know her. Some guy and some chick had sex one day, 9 months later she was born and her parents argued over who had to change her smelly diapers that stinked up the whole house that made people want to throw up. If she doesn't use deoderant her armpits stink. If she doesn't clip her nosehairs then there would be hundreds of black hairs hanging out of her nose and she would walk around all day thinking she's hot not knowing there were unsightly hairs out of her nose which was turning people off. She has hairy legs that she has to shave. If she didn't brush her teeth small children would die from her breath. Every month a bunch of blood and crap comes out of her ****. She probably has lots of pimples. She's a mammal, just like me, you, and your dog (or cat or hamster) or monkey. Or a possum. All made of the same stuff.

If you left her in a room for a month alone and came back to see what happened you would throw up and your little images would be dashed. The best thing you can do right now is ask her to eat lots of mexican food and to have gas attacks and force you to be in a small room with her while she has them.

Anyway I wrote that for any dude trying to learn how to unpedastal a woman. LOL.

I don't know what to make of your situation Poonani. It's never too late for anyone, but as for now, with your current mindset, in a website that's about how to help men be better with women, or how to be strong enough to handle women in the first place, you are in serious trouble. The whole point of this place is to get the women we desire, not to talk about how great it is to not have them and how wonderful that the women we love don't love us back, as if that's a good thing. Good luck though.

 

[The Deacon]

Just thought I'd share this experience with you. Basically I can't get this girl out of my head and it's getting a bit obsessive. I've overcome this in the past though ignoring the girl (not the same chick) and it's worked the last time I had oneitis. This time is different in the sense that although she's physically quite attractive whenever I talk to her she leaves me cold. Considering I feel 'head over heels' about this girl I should be digging her personality too but I can't.

Oneitises are really tough, especially if you're inexperienced. I think it's a bad idea to ignore them, though. If you ignore them, you tend to compound the problem. How often do you talk to this chick? Do you hang out with her? I know this sounds like conventional dating advice, but if you really like her that much, you should at least ask her out on a date or at least to hang out. I don't care what some pick-up artist told you (I like some of what they teach but not everything); action is far better than inaction.

And yes, oneitises are quite common among the male gender in general. Don't be ashamed of having one, but don't default to inaction whenever you get one. Roll with the punches. If you hang out with this chick, do some casual flirting and ask her out on a harmless little first date. If there's good vibing on the first date, get on the second one, blah blah you get the picture.

A common problem with oneitises is that you take the interactions far more seriously. There's already an emotional investment in a chick that you're heavily crushing on, and if you're rejected, it always hurts. Don't let this discourage you, just take a nice healthy dose of testosterone and git'r'done.