"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Unusual facebook dilemma

DJ Axton

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Okay, here we go. This has been bugging me for ages.

There's a girl who used to go out with someone I know. He broke up with her like a year ago, so no problems there. Now back when they were going out we went to a Christmas party at my high school (me, my mate and a few other friends), and he brought her along. She was taking loads of photos and I was in a few of them. Even though I did not say two words of her that night (and in fact never have) she added me as a friend on facebook.

Here is the dilemma. I have never ever ever spoken to her, but I'd like to. Of course, I can't think of a way to start a conversation. I can't really cold approach, considering she probably knows who I am and that I know who she is.

Any suggestions?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Analyzeit

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Wait you said a year???? lol have you talked to her since
 

nek08

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adding you as a friend on facebook doesn't mean anything.
 
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