"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Unsure about the First Date?

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Assuming you aren't able to escalate further, ask her these 2 questions.

"What do you think of me so far?"
"Do you plan on seeing me again?"

Now, a lot of guys will say this is beta as hell. In my experience, the more I know about where I stand with a woman, the better I can allocate my time. These 2 simple questions won't make her lose interest, if it's already established during the date.

Here's an excerpt from today's first date:

So, what do you think of me so far?

You're interesting, a little homophobic.
So we're hanging out again?
Do you want to?
I'll take that as a yes.
You are so arrogant
(Kiss close)

This does not excuse you from grabbing your nuts and going for the kiss. Regardless of the situation.
ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS go for the kiss close.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Solomon

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This can work and backfire as well

Here is a rule of thumb if she is interested let her ask first. Women will lie and say they wanna see you again and string you along. The women that wanna see you again will say this first and make it happen
 

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"What do you think of me so far?"
"Do you plan on seeing me again?"


I cant ever prescribe these two questions. I cringe.

While you are asking women these two questions...Im asking them to myself.

1.) What do I think of her so far?

2.) Do I like her enough to see her again?

Emphasis is on me. I could care less what she thinks...
 

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TheException said:
"What do you think of me so far?"
"Do you plan on seeing me again?"


I cant ever prescribe these two questions. I cringe.

While you are asking women these two questions...Im asking them to myself.

1.) What do I think of her so far?

2.) Do I like her enough to see her again?

Emphasis is on me. I could care less what she thinks...
Agreed.

If the dude has already developed some skills with women, then yeah he can get away with that. But if he has those skills, he can get away with whatever he wants.

I just wouldn't want this to be the first post that a newbie reads. Because if you don't have that confidence, then there's no way that anything good comes out of asking these questions.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've only tried it a few times myself, but I highly doubt she loses interest because of this. The only answer I am really looking for is, 'I think we should be friends.'
 

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Don't ask her anything!!!...TELL her...women want men who can make decisions and a man who takes charge. If she rejects u...well, then u know ur out...NEXT!!!

Not sure I have ever been rejected by a woman for a second date as long as I took charge and TOLD her "this is how it's gonna be".
 

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Big Nuts said:
Don't ask her anything!!!...TELL her...women want men who can make decisions and a man who takes charge. If she rejects u...well, then u know ur out...NEXT!!!

Not sure I have ever been rejected by a woman for a second date as long as I took charge and TOLD her "this is how it's gonna be".

Exactly! I was just about to post this, but Nuts beat me too it.

Any question rephrased as a statement generally works out much better at not only establishing attraction, but escalating it as well.









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If you tell her you like her and she's on the fence, you're fvcked.

Basically, women these days think that EVERYTHING that a guy does is desperate. If he calls, if he texts, if he asks her out on a date, if she is seeing anyone, if he talks to her...


You cannot do anything that makes you feel like you want to see her because she'll automatically assume you have no other options and are not getting laid.

You have to show you're getting laid multiple times per day, and only then can you keep her interest.
 
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