Unstable ground?

[Rubick]

Good day to you all, I'm just going to cut to the chase. So, I met this girl on the way home from a party a couple of weeks ago. We hit it off really well and we made plans to meet each other some time. So, two weeks ago we went to the movies and we had a really great time. She also texted me right after we parted.

A couple of days later she asked me if I wanted to meet her again, and I said yes. So, when the day arrives, I texted her asking at what time she wanted to meet, and I received a text where she told me that she had forgotten about a girl friend's birthday party, but that she would really like to see me the day after. I was cool with it, but also a little annoyed that she didn't tell me that before. I already had plans for the next day, so we agreed to meet after I was done with what I had to do.

So, on to the next day..I text her asking her if she wanted to meet up with me, and it was around 18-19 o'clock. Again, she cancels and writes that she is really tired and that we maybe can see each other the next week. At this point, I'm getting rather irritated, so I write her back, "Yeah, sure".

We texted a bit more back and forth, but after that day, I haven't heard from her since. It's only been 2 days, so I may just be overreacting, but I'm still thinking of why she would cancel two times in a row, and why she haven't texted me on Facebook or anything. Now, I did receive a Snapchat from her yesterday, but it was just a funny pic that she could've sent to anybody, but at least it was a sign that she hadn't forgotten about me completely, and so today I sent her a similar snap back.

Sorry for such a long text, but do you guys have any advice regarding what I should do at this point? I think I really like this girl, haha. Shall I wait for her to talk to me, or should I be the one taken the initiative here?

 

[Bokanovsky]

We texted a bit more back and forth, but after that day, I haven't heard from her since. It's only been 2 days, so I may just be overreacting, but I'm still thinking of why she would cancel two times in a row, and why she haven't texted me on Facebook or anything.

I think you already know the answer (and it's a pretty obvious one).

 

[Rubick]

I think you already know the answer (and it's a pretty obvious one).

Maybe I do, but at the same time, she could actually have forgotten about it, and when she wrote me that she was tired and that it was getting laid, I want to believe her, ofcourse. It would make sense that she was tired(excuse n2) and that she forgot about her gf birthday(excuse n1), because she went on a girls trip to Berlin, and came home the day the birthday was..Ah, this is really frustrating

 

[Bokanovsky]

Maybe I do, but at the same time, she could actually have forgotten about it, and when she wrote me that she was tired and that it was getting laid, I want to believe her, ofcourse. It would make sense that she was tired(excuse n2) and that she forgot about her gf birthday(excuse n1), because she went on a girls trip to Berlin, and came home the day the birthday was..Ah, this is really frustrating

Don't be naive.

 

[Greasy Pig]

A woman who really wants to see you won't give a fvck if she's tired. She'll drag her tired arse out of the house and meet a guy she really likes.
Don't ask her out again, wait till she asks you.
And start spinning plates!

 

[Tictac]

Wait.

If you hear nothing, move on.

Meanwhile, make some new 'friends'

 

[NewJack]

It's only been 2 days, so I may just be overreacting

It's a good idea to develop inner strength (however you choose to do this) so you can counterbalance the excitement which is pushing you off balance.

The Self should be something strong to grasp onto. We don't want to enter a mild nervous panic when a new romantic prospect doesnt write back right away. You may inadvertently be screening for women who are desperate and have no options (aka they REALLY LIKE YOU according to the DJ model, so they answer your texts RIGHT AWAY).

Sometimes what we incorrectly perceive as 'low interest level' in actual reality means: "I'm an interesting person with an interesting life that doesnt start and stop the moment you send a text."
Sometimes what we incorrectly perceive as 'high interest level' in actual reality means:
"I'm bored and want you to save me from myself."

Imagine what the relationship looks like with a person from the second example.

 

[Rubick]

Thank you all for the answers! I just wont to make this clear: I have not been clingy. So, day 3 since we last spoke, and I haven't heard from her yet. I want to know what's happening, so I can stop going over the situation again and again in my mind. Shall I just wait and maybe she contacts me, or could I perhaps write to her, just to find out if she's no longer interested and then get some peace of mind?