unreturned call/email

[Obsidian]

Hey guys,

If you go out with a girl once and then get her number at the close of the date...then you call her several days later to schedule something else and don't hear back,

should you:
1) leave another message explaining that you don't tolerate rudeness
or
2) just blow her off in a more passive manner

I've studied this issue somewhat on my own but I wanted y'all's opinions.

 

[Kev07]

WHY would you leave a message explaining you don't tolerate rudeness

read what you said over again

"leave another message explaining that you don't tolerate rudeness"

that is so needy/weak/ i dont even know what to say.

if you called a cell phone, she should know that you call, next her, and if she calls you, then find out what's up.

 

[Obsidian]

err, it doesn't seem all that needy to me...

I would've been okay with her actually turning me down or whatever, but to not even respond just seems obnoxious. Option 2 doesn't seem any more needy than just ignoring her disrespect. (I'm sure I'll run into this girl again at point anyway so it would be kinda nice to set things straight instead of leaving things in limbo)

but i'll consider what you said, at least. anyone else have an opinion?


<<Clarification: If I contacted her at again at all, it would probably be via email>>

 

[00Kevin]

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[00Kevin]

you retards have it all wrong. a DJ avoids emails and text messages.

Use the phone and leave a short message that says, "hey its yourrrr lover , call me back" and hang up.

if she calls you back ask her out. If she text messages you ignore her.

 

[Phyzzle]

to not even respond just seems obnoxious.

It is NOT obnoxious. It is normal. This is how women reject men, and there's nothing rude about it. It's up to you to take the hint before becoming a pest yourself. Read Miss Manners if you want; I'm telling you it's not rude for her to screen her calls to keep out of contact with you.

 

[ryannath]

Yes, that is a woman's nice way of rejecting a guy, but personally, I could handle, "I'm not interested in you" much easier than a girl ignoring me.

If you wanted you could call one more time and leave this message and if she doesn't call you back this time, you know she is not interested for sure. Say, "this is my second call that you haven't picked up, so something must be up...this will be my last call to you if you don't call back."

 

[Obsidian]

yeah, maybe so

I was kinda surprised not to hear back because she seemed really into me at first and I did a pretty solid job of playing cool the whole date. But maybe I just misread things, or screwed up, or something.

 

[Ace_McGregor]

I hear ya bro. I took a girl out a couple of weeks ago. She seemed like she was into me. I called a couple of nights later, she didn't answer so I left a quick "call me " message. I never heard back so I waited a week and tried calling again. She didn't answer, so I left one last message. Now it's time for me to move on...

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Time to make our own rules with this.

The Rule of 3 for unreturned calls will go like this.

What this guy did for the first message makes sence, leaving a schedule to meet and see if she gets back.

So, give this girl 3 days to return your call, if she hasn't returned this first call.

Then call again and leave another message the second time (a bit more empathetic than the first - i.e., I didn't hear from you and was waiting for your call, is everything ok? )

Give another 3 days for her to return that message, if she doesn't, then only try three attempts to contact her in person shielding your number.

Then NEXT her if she doesn't call back.

Put things into perspective that this is your personal legal process and treat every girl the same way, you are just 'processing' her through the system and dont care what the outcome is as it's your system and it goes by your rules, whatever you want the rules to be.

 

[Obsidian]

err, just heard back from her...She left early on Friday for a track meet and has been out of town all weekend (after I called Thursday night)

doh

I think your system might be reaching a little too far, Luke. If she blew me off after two messages I'd force myself to forget about her.

On the bright side, this perceived crisis gave me an incentive to buckle down and start reading the Book of Pook.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

err, just heard back from her...She left early on Friday for a track meet and has been out of town all weekend (after I called Thursday night)

doh

Be careful you dont get friendzoned or get played around by her.

I think your system might be reaching a little too far, Luke. If she blew me off after two messages I'd force myself to forget about her.

You'd force yourself not to continue trying to call her and wait for her to return any one of those two messages rather than leaving more messages in her answering machine. You'd force yourself to save your ego and not look like it's bothering you whether she is validating you or not by returning your call.

The point or message of the legal system is not to care. If she calls back, great, if she doesn't call back, great too, you already know what you are going to do in either scenerio. When it starts to matter that's when all crap breaks lose with these girls, and if they dont lose interest altogether, then they may friendzone you or have you as a second choice to someone else that's coming across as more of a challenge to them.

If she's meant for you, then she'll get back with you (as she did here) without you worrying about it and it will work out somehow, if she's not meant for you, then why worry about something you never had in the first place - so people shouldn't care about outcomes, they should know what they will do about particular outcomes that are unfavourable in a systematic form so as not to lose their cool, and that's it.

 

[LA_Chico]

Be careful you dont get friendzoned or get played around by her.



You'd force yourself not to continue trying to call her and wait for her to return any one of those two messages rather than leaving more messages in her answering machine. You'd force yourself to save your ego and not look like it's bothering you whether she is validating you or not by returning your call.

The point or message of the legal system is not to care. If she calls back, great, if she doesn't call back, great too, you already know what you are going to do in either scenerio. When it starts to matter that's when all crap breaks lose with these girls, and if they dont lose interest altogether, then they may friendzone you or have you as a second choice to someone else that's coming across as more of a challenge to them.

If she's meant for you, then she'll get back with you (as she did here) without you worrying about it and it will work out somehow, if she's not meant for you, then why worry about something you never had in the first place - so people shouldn't care about outcomes, they should know what they will do about particular outcomes that are unfavourable in a systematic form so as not to lose their cool, and that's it.[/QUOTE/

Bro, stop giving advice. Virgin/10