Unresolved/repressd feelings

[T|CK]

Have you ever had a woman you were crazy about, but everything you had with her fell apart? Even after a long time of even seeing her or hearing from yher, you still have those immense feelings resonate within you whenever she's is around? Those exact feelings are the reason that you didn't want her in your life anymore. The more you cared, the more you got hurt. So, you knew you couldn't care anymore, but occasionally she comes around and those feelings come right back. Maybe you just saw her talking to someone at the grocery store or walking down the hall at school, but even though you've been away from her so you could get over it all, you still have those damn feelings jump on your back.

Why is it that those feelings come back? I personally thought I didn't care. You know "out of site out of mind"? It really isn't that I don't care. It's just that I've repressed those feelings. How do you get rid of them?

I know what some will say. It's all in my head. I believe that, but I also believe that anytime you invest time with someone, your feelings become involved. We cannot deny our feelings. It's impossible to deny your feelings. What is the best remedy?

I've dated several different women since this one, but not one of them have met the intensity that I felt with her. I was hoping that would get rid of it. I've dated multiple women at once. While that kept the women interested because I didn't have the desperation I would have while chasing one tail, my old feelings were only reppressed and not resolved. How the hell do you get rid of them so you can move on?

 

[darkme_legendary]

They are still there in your subconscious mind until you get over them.
You have to trace back and to apply certain techniques on them.
For example EFT and other that are even better to destroy negative emotions.

Don't think that if you have the attitude of "I don't give a f*** about what other people think of me."'(this is just an example) then you are going to let go of all the emotional influence coming from the past. This is not the case.
Also if you override these negative past mindsets/or negative emotions usually they will still be bothering you.(Examples: 1.You access the past negative emotion again when you feel a little bit low. Other times they just pop out in your mind. 2. You have periods when you are in the state and other periods when you are nervous or anxious. These alternative periods are mostly due to your past that is coming back in your mind.)

Learn how to get more control over your neurology.

 

[Perfect10]

Funny that you said that 'cause I'm having a same kind of "problem".

I've got the "" on the word problem because I see it more as a chance, second chance or if you wish, a solution for that feeling to get away.

I'M GOING TO BANG THE SH!T OUT OF HER!

I never got to even kiss her but now the roles has entirely swiched.
_______
Think positive, love fully and **** like a stud.

Perfect 10 <3

 

[T|CK]

^^^Well, I fvcked her enough. I could look at it that way and move on, but I had such a connection with her. Well, I don't know, so why the fvck should I dwell on it? I won't usually that feeling fades after an hour or so, and that's good.

 

[slickaz]

dude. i have the same problem with a girl from my past.
everytime i see her i get mesmerized.
its worse when i think of her. or hear of her. of hear from her.

I talked to a friend of mine who is dong psych, and she says that its all in the head.
because your brain automatically has connected her with joy, happiness and general fuzzyness, it takes alot of work time and effort to get that connection out of your brain.
someone here recommended writing down 10 things you dislike about her, and read it everytime you have this feeling.
ive been doing this, and to be honest it works. because now everytime i think of her, automatically i think of the 10 things i dislike about her. and that kicks sense into me.

i still sometimes have real weak moments when even the 10 list cant fix it. but thats when you gotta man up and use common sense..

12 diff lays and 6 diff hook ups later n im still struggling with her.

good luck.