CaptainSaveAh0
Don Juan
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So I am noticing a lot of new posters coming here and posting a SOB story about how bad their lives are and how they have nothing going for them.
However, most of these posters have families to live with ( are not homeless), are healthy, and almost all of their problems stem from them being unmotivated and not willing to put in the steps needed to achieve anything in life.
Whether it is game, employment, fitness or overall happiness the key to achieving any of this is setting goals for yourself. Set yourself even very small goals with for the start until you start turning these small goals into habits.
If you are not satisfied with your life ask yourself questions. Why do you not have goals? Why are you not achieving your goals? Are you taking the correct steps to achieve your goals? why are you not getting the women you want? Why do you not have the job you what? ETC ETC ETC.
Men need to stop assuming things are just going to be handed in our hands and life will be easy. If you aren't born well off then chances are you are going to have to work your a$$ off for it. Nobody will hand you the career you want without any connections. You have to head out there and build yourself a network and make yourself known and wanted. Almost never will a woman come up to you and initiate conversation ( especially not to an unmotivated guy), you have to approach and do it yourself.
So for all you young guys like myself that are coming on here and complaining how miserable your lives are, remember its all on you, and you can change that. I will list some very simple things you can do if you are stuck in a dark place and trying to get out.
get healthy
Buy yourself a gym membership or you can even go jogging everyday and work out at your local park. This will make you feel healthier and can build some very good discipline which will transfer over to your other goals. Start eating healthy and getting enough sleep. Your body will feel energized as will your mind. This doesn't take a lot of capital investment just pure motivation on your own part.
Travel
Travelling will open your mind to new people and new worlds and can really help you find what you are truly passionate about and enjoy doing. The more you travel the world the more you learn about different cultures and people making you more open minded to the world. You may think you cannot afford it but there is plenty of ways to travel the world and not spend too much money. Once of the DJ's posted a good website earlier this week that allows you to travel and stay somewhere for someone elses expense as long as you do a few hours of volunteering a day.
pursue your passion
What do you enjoy to do? Don't stop doing what you like doing. Whether it is just a hobby or a potential career route, do not stop pursuing what you like to do. If it is possible to make a career out of your passion then do it. Make yourself a plan with step by step goals in what you need to achieve to reach the career of your dreams.
focus on the positives
Every person who has become successful has reached many setbacks and hundreds of failures before they achieve that grand success. If you do not attempt then you will never succeed. If you attempt and fail then learn from your failure and try to use that knowledge so you will not fail the next time. For example, lets say you set a goal to do 100 push ups by the end of a 2 week period. When the time comes after 2 weeks you could only do 85. however, when you first started you could only do 20. Don't be discouraged that you didn't do 100, be proud that you made an improvement of 65 pushups and keep going for your goal.
NO EXCUSES
" I didn't approach her because she looked busy" , " I didn't go for a run today because I was tired" , " I didn't get a job because I have no connection" ...
JUST STOP WITH THE EXCUSES.
Excuses are only bullsh1t you tell yourself and others to make yourself feel better. Stop doing that and man up to your mistakes and don't keep feeling sorry for yourself. Oscar Pistorious has 2 amputated legs and ran in the olympics, and you can't get off your couch and go for a run? Yet you keep complaining how out of shape you are.. Do not complain and make excuses when you are constantly not doing anything to help yourself.
I can keep writing about this endlessly but this is where I am going to leave it at for now. Seems like too many people need a reality check and a kick in the a$$ to get going in life. Moral of this long essay is to set goals for yourself and keep at them. Set yourself 1 goal at a time to start and slowly start building your motivation and confidence by achieving them.
Remember, nothing is handed to you in life, you have to go out there and get it yourself. This applied to game, health, money, education and happiness.
However, most of these posters have families to live with ( are not homeless), are healthy, and almost all of their problems stem from them being unmotivated and not willing to put in the steps needed to achieve anything in life.
Whether it is game, employment, fitness or overall happiness the key to achieving any of this is setting goals for yourself. Set yourself even very small goals with for the start until you start turning these small goals into habits.
If you are not satisfied with your life ask yourself questions. Why do you not have goals? Why are you not achieving your goals? Are you taking the correct steps to achieve your goals? why are you not getting the women you want? Why do you not have the job you what? ETC ETC ETC.
Men need to stop assuming things are just going to be handed in our hands and life will be easy. If you aren't born well off then chances are you are going to have to work your a$$ off for it. Nobody will hand you the career you want without any connections. You have to head out there and build yourself a network and make yourself known and wanted. Almost never will a woman come up to you and initiate conversation ( especially not to an unmotivated guy), you have to approach and do it yourself.
So for all you young guys like myself that are coming on here and complaining how miserable your lives are, remember its all on you, and you can change that. I will list some very simple things you can do if you are stuck in a dark place and trying to get out.
get healthy
Buy yourself a gym membership or you can even go jogging everyday and work out at your local park. This will make you feel healthier and can build some very good discipline which will transfer over to your other goals. Start eating healthy and getting enough sleep. Your body will feel energized as will your mind. This doesn't take a lot of capital investment just pure motivation on your own part.
Travel
Travelling will open your mind to new people and new worlds and can really help you find what you are truly passionate about and enjoy doing. The more you travel the world the more you learn about different cultures and people making you more open minded to the world. You may think you cannot afford it but there is plenty of ways to travel the world and not spend too much money. Once of the DJ's posted a good website earlier this week that allows you to travel and stay somewhere for someone elses expense as long as you do a few hours of volunteering a day.
pursue your passion
What do you enjoy to do? Don't stop doing what you like doing. Whether it is just a hobby or a potential career route, do not stop pursuing what you like to do. If it is possible to make a career out of your passion then do it. Make yourself a plan with step by step goals in what you need to achieve to reach the career of your dreams.
focus on the positives
Every person who has become successful has reached many setbacks and hundreds of failures before they achieve that grand success. If you do not attempt then you will never succeed. If you attempt and fail then learn from your failure and try to use that knowledge so you will not fail the next time. For example, lets say you set a goal to do 100 push ups by the end of a 2 week period. When the time comes after 2 weeks you could only do 85. however, when you first started you could only do 20. Don't be discouraged that you didn't do 100, be proud that you made an improvement of 65 pushups and keep going for your goal.
NO EXCUSES
" I didn't approach her because she looked busy" , " I didn't go for a run today because I was tired" , " I didn't get a job because I have no connection" ...
JUST STOP WITH THE EXCUSES.
Excuses are only bullsh1t you tell yourself and others to make yourself feel better. Stop doing that and man up to your mistakes and don't keep feeling sorry for yourself. Oscar Pistorious has 2 amputated legs and ran in the olympics, and you can't get off your couch and go for a run? Yet you keep complaining how out of shape you are.. Do not complain and make excuses when you are constantly not doing anything to help yourself.
I can keep writing about this endlessly but this is where I am going to leave it at for now. Seems like too many people need a reality check and a kick in the a$$ to get going in life. Moral of this long essay is to set goals for yourself and keep at them. Set yourself 1 goal at a time to start and slowly start building your motivation and confidence by achieving them.
Remember, nothing is handed to you in life, you have to go out there and get it yourself. This applied to game, health, money, education and happiness.
