Sup guys I just have a little question for the DJ's here. I have two tall friends who are just naturally handsome they are the type of guys who just walks some where and their are girls starring at them and say hi as they walk down the street. While me on the other hand I am quite a handsome guy not ugly by any means. However I never get the starres going down the street as my previous friends. I think it is because I'm on the short side because I'm around 5'5 but no excuse making I just have a simple question. Gaming chicks that don't show some type of sign of interest at first seems weird to me, I know people have different opinions on cold approches. Some suggest that you only do it when the girls shows some type of interest, others suggest you go after whatever gets you hard. ANd if you agree with the last option when a you are talking to a chick how far do you go before you needed some type of feed back that she might be in to you.
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Could be a body language problem.
I feel you on teh shortness, i'm only 5'6'', but once you start walking confidently, with a smile and hell, you could even toss a swagger into it, People will start to notice. It's kinda hard to NOT notice me since i'm usually wearing my aviators, with a grin and saying "hey" to just about everybody.
Before though, i never talked to ANYBODY on the street, now as i'm walking by i'll say "Hi" or "Hey" to just about anybody. Some of them even want to have conversations right then and there.
As far as "cold approaches" i don't do them too often, usually i'll do them if i see any signs of interest but i'm usually busy and don't notice. But i know there are guys out there who jump in headfirst and succeed. You'd need to ask them though.
I feel you on teh shortness, i'm only 5'6'', but once you start walking confidently, with a smile and hell, you could even toss a swagger into it, People will start to notice. It's kinda hard to NOT notice me since i'm usually wearing my aviators, with a grin and saying "hey" to just about everybody.
Before though, i never talked to ANYBODY on the street, now as i'm walking by i'll say "Hi" or "Hey" to just about anybody. Some of them even want to have conversations right then and there.
As far as "cold approaches" i don't do them too often, usually i'll do them if i see any signs of interest but i'm usually busy and don't notice. But i know there are guys out there who jump in headfirst and succeed. You'd need to ask them though.
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There will always be some external barrier to success if one looks for them, so forget about the height worries. You'd look far sillier on stilts I fear.
Some people do cold approaches, some people spend time getting to know women they will encounter often, and some people focus on building esteem in a specific (or a few) social group(s) to meet people. For example, I am keen to #1 & #2, as I don't like to mix my friends and lovers and I am not in a situation where I can offer anything besides a very infreuqent physical relationship and occasional talk. Any of the methods can result in success, it just depends on what you're looking for and what you feel most comfortable doing.
Some people do cold approaches, some people spend time getting to know women they will encounter often, and some people focus on building esteem in a specific (or a few) social group(s) to meet people. For example, I am keen to #1 & #2, as I don't like to mix my friends and lovers and I am not in a situation where I can offer anything besides a very infreuqent physical relationship and occasional talk. Any of the methods can result in success, it just depends on what you're looking for and what you feel most comfortable doing.
I hear you guy.s Being short really isn't that bad it just kills me when I walk along with my tall friends who are extremely shy. So they waste all the easy pickups they could have by being are too scared to talk to the chicks that are openly checking them out. I'm battling for something that would comes easy to them if they grew balls.
But none the less no one has answerer is it better to get some type of interest before you cold approach a chick or to just go ahead and do it regardless. I'm questioning the effectivness of the cold approch, you know how certain guys do really well in the club and the other shold more than likely pick another playing ground. Is cold approches the same way where if you don't have a certain look or their is no previous sign of interest you shoudl try somethign else?
But none the less no one has answerer is it better to get some type of interest before you cold approach a chick or to just go ahead and do it regardless. I'm questioning the effectivness of the cold approch, you know how certain guys do really well in the club and the other shold more than likely pick another playing ground. Is cold approches the same way where if you don't have a certain look or their is no previous sign of interest you shoudl try somethign else?
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I used to be in a sort of similar situation. The two people I used to hang out with a lot were both I guess "cuter" than me. They go to a different school and just graduated but they're referred to as the cutest and hottest guys in their class. Women still found me attractive, it's just that I never really had the luxury of picking the best of the group since my two friends would always get their attention first.
Anyways I rarely cold approach, I'm the type of guy whose game really revolves around eye contact. If a girl I make eye contact with shows interest then maybe I would approach her, though it just depends on the situation. For me I always found it hard to game on women that really don't show initial interest, so to answer your question, I wouldn't go after women unless they showed initial interest.
Anyways I rarely cold approach, I'm the type of guy whose game really revolves around eye contact. If a girl I make eye contact with shows interest then maybe I would approach her, though it just depends on the situation. For me I always found it hard to game on women that really don't show initial interest, so to answer your question, I wouldn't go after women unless they showed initial interest.