"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Unleashing your willpower and determination

Jariel

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I've decided to share a private little technique I use to keep my determination high. It does require at least some belief in fate, superstition, a god or alike, and is probably one of the more unusual tips you'll read here.

However, as strange as it is, it has assisted me in dropping weight, getting in shape and quitting smoking, to name just some of the harder tasks I've overcome.

The technique is simple. You write down a realistic goal or several steps towards that goal and what you must do to achieve it. In the case of quitting smoking, you can write "I vow not to smoke a cigarette for a minimum of 1 week", or in the case of dieting "I will give up chocolate/alcohol for 1 month".

Now here's the trick. When you have your goal written down, write beneath it something that goes like this....

"If I fail, then may something bad happen to me or my family". You can be more specific if you wish and spell out what will happen.

Of course, the chances of a lightening bolt striking down you or your family because you smoke a cigarette is unlikely, but once you have that thought in your head, you'll find you really don't want to tempt fate. Now is that cigarette really worth the life of your father? Is eating that chocolate cake worth putting your family at risk?

Yeah, it's extreme and a little far out, but for me at least, it has worked time and time again, and is one of the reasons I achieve more from myself than most people I know.

Use this exercise not to transform your life, but as added motivation to help overcome lapses and moments of weakness. Work gradually on setting yourself a group of rules that will make up your new lifestyle.


WARNING: Don't set yourself extreme tasks. Be realistic, make them reachable and and only focus on conscious choices. Aiming to drop 10lbs in x weeks is not a conscious choice, because you don't know how long or what it will require for your body to lose 10lbs. Instead, forbid yourself specific food items (chips, chocolate etc), since this is in your control. It may also be an idea to write a few clauses - like "in the event of illness this becomes void" etc.

I don't want to end up creating a bunch of obsessive compulsive loonies.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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it's a bad tip because i have OCD
 

Kerensky

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Dude, this is good stuff. I tried it and it is really scary. I am scared of touching my penis now, but thanks man, I will win that 6 month challenge for sure. :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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