"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dole

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Man so many hotties at university and I haven't approached one yet. I am such a b1tch.
Someone give me something to work with.
I am sitting in the library basement right now and its pretty empty and this babe comes and sits a table in front of me. Then she gets her stuff out and goes to fill up her water bottle with water. The fountain is right in front of the table's and she's shaking her as$ while she's walking towards the water fountain and flexing it while she's pumping water into the water bottle. As she's returning to her table I look up and she's giving me a look and a small smile. This girl is a 8.
I am a pretty good looking guy but no confidence when it comes to approaching a stranger!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dole said:
Man so many hotties at university and I haven't approached one yet. I am such a b1tch.
Someone give me something to work with.
I am sitting in the library basement right now and its pretty empty and this babe comes and sits a table in front of me. Then she gets her stuff out and goes to fill up her water bottle with water. The fountain is right in front of the table's and she's shaking her as$ while she's walking towards the water fountain and flexing it while she's pumping water into the water bottle. As she's returning to her table I look up and she's giving me a look and a small smile. This girl is a 8.
I am a pretty good looking guy but no confidence when it comes to approaching a stranger!
Pee in her butt.
 

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Feels awkward to randomly get up and approach her while she's writing. When she gets up again to go to the washroom or something in that sense and is coming back to sit I will blurr something out to spark a conversation.
 

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Make a comment along the line of "man studying sucks." that should at least opent he door. After that ask her , "what are you studying?"

If you feel you have built up good rapport w/ her. Suggest you guys put studying off ofr a bit and grab coffee somewhere. There has to be a coffee place near yr campus.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dole

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manonfire said:
Make a comment along the line of "man studying sucks." that should at least opent he door. After that ask her , "what are you studying?"

If you feel you have built up good rapport w/ her. Suggest you guys put studying off ofr a bit and grab coffee somewhere. There has to be a coffee place near yr campus.
that should work like a charm
thank you sir
 

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Dole said:
Man so many hotties at university and I haven't approached one yet. I am such a b1tch.
Someone give me something to work with.
I am sitting in the library basement right now and its pretty empty and this babe comes and sits a table in front of me. Then she gets her stuff out and goes to fill up her water bottle with water. The fountain is right in front of the table's and she's shaking her as$ while she's walking towards the water fountain and flexing it while she's pumping water into the water bottle. As she's returning to her table I look up and she's giving me a look and a small smile. This girl is a 8.
I am a pretty good looking guy but no confidence when it comes to approaching a stranger!
I feel the same way. I'm on my damn third semester and I still haven't approached any girl. I see tons of hot girls at my campus. I get so angry at myself when I don't approach them that I become an ******* for the rest of the day. I'm so sick of this ****. The situation you are describing sounds like a perfect example to the many situations that I have been in. I JUST CAN'T ****ING MAKE A MOVE! I hate this sh!t.
 

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Dole said:
she's giving me a look and a small smile. This girl is a 8.
If this is true, you should have talked to her. That was an invitation.
 

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that should work like a charm
thank you sir
This works and is field tested:

If both of you are on nearby computers, you open up gmail, and then lean in and open her:

"Hey, I need a female opinion on something. Is it ok to break up with your gf using an email message"

If you are feeling the opener properly, she will believe you. She'll be hooked.

You can continue - "The thing is, she is really sensitive, I don't wanna meet her in person, she might just start crying or maybe try to kill me lol"

Just agree with what she says, and say you like her outlook, and say you were thinking the same thing, but just wanted to make sure..

Then just introduce yourself, and game on..
 

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daygameguy said:
This works and is field tested:

If both of you are on nearby computers, you open up gmail, and then lean in and open her:

"Hey, I need a female opinion on something. Is it ok to break up with your gf using an email message"

If you are feeling the opener properly, she will believe you. She'll be hooked.

You can continue - "The thing is, she is really sensitive, I don't wanna meet her in person, she might just start crying or maybe try to kill me lol"

Just agree with what she says, and say you like her outlook, and say you were thinking the same thing, but just wanted to make sure..

Then just introduce yourself, and game on..
Very interesting. I'm sure that works. However, for me personally, I try to use openers that are actually true. So if I wasn't actually breaking up with a girlfriend, I wouldn't use this one. I probably wouldn't be able to deliver it right.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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manonfire said:
Make a comment along the line of "man studying sucks." that should at least opent he door. After that ask her , "what are you studying?"

If you feel you have built up good rapport w/ her. Suggest you guys put studying off ofr a bit and grab coffee somewhere. There has to be a coffee place near yr campus.
I've always found opening up with something negative sucks pretty bad itself. Gives a negative impression.
 

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Very interesting. I'm sure that works. However, for me personally, I try to use openers that are actually true. So if I wasn't actually breaking up with a girlfriend, I wouldn't use this one. I probably wouldn't be able to deliver it right.
Well, then you are limiting yourself dude.. but anyway, I understand what you mean, you can try a non-verbal opener -
draw a tic tac toe and pass it to her, see if she plays along.
Or,
use a situational opener like mentioned before.
 

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I've always found opening up with something negative sucks pretty bad itself. Gives a negative impression.
Exactly. I agree. Instead you can say in a C&F way - "MAN, I LOVE STUDYING :)" and then smile at her and say "do you like studying :)" - haha.. just continue...

The thing is, you have to grab your balls, and go over the top sometimes. As long as you are unapologetic and can be interesting after the opener... its not going to matter.

Its not what you say, its what you say NEXT. :)
 

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Exactly. I agree. Instead you can say in a C&F way - "MAN, I LOVE STUDYING :)" and then smile at her and say "do you like studying :)" - haha.. just continue...

The thing is, you have to grab your balls, and go over the top sometimes. As long as you are unapologetic and can be interesting after the opener... its not going to matter.

Its not what you say, its what you say NEXT. :)

that deffinately a better take on what I suggested.
 

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This is the EXACT reason 90% of the girls at my University are lonely as hell and just want someone INTERESTING to talk to. Most of the chumps they come across have no skills or are plain nerds. I myself am a nerd which I don't hide but the mere fact I have RAW confidence because I believe in myself so much, seems to be oozing out of my pores (for the haters a female told me that :cool: ) and a "not giving a fuk" attitude is something women are not used to either because even in classes people are so reserved and if you notice the conversations are sooo fukin boring and bland. Seriously guys am I the only one that sees that...? It's always some bullsh** like "...What's your major??!?..." or "...what classes your taking..??!..."

Who gives a fuk...? If a woman as much as looks at you show her that you are man enough to handle her ass. Just do something to acknowledge her!!!!. You know I realized that one of the biggest obstacles 99% of the population have is CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!!!!. Once you stop that and do what you feel like you will notice a shift in your thinking and more so in people because they will be drawn to you. Dude, if you look good, ugly, short, tall, skinny, build, smart, stupid, small or big di*k etc etc...their will always be someone who will NOT like you ALWAYS!!!! so why bother caring what anyone thinks and just go for what you want in YOUR life.

Live for yourself because time is very precious and you DON'T want to have any regrets looking back at your life. If you see that girl just go say HI to her who cares if she is a bit**...? You'll never know unless you go find out right...?. I know it's inside of you, I know you hate it every time you pass up an opportunity, I know you are disgusted with yourself everyday you bit** out...I know...we all know!!!!. Only you have it within yourself to change EVERYTHING. The first step is believing in yourself and having faith in yourself. We are all rooting for you...:rockon:

Matter of fact do this...go up to any attractive girl that's walking by herself, seriously...go up to her and...

You:- excuse me!
Her:- yes?!
You:- I know you hear this all the time but...*pause*I think you are the most attractive girl I have seen today and most of all I love your style!!!.
*Be genuine and sincere then tell me what happens*. :whistle:

Grab your balls man...because there is a reason they were put between your legs...it's a sign that you were born a man!!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DevanE said:
Grab your balls man...because there is a reason they were put between your legs...it's a sign that you were born a man!!!!
:rockon:
 

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Pass her a note asking something random or situational whatever you want, works good in both lectures or library, but i prefer lectures,
eg. "when is the midsem?" or something like "do you like chocolate milk?"

This has been field tested by me and I am sure many others.
 
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