Nine Breaker
Senior Don Juan
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Anyone that has at least some understanding of the principles of attraction can tell you that by transforming yourself into a "great guy", the supposed epitome of man, you will greatly increase your appeal to the opposite sex.
That's all well and good, but imagine this: You are in a room with 5 other guys and 1 woman. You have your eyes set upon this particular woman as a potential partner (to what capacity, I leave to your imagination). The fact is, you are keen on her - don't ask why, you just are. Unfortunately, so are the other 5 guys in the room. If they were all just average chumps, then we wouldn't have a problem, but they are ALL students of sosuave.com and are every bit as knowledgable and talented as you are. WHAT DO YOU DO NOW, HOTSHOT?
While the above scenario is a mere example, this sort of circumstance is certain to creep upon you at some stage in the future, probably when you expect it least. The world is littered with coke cans, condom wrappers, and AFC's - but there are still guys out there who know a thing or two about seduction. Hell, even AFC's get lucky every once in a while. The question at hand is this: HOW DO YOU GET AN EDGE OVER ANOTHER DON JUAN?
Like most guys, women have a firm belief in The One, a single, great man out there who surpasses all others by countless light years, and is the epitome of the male species. So, what is it about this "One" that makes him so damned special?
HE STANDS OUT FROM THE MASSES
Before you point this out to me, I am already aware that a DJ is meant to stand out from the AFC's. He does this by imoroving his physical form (body, clothes and all), shows great charisma and passion in what he does, and plays the game of life by his own rules. But even this is not always enough. Sometimes you have to be willing to do something that goes against your wants and needs in order to achieve your goals (rather ironically). But where following your immediate goals might bring you happiness, sacrificing those immediate goals could very well achieve goals higher up on the list.
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Let me explain by example:
Suppose you and a friend (a woman you are very "fond" of, and would happily want to engage into an LTR with) are having a few quiet drinks at her place, just the two of you. She has obviously had a few too many to drink, and has just revealed to you that she has been attracted to you sexually for some time now, and would REALLY like to take you to bed tonight. Sweet.
Now, a DJ could very easily take this woman he is attracted to and give her such a night that even excessive alcohol could not make her forget. But an advanced DJ could do something different - he could turn her down. He could tell her that, because she is so drunk, she would not enjoy the night nearly as much as she could sober, and that he has a strong moral code towards these sort of things. Finally, he would then tell her that she should wait until tomorrow, or the day after for things to happen.
Such a scenario not only shows her that you genuinely care about her in some small way, but it also shows her that you are a man of strong moral fibre that stays true to his beliefs despite any possible gains, as well as builds her interest levels to dangerously high levels as she waits for you to make the move she has been longing for. As an added bonus, it weeds out a woman that has relatively low interest, and may have only been talking drunken rubbish.
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That is only an example demonstrating one way in which to carry out the point I am making here. Ways in which to do this are limited only by your imagination and innovative skills.
In a time where selfless actions are a dying quality in mankind, the act of selflessness remains a characteristic of the female-envisioned Perfect Man. Do not think that by sacrificing a short-term goal such as landing an attractive woman will keep you from landing and keeping the most attractive woman indefinitely.
Take it easy.
That's all well and good, but imagine this: You are in a room with 5 other guys and 1 woman. You have your eyes set upon this particular woman as a potential partner (to what capacity, I leave to your imagination). The fact is, you are keen on her - don't ask why, you just are. Unfortunately, so are the other 5 guys in the room. If they were all just average chumps, then we wouldn't have a problem, but they are ALL students of sosuave.com and are every bit as knowledgable and talented as you are. WHAT DO YOU DO NOW, HOTSHOT?
While the above scenario is a mere example, this sort of circumstance is certain to creep upon you at some stage in the future, probably when you expect it least. The world is littered with coke cans, condom wrappers, and AFC's - but there are still guys out there who know a thing or two about seduction. Hell, even AFC's get lucky every once in a while. The question at hand is this: HOW DO YOU GET AN EDGE OVER ANOTHER DON JUAN?
Like most guys, women have a firm belief in The One, a single, great man out there who surpasses all others by countless light years, and is the epitome of the male species. So, what is it about this "One" that makes him so damned special?
HE STANDS OUT FROM THE MASSES
Before you point this out to me, I am already aware that a DJ is meant to stand out from the AFC's. He does this by imoroving his physical form (body, clothes and all), shows great charisma and passion in what he does, and plays the game of life by his own rules. But even this is not always enough. Sometimes you have to be willing to do something that goes against your wants and needs in order to achieve your goals (rather ironically). But where following your immediate goals might bring you happiness, sacrificing those immediate goals could very well achieve goals higher up on the list.
---
Let me explain by example:
Suppose you and a friend (a woman you are very "fond" of, and would happily want to engage into an LTR with) are having a few quiet drinks at her place, just the two of you. She has obviously had a few too many to drink, and has just revealed to you that she has been attracted to you sexually for some time now, and would REALLY like to take you to bed tonight. Sweet.
Now, a DJ could very easily take this woman he is attracted to and give her such a night that even excessive alcohol could not make her forget. But an advanced DJ could do something different - he could turn her down. He could tell her that, because she is so drunk, she would not enjoy the night nearly as much as she could sober, and that he has a strong moral code towards these sort of things. Finally, he would then tell her that she should wait until tomorrow, or the day after for things to happen.
Such a scenario not only shows her that you genuinely care about her in some small way, but it also shows her that you are a man of strong moral fibre that stays true to his beliefs despite any possible gains, as well as builds her interest levels to dangerously high levels as she waits for you to make the move she has been longing for. As an added bonus, it weeds out a woman that has relatively low interest, and may have only been talking drunken rubbish.
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That is only an example demonstrating one way in which to carry out the point I am making here. Ways in which to do this are limited only by your imagination and innovative skills.
In a time where selfless actions are a dying quality in mankind, the act of selflessness remains a characteristic of the female-envisioned Perfect Man. Do not think that by sacrificing a short-term goal such as landing an attractive woman will keep you from landing and keeping the most attractive woman indefinitely.
Take it easy.
