"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Unfriendliness

crossboss

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Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Reckoning

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Could be just your surrounding, I don't have problems like that when interacting with people I have mutual friends with, and the ones I don't know but approach anyway are usually very friendly, you just have to play it cool, don't look like a retard.
 

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crossboss said:
Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly [because in sooo good looking...]. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
you come across as arrogant ....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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crossboss said:
Hey,

Is it normal for people, to be unfriendly at first? I am an extremely good looking guy, and I kind of expected people, to be friendly. However, they are not. Not unless, you have some kind of connection.

Such as knowing a friend of thiers or something, like that? I thought, people that are good looking have girls instantly interested. They don't.

However, if somehow there is a connection, to them, and I have common interests, things improve.
If the part in bold is true then you may also be dealing with people feeling threatened and/or insecure around you.
 

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Yeah

If feel that people, are threatened, and insecure. Why is this? Is it, because I am too much competition against them. I am too cool?

Also, if I have a big ego, why didn't people mention it. I asked people, if they think I am humble, and they say yes. Also, people never say, I am an ego maniac. People, when they know me, think I am a good guy.
 

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Also

Racism:
Racism I am asian, but only part, some people think am white, chinese or mexican. I have a dark
complexition. I think, it would be used against me, to a certain extent. But I know, of blacks/hispanics/asians,
that are successful, with women. The thing, is people seem, even unfriendly before, they even talk to me.
 

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Come on brah

whats the problem, its not other people or their perception of you its you and your perception of yourself, figure it out. Be confident in who you are or who you are trying to become. Be real with people. If they like you they like you if not fuk em thats how I flow.
 

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Julian said:
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Come on brah

whats the problem, its not other people or their perception of you its you and your perception of yourself, figure it out. Be confident in who you are or who you are trying to become. Be real with people. If they like you they like you if not fuk em thats how I flow.

So, its doubting, yourself. There is nothing, wrong with me at first, it's that I believe, I can't do it. That's why, my approaching, was failure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I am an extremely good looking guy..."


Ok...
Now why do you post here? you should get laid in a weekly basis on a bad month.
Dont be arrogant please.....
 

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Well

There was a period, of time where I was approaching at clubs twice a week, on a continual basis. I might, not have been, good looking then. I think, I might have blossomed some. I kind, of gave up on myself then, since I always, (frequentely got blewn off).
 

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Sorry,

If, I come, off as arrogant, I'll try not to think I am better than other people.
 
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If you had sex with many girls who all told you how good looking you are, then you ARE good looking.

If you don't have sex with girls at all, then you are NOT good looking.

You may have a good build or even a nice looking face, but you likely have a creepy/nerdy look to you that you constantly ignore and never bother to change.
 

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It could be possible, that I am not that good looking...

Although, pretty much every I talk to, where I wanted to know, or they told me, I am good looking. Maybe, I am not 100/100 in looks more, likely less. Alhough, I would, think people's opinion's are pretty accurate.

I'll ask this one girl, I know what she really, thinks. If, I have any bad, look about me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crossboss said:
Although, pretty much every I talk to, where I wanted to know, or they told me, I am good looking. Maybe, I am not 100/100 in looks more, likely less. Alhough, I would, think people's opinion's are pretty accurate.

I'll ask this one girl, I know what she really, thinks. If, I have any bad, look about me.

even the way you talk on this forum, you sound extremely socially awkward, and most likely you are not as good looking as the people who feel sorry for you tell you that you are...........how many girls that you have had sex with have told you how hot you are?
 

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crossboss said:
If feel that people, are threatened, and insecure. Why is this? Is it, because I am too much competition against them. I am too cool?

Also, if I have a big ego, why didn't people mention it. I asked people, if they think I am humble, and they say yes. Also, people never say, I am an ego maniac. People, when they know me, think I am a good guy.
" what do I think about myself?" ask this question to yourself and answer it without bringing up anything that anyone has told you. Really think about it, and answer it, write it down or something.

I think you think about what other people might think about you wayyy too much. Too much to the point where you can't make a picture of your own self and you have to ask others if you're arrogant or humble, good looking or not.

like "julian" said, get a perception of your own self, then don't give a f$ckk what other people will think of you.
 

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Crossboss, what country do you hail from? Are you by any chance a native German? I'm just curious because you use commas to introduce every subordinate clause.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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