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[cyjay201]

Alrite, I had severe one-itis for this girl I was dating. Things got rotten, and I called off the relationship. She was a girl that required a lot of attention, and most of the time I felt like I was there just to make her feel better about herself. (Low self-esteem) Needless to say the sex was great.

Well I got all emotional on her, (I know, I reverted back to AFC form) But I came her and everyone told me to LJBF her before she could to me. So I did, the following day I went out and got two other chicks #'s.

My ex heard about this, and Immed me and started talking to me on-line. She then got all pissy, b/c she was talking about some stuff that happened to her that weekend, and i basically didn't give a ****, and didnt respond. She said "You're different now". She got all pissed, I told her to chill and signed off.

The next day I bumped into her at work, she started telling me how she's getting her belly button pierced and how I'd get a free preview. Once again I just said "cool". Pretended not to give a ****, next day she ims me, i said "When do I get my free preview?" and she told me she revoked my priveleges, i said "okay' we had a few minute convo, where she said "u r so funny", and that another guy that wants her came over to help her w/math, and that he kept telling her how hot she was, (This guy is a total AFC). She asked me if I would tell him to go away for her. Then i signed off.

Since I was busy, didn't talk to her for five days. Today she calls my cell but I didn't pick up. I plan to call her back tomorrow.

Seems like I've got a live one, but i dont want to seem to interested b/c she's an attention ***** and would probably pull some stupid stunt on me.

I plan to call her tomorrow, and ask her to hang out the next week.

Is this the best course of action? (Just would like some feedback to make sure I don't **** this up)

(PS, I want her as a **** buddy only. I'm going away to school in a couple of months. The last thing i want is her getting attatched. I also apologize for the length of this post, and I'm probably overanalyzing)

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

Hello my friend. Your ex gf reminds me a lot of my ex gf. My ex needed lots of attention. I don't know if you've read my post, but I've sorted things out with my ex and may see her again.

The key here is to keep yourself in the position of power ALWAYS. YOU make the decisions. Be the leader and she will follow.

Ok, so you don't want a LTR with her, just a fukc or 2. In which case you have 2 options - tell her straight OR say it with actions (call her/contact her less, appear busier and see her less frequently....she'll get the picture).

 

[KnightRyder]

looks like you've got this girl in the palm of your hands

unexceptedly or expectedly her low self esteem is really playing into your dj principle of "creating value for youself" ...

If you could keep her as a fvck buddy for the next few months , you would be the man, I mean how many DJs do you know would have a hot young eligible girl as a FB.

Btw, how old is she and how long u'd been with her?

 

[cyjay201]

Originally posted by KnightRyder
looks like you've got this girl in the palm of your hands

unexceptedly or expectedly her low self esteem is really playing into your dj principle of "creating value for youself" ...

If you could keep her as a fvck buddy for the next few months , you would be the man, I mean how many DJs do you know would have a hot young eligible girl as a FB.

Btw, how old is she and how long u'd been with her?

KnightRyder, I am a high school student. She is only 18. I set up a date with her on Wednesday, she sounded really giddy over the phone when I called her, and when I asked why she called me yesterday, she gave me a long story about how her and her friends were calling everyone (bs im guessing). She agreed to the date, however she brought up the fact that she's scared of me? (I told her off for treating me with disrespect when we were together.) However I took her comment with a grain of salt, she also mentioned that she wants me to "solve her problems" with her friends. Not like actual problems, but she has all these friends (mostly guys) wanting to hang out with her, and she feels bad by choosing one over the other, so her solution was to always hang out with me.

I'll just keep the contact to a minimal until Wednesday, and I'll see how she reacts to me.

 

[cyjay201]

GIRL: (11:53:26 PM): yup im just being dumb b/c i miss you and im overthinking everything lol

This was my ex's response tonight online, looks like I'm in her head.

I'll just flirt a lot with her and kino her a lot, she'll get the point through my actions.

Thanks to all who contributed.