Unexpected Roadblock

[young_gun]

I've been a member at this site for at least a year now, but just about a month or two ago have I gone out on a pretty regular basis (4+ days a week) to socialize / get numbers.

At first it was really tough for me to get the confidence to speak to ANYONE unless they came up and spoke to me (cashiers / salespeople). I still feel like I "freeze out" sometimes, but for the most part, my confidence is a lot higher now than it was, and I can push through the initial doubts a lot better now than even 2 weeks ago.

Anyway, I've gotten a few numbers in the process, but one thing I've found in common with these girls is that they don't call me back when I call them, and the last girl I talked to (for the first time since we met) was pretty rude to me.

I probably already know the answer to my own question, I don't know, maybe I just need some reassurance. Did any of you guys come across this same problem? What did you do to overcome it?

 

[Phyzzle]

Did any of you guys come across this same problem?

Yes. Absolutely.

What did you do to overcome it?

Take it as a half-baked compliment. If you were some clueless creepy guy, there's no way you'd get her real #. But they're still lukewarm on the idea of seeing you.

Try talking a little longer before you leave, with more eye contact. And expand your social circle, so you don't just get #'s from drunk chicks at clubs (they sober up and then change their minds.)

Actually, I want to see how other members reduced their amount of DED's (Dead End Digits). Cool, I just made up my own acronym.

(You aren't calling them the same day you get their #, right?)

 

[flyspy]

DED story

There was this girl recently who I was able to get her number. Every time I called however she wouldnt pick up. After a few times, it was obvious what happened and I decided not to waste my time with her anymore.

I had talked to her only a few times and when I asked for her number and she gladly gave it out.

My question and it may sound dumb, but is it normal to just go up to a girl, talk to her a bit and then ask for her number? I mean I allready know I did it, but still. My real question is, is there any aproximate time period or any amount of rapport that needs to be built up first?

 

[young_gun]

Take it as a half-baked compliment. If you were some clueless creepy guy, there's no way you'd get her real #. But they're still lukewarm on the idea of seeing you.

Try talking a little longer before you leave, with more eye contact. And expand your social circle, so you don't just get #'s from drunk chicks at clubs (they sober up and then change their minds.)

Actually, I want to see how other members reduced their amount of DED's (Dead End Digits). Cool, I just made up my own acronym.

(You aren't calling them the same day you get their #, right?)

Haha. Dead End Digits. I wish I would have come up with that myself. Crafty.

That's one thing I've learned this week. Just because you get a girl's number doesn't mean it's going anywhere.

I'm going to seriously put some effort into talking longer with more eye contact like you suggested. Now that I think about it, I really didn't use that much eye contact, and the conversations with them were relatively short.

A little side story. I work at a doctor's office and most days our lunch is catered to us by outside representatives. I met this one guy today, real cool, used to be a bodybuilder, but he gave me a really creepy vibe at first. I thought about it, and it was because he couldn't really keep his eyes focused on me for more than 2 seconds and his eyes were darting all over the place when he was talking. It was kinda weird.

BUMP. Thanks bro. Anyone else feel free to share.

 

[Phyzzle]

My question and it may sound dumb, but is it normal to just go up to a girl, talk to her a bit and then ask for her number?

Read the DJ bible (bottom of the page)

You'll sound less dumb.