Unexpected reaction

[TheEdgeOf]

Okay, so today, I running down the college hallway (For some reason some people set up this cool inflatable boxing-match type thing and I was looking for one of my friends so that we could fight against each other) when I passed by a room and noticed some people I knew sitting and talking to each other. Thinking that I might as well see if any of them want to go with me, I stopped and walked over. Just when I had begun to speak, this girl I know and usually have fun with told me to "Get the **** out." This got me really good 'cause I wasn't expecting it at all. I had spoken to her an hour before and she seemed perfectly fine. So I casually said "meh, fvck you guys then" and then continued running to find my friend.

So I was contemplating what to do. Should I confront her about it or just pretend like it didn't happen?

Your thoughts?

 

[Rex Man]

1) Good job on not thinking about what you 'should have said', cause that would be pointless.

2) That was crystal clear disrespect and I wouldn't have anything more to do with the b!tch.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

But seriously though, this one really caught me by surprise, it's a totally deviation from her usual self. I'm really curious as to where she comes off telling that to me.

 

[MotownMack]

That was crystal clear disrespect and I wouldn't have anything more to do with the b!tch.

Agreed. At this point, for you to do anything but ignore her-whether it be confronting her on it or asking what was wrong-would make you look like a tool.

If she's got any class, she'll address it the VERY next time she's sees you, at her clearest opportunity (obviously she's not going interrupt class to apologize, but it should follow immediately after). It goes without saying, she better have a damn good explanation.

If she waits two or three times after she sees you next to apologize, I'd give her the "Please.. get away from me." accompanied by a dismissive hand gesture.

Whatever you do, don't approach her for explanation. She owes you one, and you shouldn't have to seek it.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Okay, Now I wanna shoot myself in the foot for even saying this, but what if I misheard her and she didn't actually say that?

Meaning I would have just said "fvck you guys" and walked off

 

[Warrior74]

Okay, Now I wanna shoot myself in the foot for even saying this, but what if I misheard her and she didn't actually say that?

Meaning I would have just said "fvck you guys" and walked off

**** it. whats done is done. don't be a chicken ****. if someone approaches you about it, and you see thats the case apologize. Otherwise don't doubt your own mind until futher notice.

 

[Mavrick]

Maybe they had a line of coke on the table, and she didn't want you to see it. Are you a narc? lol

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Well, that solves the mystery of the random GTFO, this calls for a drink.

And for the none of you who were actually wondering, I didn't end up finding my friend, but I did end up boxing with another random guy. 3-0 for me, I even had a pinched nerve in my back.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Alright guys, Against my better judgment and due to the fact that I've already decided that I'm done with her, I'd decided to confront her (<---- STUPID) about it before I write her off. basically I IMed (I would have called, but yeah) and asked her what was the GTFO for today and she responded with "because we knew u were only there to make noise, disturb the peace and then eventually tell us we are losers and so on and so forth"

Okay, now first off, I noticed that she acted as a if it was the entire group who said that, when it was in fact only her. Second I do usually like to tease her by calling her a loser, but seriously, I'm always joking and she knows that.

Okay, now there are 5 explanations I can come up with;

1)PMS (I doubt that because she seemed alright earlier, but it's still possible)
2)She was having a really bad day (which I highly doubt because she seemed alright earlier)
3)She's a total b1tch (it seems kind of unlikely that she could become a ***** out of nowhere like that)
4)There may be something wrong with my game (I doubt it, but I've got to take it into account.)
5)This could be a test, in which case, I think I just failed. But if it were a test, I'd like to know what the hell kind of test it was and what I should have done so that I can avoid the situation next time.

Now I've never had major problems with my game before (a few minor things, but you live and learn), but in order to merit a reaction like that, I'd have to have seriously screwed something up.

Again, what do you think?

 

[TheEdgeOf]

No one has any words of wisdom for me?

 

[sexy_kuta]

because we knew u were only there to make noise, disturb the peace and then eventually tell us we are losers and so on and so forth"
usually when someone assumes something like that, it means you either presented yourself as an *******, annoying, immature person,
it takes lots for someone to say that, now based on YOUR response and her reaction,
you displayed bad game, the whole thing about you talking to her before was probably fluff talk and she wanted you to fuk off by then but you probably kept on talking.

now, tell me, what was the farthest you been with this girl, not far at right.
what do you talk about when you are with her, how responsive is she.

my advice is to NEXT her, because its either you fuked up your game by displaying awarkard behaviour or she has fuking major issues.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

because we knew u were only there to make noise, disturb the peace and then eventually tell us we are losers and so on and so forth"
usually when someone assumes something like that, it means you either presented yourself as an *******, annoying, immature person,
it takes lots for someone to say that, now based on YOUR response and her reaction,
you displayed bad game, the whole thing about you talking to her before was probably fluff talk and she wanted you to fuk off by then but you probably kept on talking.

now, tell me, what was the farthest you been with this girl, not far at right.
what do you talk about when you are with her, how responsive is she.

my advice is to NEXT her, because its either you fuked up your game by displaying awarkard behaviour or she has fuking major issues.

You know what, I am gonna next her, but what bothers me is that I don't know what went wrong. Maybe she was just having a bad day, or maybe I did screw up my game, but if I did, I'm not sure how, which kills me 'cause I haven't learned anything from this.

 

[MooseGod]

She was probably talking about some stupid drama BS and didn't want you to get involved...

 

[MotownMack]

I'm with MooseGod, it is probably something that had nothing to do with you personally-like she was you either interrupted her or someone else she was listening to, and she just snapped at you.

What troubles me more is that-thought you didn't mention it specifically-it sounds like her behavior was completely justified and acceptable.

No "sorry" or "maybe I over acted a little" or anything of the sort?

Kick her ass to the curb.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Alright guys, I just got a great idea on how to end this. And yeah, I really do think I should end it 'cause Mack did point out something good; she didn't apologize for it. Basically, next time I see her, I'm going to walk up to her, assuming shes not more than 8 feet away 'cause at this point I'm not sure I'm willing to walk farther than that for her lol, and because she complained about how I always call her a loser, I'm going to say, in perfect AFC fashion

"Hey Amanda, I've been doing a lot of thinking and..."
Pause for effect and make the switch over to my inner DJ
"I still think you're a loser"
Then I'll proceed to walk away.

I think that's a good thing to do because it basically shows her that just because she doesn't like something about me, I'm not going to change it for anyone except myself. Sure maybe I did screw up my game a little, or maybe it was just some drama BS that I walked into, but even if I have no one to blame but myself, I'm proud of who I am, and if she's got a problem with me then that's her problem, not mine.

 

[JackPrescott]

But seriously though, this one really caught me by surprise, it's a totally deviation from her usual self. I'm really curious as to where she comes off telling that to me.

Why so suprised? She is an average woman.

 

[Rex Man]

No one has any words of wisdom for me?

I told you what you should've done. You took whatever dignity you may have had with her and pissed on it. Offering any further advice would just be an exercise in futility considering you won't listen to reason and do as you damn well please anyway.

 

[MotownMack]

Meh, that's a tough call. When I felt I was seriously disrespected, there have been times in the past where I also felt a "duty" to put the woman in her place, even when things were more or less finished. Sometimes it is neccessary, IMO.

However, it doesn't sound like you really had much going on with each other, and her clear lack of an apology tells me she is not interested in what you think of her, and sees no reason to be pleasant to anyone who "can't do anything for her" (unfortunately, this attitude is common among younger HB's particularly, and is a clear sign of someone who is just a b1tch).

I'm proud of who I am, and if she's got a problem with me then that's her problem, not mine.

The problem with what you're planning to do is, you are showing that it is your problem, because you do care and what she thinks and you were clearly bothered by it. (she may take this away from that, she may not)

My guess is that if you let it go for a few days, you'll probably realize you don't really care, and end up taking the high road on the issue. However, if you absolutely feel the need to put her in her place, I'd ignore her until she tries to come to you again (it sounds like she will, and when she's in a better mood and thinks its "over with"-this is pretty common for HBs to do this), and then rebuff her more or less the second she opens her mouth (not in a nasty fashion, just a comment and a walk away-I wouldn't even let her finish her sentence).

I can promise you that she now feels she has higher value over you, and this will both shock her and disturb her, even if she isn't interested in you-actually it will probably bother her MORE if she isn't interested and feels like she is better than you.

 

[PhatE1vis]

I'd like to offer you a different perspective to think about. Maybe you have totally misjudged this situation from the beginning. Perhaps you weren't on quite the good terms with this girl that you imagined, and what you thought was teasing was really annoying. This was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

Or, maybe she doesn't value the relationship you have with her, and saw an opportunity to make herself look cool at your expense in front of this group.

Whatever the case, don't waste your time on thinking up strategies to "next" her. She already nexted you.

Just move on and salvage whatever dignity you have left.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

I told you what you should've done. You took whatever dignity you may have had with her and pissed on it. Offering any further advice would just be an exercise in futility considering you won't listen to reason and do as you damn well please anyway.

No disrespect intended, but I've noticed that some people on the forum really aren't good with finding solutions so I usually like to get a few replies before I figure out a solution.

And yeah, confronting her was stupid, but I honestly had nothing to loose, I almost never talk to her or her friends that much anyways and our friends are pretty separated from each other. I was using it as a last ditch attempt to figure out what went wrong so I can learn from it. Now it's pretty apparent that I screwed my game up somewhere and that it wasn't anything else.

Mack, I do feel the need to put her in her place, what she did and what she said after was pure disrespect and I don't plan on letting it slide. What type of comment are you talking about. Do you mean a simple "Oh... you," and just leave or "Shut the Fvck Up!" lol? Also, sometimes she'll talk to some of my friends, should I shoot her down even if she's not talking to me, or wait until she actually addresses me.