Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Understanding this "21st century" women behaviour on social media.

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Hi there
These days there are some married or LTR women, some which I know, some which I just follow on social media, which share a common thing: With a frequency of 1 times a week, they post a quote, or something which refer to their relationship or emotional status.

To give an example:
An LTR women would re-post a quote from a writer account saying: "Well'be togheter, even in our darkest moments. Always togheter".

I mean, if this women have a partner, why don't she just shares it with him?
What's the behaviour about doing it?

Validation? Emotional insecurity? No comprehension from his partner?
Are there women in this sub that can share their pov about it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi there
These days there are some married or LTR women, some which I know, some which I just follow on social media, which share a common thing: With a frequency of 1 times a week, they post a quote, or something which refer to their relationship or emotional status.

To give an example:
An LTR women would re-post a quote from a writer account saying: "Well'be togheter, even in our darkest moments. Always togheter".

I mean, if this women have a partner, why don't she just shares it with him?
What's the behaviour about doing it?

Validation? Emotional insecurity? No comprehension from his partner?
Are there women in this sub that can share their pov about it?
All Sosuavers fretting over female psychology need to spare six minutes and watch this.


Quote: “Nobody truly knows anything about sloot psychology—not even sloots!”
 

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There are 100 reasons they do what they do. They are irrational/emotional creatures, not rational thinkers. You won't ever win the struggle trying to figure them out.

The correct answer as to why they do what they do is "all of the above". It might change from day to day.
 

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There are 100 reasons they do what they do. They are irrational/emotional creatures, not rational thinkers. You won't ever win the struggle trying to figure them out.

The correct answer as to why they do what they do is "all of the above". It might change from day to day.
So, we know women are 99% emotive, and we are really saying that we cannot understand women behaviour, at a macro level?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No, YOU are saying that. Most men can read women well enough to understand their behaviour. The rest just sits around and whines about not finding a manual.
are you saying men cannot read women like em? If so, how could we, as men do so?
 

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If a woman is involved and the answer isn't clear, it's likely in service of her social circle, either an affirmation, throwing it in somebodies face or some other consequence we would never really perceive, not always but I find a lot of the time it is that and it might not be an effective gesture, it might be lost on whoever was "supposed" to see it
 

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Women get endless amount of attention in instagram from men and women that provide that feeling of security. It is a virtual IV bag.
 

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Women get endless amount of attention in instagram from men and women that provide that feeling of security. It is a virtual IV bag.
This is so real. Non instagram, but any "social" app in general.
"that feeling of security" of being socially accepted?
 

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Sure they do.
Just not from the men and women they want validation from.

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There's a huge difference between virtual likes and actual in-person validation.

This is why I don't care about women's 'following on IG'. It's like being rich with Monopoly money.

"There's a huge difference between virtual likes and actual in-person validation."
Yes, this is huge.

Btw, is there an "internal" validation system, instead of seeking the "external" one?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sure they do.
Just not from the men and women they want validation from.

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There's a huge difference between virtual likes and actual in-person validation.

This is why I don't care about women's 'following on IG'. It's like being rich with Monopoly money.
Nah, the exchange rate might not be 1 to 1 but virtual validation has some value.
 

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Sure they do.
Just not from the men and women they want validation from.

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There's a huge difference between virtual likes and actual in-person validation.

This is why I don't care about women's 'following on IG'. It's like being rich with Monopoly money.
Yup some of the most miserable women are on social media
You ever noticed how women always make post with their girlfriends or by themselves taking nice vacations but never with a man?
Sure there maybe a guy in the background taking her pictures but she is not claiming him or he's not claiming her!
I know one women who is pushing 40 and always takes a picture every day pouring herself a glass of wine
She has all types of wine bottles and brags about it (but knowing her IRL she is a drunk)
But she wants to have her "Trophy Husband" or "King" as she says herself
The problem is she is almost 40 hangs out with girls 25 at clubs getting drunk every weekend what 40 year old man would wanna wife that?
 
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