Understanding Depressed People

[TheVoyager]

Hi so I recently was introduced to this HB8.5 by her housemate who's a close home of mine. We have really engaging conversations and we've hungout a few times and each time, its always been a good time. She's a conservative christian so i know shes not down to just hookup, but heres the problem at hand. So according to my homie, this girl is like almost always so so so so sad. Like shes never happy with her life. Like she's always complaining about how terrible her life is. I know as you guys will probably say, her problems arent worth dealing with, but I wanna give it a shot anyways. How do you guys suggest I proceed?

 

[Tictac]

Realize that 8.5 looks isn't all there is to life.

So what if the wrapping paper and bow are pretty.

It's wrapping a turd.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Tread lightly.

She might be a great girl, who suffers from real depression, who can use help/support. However she could be a double life predator posing as a house pet. The majority of the double life women who are always chasing a thrill/high are depressed, and will openly tell people that. A lot of them swear up and down to be religious too. Make for sure you aren't dealing with that type.

Hopefully she's a nice sincere girl, but definitely be careful until you know for sure.

 

[Meisterman]

What is your end goal here? To just help her out as a friend? To stop making her sad? To date her? A long-term relationship? Just hook up with her? These things are important in how you want to present yourself accordingly. For example, if you want to be her lover but are stuck in the friend zone in her mind, you probably won't ever get to by just sticking around.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

I smell white knight ? She is depressed she must go to doctor, you arent pro you will end up as emotional tampon to be discarded after use.You are silly even thinking about it, it will drain you emotionally.

She is suppose to suck you dry and its not your job to make Haaaaaapppy.Keep her depressed it will make her weak and emotionally dependent on you because
as soon you make her haaaaaaaapy and undepressed your princess will dump you and will find someone better.

 

[Skyline]

I smell white knight ? She is depressed she must go to doctor, you arent pro you will end up as emotional tampon to be discarded after use.You are silly even thinking about it, it will drain you emotionally.

She is suppose to suck you dry and its not your job to make Haaaaaapppy.Keep her depressed it will make her weak and emotionally dependent on you because
as soon you make her haaaaaaaapy and undepressed your princess will dump you and will find someone better.

You can't help someone who does not want to be saved.

Regardless of being 'attractive,' I consider consistent depression a sign of low quality. You either take advantage of her or leave, that's how it is. Have some standards by the way bro.

 

[logicallefty]

I'm sorry you have met my ex. These women are trouble. I learned the hard way. They will blow your mind in the sack. And it times be really fun to be around. But that's where it stops. They will tell you about how all of their men from the past has wronged them and none of it is their fault. If you do nice crap for them they will tell you how great you are and that no man has ever been so good to them. But their appreciation will be very short lived and they will go back to their normal whoa is me selves. As time goes on it will get worse. Until you realize that nothing you do is good enough and all they do is take take take and sack you dry mentally physically and financially. When you stop doing things for them then they will start calling you mentally abusive and controlling . And they'll even flip in that your mental abuse is worse than if you were physically abusive. And they will tell the world what a jerk you are and that you've never done anything for them ever . Having learned the hard way these women are so much trouble that I wouldn't even have a one night stand with one . They are not worth it . You say this woman is a conservative Christian. If you want to really have some fun with her mind quote some of the Bible verses on how women are supposed to behave and how women are supposed to treat men. And ask her why she isn't like that. You want to see her really fly off the handle . She will tell you that those Bible verses don't mean what they say. All the ones about women submitting to their man keeping their mouths shut in church and all that. Bottom line I'd rather jack off to porn the rest of my life than ever have to deal with a woman like this again . Run man run . Faster faster run faster .

 

[BrainDamage92]

Dont mess with people who seem more unhappy than you are. I speak from experience, just dont, they drag you down in their depression.

A persons happiness does not lie in anyone else but himself.

 

[miketan70]

If you care then talk to her as much as possible. Make sure she starts trusting you. Then ask her about her life and problems. Maybe she needs someone like you who will not judge her yet talk to her and help her feel better.