goodganji44
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After I went no contact on my oneitis, I have been receiving strange text messages and phone calls from unknown numbers. When I try replying back to these text messages, of course I get no response. My gut instinct is telling me that it's one of my best friend's since childhood who I ran into a couple years back and caught oneitis for hard.
It's worth of note that I point out the reasons as to why I went NC, the timing of it, my response when she finally contacted me, and my inquiry on the psychological effects that it had on my oneitis.
- Me and this chick had an extremely strong emotional connection. Both sides of the family were encouraging us to finally get together because of our chemistry. I wanted it to happen too, but she wouldn't do what needed to be done for us to be together. She didn't want to be in a relationship at the time and she wanted to wait about 5 years before marriage(basically riding the carousel) I got friendzoned hard, part of this was AFC mistakes I made, but towards the end I got extremely aggressive with the flirting and the kino. I wanted this chick and I let it be known, but by then it was too late
- Once I realized what was going on, I absorbed the pain that I felt of being rejected and slowly started to detach myself away from her and plan my exit strategy. In an attempt to numb the pain that she was giving me, I relentlessly starting spinning the sht out of plates. I went out 4-5 nights a week, building supply to try to fck my way out of the pain that I let her cause onto me.
- Due to the amount of plate spinning I was doing at the time, these women started to flirt with me on FB, so I started flirting back lol. Ignoring my oneitis in the process. I figured since she's not trying to give me none, why should I focus my attention on her and I got these HB7 and 8's competing for me? Gradually I stopped calling/texting and answering her calls. Even blatantly telling her I was out with other women when she asked what I was up to. She could tell me about her guy stories all day, but when it was time for me to share my girl stories, she didn't want to hear it.
- Due to my detachment and silent NC, she performed an act in front of my family and my friends of which I deemed disrespectful. She did this is an ploy to get my attention because I wasn't paying her none. After the event occurred, I still remained silent. Processing internally if it made more sense to just go ghost, or to speak my mind before I do it. All I knew was that my pride was not going to allow me to just take it on the chin like a chump.
After two days, I chose the latter. She wanted my attention.... she got it
- I sent her an email calling her out on all the BS that she had done in the past couple months, expressing how embarrassed I was that she would act like that towards my close friends and family. I said some very insulting, and hurtful words that I still don't take back to this day. She deserved every bit of the lashing I gave her. When I said what I said, it was with full intent of getting rid of her for good. Had I not done this, my gut feeling says the disrespect would have just got worse.
-After I initiated the NC, she sent me a half hearted apology that I never responded to. I called up all mutual friends that me and her had and notified them of the situation and they were respectful of my situation to delete her from facebook. I deleted all of her family members as well(even though they supported me on leaving her, which I thought was strange)
- I went completely ghost. I made absolutely no attempts in contacting her or anyone on her side of the family, I did not want to be reminded of any of the BS she put me through. I just wanted to live my life.
- About a year and a half later( coincidentally before her 31st birthday, she finally does contact me again. Apologizing about what happened and hoping that we could still be friends. I was friendly about the situation and told her no hard feelings, she's still my best friend and wished her the best. She added me back on facebook, I accepted and made it to where I don't see any of her status updates. To protect myself from any BS she might try to throw at me through FB.
- After some breadcrumbs and several I love you so much and I miss you(which I never said back) being thrown for a month or so, she finally admits that she wants to be more than friends. Me being fully aware of the fact that she's trying to cash her chips in after riding the carousel past her expiration date (30). Her exact words were, I think about you all the time and I dream about you every night when I go to sleep.(kinda creepy)
- I was non committal about her relationship proposal, I wanted to cut the crap on whether this was BS or not. So I ask her, let's get together and we can catch up. She replied that she was out of state taking care of daughter and that she would call me when she gets to town. Of course I never received that call. There's no need to waste my time chatting up a chick who's not even in my state, that time could be used elsewhere. At least I knew this was just her hail mary attempt at emotional validation. So I went back into NC.
After nearly two years to think about this, I wouldn't mind a friendly, cordial relationship with her. She made her mistakes and I made mine. However, the time apart made me realize that she is not equipped to be in a relationship with and she should have taken me when I was ripe for the picking(when I was AFC). At the most, we can be great friends with benefits but if it that doesn't happen, her loss. She's going to have to work for every bit of attention I give her going forward.
Back to the original point. I have been receiving strange calls and texts at my instincts are telling me it's her, but I have no way to be sure. Not really ready to change my number but if it gets worse I will. Is it very possible that she could be very nervous of calling me because of how I ended things?
IF YOU DONT READ ANYTHING FROM MY WALL OF TEXT READ THIS.....
The psychological power of No Contact on a woman is strong. I completely underestimated the effects of what No Contact can do to woman. The person who I had the biggest crush on since forever, now has that same crush on me....and I could care less.
If you really want to fck up a woman's head, use NC and use it to legitimately move on with your life. It's your strongest weapon in your arsenal as a man. Use it wisely, because it can make a woman become obsessed with you if you do it right. Stay detached, stay smart and if you do reconcile, always use a rubber. Don't get trapped.
It's worth of note that I point out the reasons as to why I went NC, the timing of it, my response when she finally contacted me, and my inquiry on the psychological effects that it had on my oneitis.
- Me and this chick had an extremely strong emotional connection. Both sides of the family were encouraging us to finally get together because of our chemistry. I wanted it to happen too, but she wouldn't do what needed to be done for us to be together. She didn't want to be in a relationship at the time and she wanted to wait about 5 years before marriage(basically riding the carousel) I got friendzoned hard, part of this was AFC mistakes I made, but towards the end I got extremely aggressive with the flirting and the kino. I wanted this chick and I let it be known, but by then it was too late
- Once I realized what was going on, I absorbed the pain that I felt of being rejected and slowly started to detach myself away from her and plan my exit strategy. In an attempt to numb the pain that she was giving me, I relentlessly starting spinning the sht out of plates. I went out 4-5 nights a week, building supply to try to fck my way out of the pain that I let her cause onto me.
- Due to the amount of plate spinning I was doing at the time, these women started to flirt with me on FB, so I started flirting back lol. Ignoring my oneitis in the process. I figured since she's not trying to give me none, why should I focus my attention on her and I got these HB7 and 8's competing for me? Gradually I stopped calling/texting and answering her calls. Even blatantly telling her I was out with other women when she asked what I was up to. She could tell me about her guy stories all day, but when it was time for me to share my girl stories, she didn't want to hear it.
- Due to my detachment and silent NC, she performed an act in front of my family and my friends of which I deemed disrespectful. She did this is an ploy to get my attention because I wasn't paying her none. After the event occurred, I still remained silent. Processing internally if it made more sense to just go ghost, or to speak my mind before I do it. All I knew was that my pride was not going to allow me to just take it on the chin like a chump.
After two days, I chose the latter. She wanted my attention.... she got it
- I sent her an email calling her out on all the BS that she had done in the past couple months, expressing how embarrassed I was that she would act like that towards my close friends and family. I said some very insulting, and hurtful words that I still don't take back to this day. She deserved every bit of the lashing I gave her. When I said what I said, it was with full intent of getting rid of her for good. Had I not done this, my gut feeling says the disrespect would have just got worse.
-After I initiated the NC, she sent me a half hearted apology that I never responded to. I called up all mutual friends that me and her had and notified them of the situation and they were respectful of my situation to delete her from facebook. I deleted all of her family members as well(even though they supported me on leaving her, which I thought was strange)
- I went completely ghost. I made absolutely no attempts in contacting her or anyone on her side of the family, I did not want to be reminded of any of the BS she put me through. I just wanted to live my life.
- About a year and a half later( coincidentally before her 31st birthday, she finally does contact me again. Apologizing about what happened and hoping that we could still be friends. I was friendly about the situation and told her no hard feelings, she's still my best friend and wished her the best. She added me back on facebook, I accepted and made it to where I don't see any of her status updates. To protect myself from any BS she might try to throw at me through FB.
- After some breadcrumbs and several I love you so much and I miss you(which I never said back) being thrown for a month or so, she finally admits that she wants to be more than friends. Me being fully aware of the fact that she's trying to cash her chips in after riding the carousel past her expiration date (30). Her exact words were, I think about you all the time and I dream about you every night when I go to sleep.(kinda creepy)
- I was non committal about her relationship proposal, I wanted to cut the crap on whether this was BS or not. So I ask her, let's get together and we can catch up. She replied that she was out of state taking care of daughter and that she would call me when she gets to town. Of course I never received that call. There's no need to waste my time chatting up a chick who's not even in my state, that time could be used elsewhere. At least I knew this was just her hail mary attempt at emotional validation. So I went back into NC.
After nearly two years to think about this, I wouldn't mind a friendly, cordial relationship with her. She made her mistakes and I made mine. However, the time apart made me realize that she is not equipped to be in a relationship with and she should have taken me when I was ripe for the picking(when I was AFC). At the most, we can be great friends with benefits but if it that doesn't happen, her loss. She's going to have to work for every bit of attention I give her going forward.
Back to the original point. I have been receiving strange calls and texts at my instincts are telling me it's her, but I have no way to be sure. Not really ready to change my number but if it gets worse I will. Is it very possible that she could be very nervous of calling me because of how I ended things?
IF YOU DONT READ ANYTHING FROM MY WALL OF TEXT READ THIS.....
The psychological power of No Contact on a woman is strong. I completely underestimated the effects of what No Contact can do to woman. The person who I had the biggest crush on since forever, now has that same crush on me....and I could care less.
If you really want to fck up a woman's head, use NC and use it to legitimately move on with your life. It's your strongest weapon in your arsenal as a man. Use it wisely, because it can make a woman become obsessed with you if you do it right. Stay detached, stay smart and if you do reconcile, always use a rubber. Don't get trapped.
